OKAY...

[AKA2D '91]

since you all want to talk about relationships and THANGS...lol

Who do you feel take break-ups the hardest, MEN OR WOMEN? Tell us about it!

(I saw this on another site. Thought I'd bring it up in here for discussion...There, it said that MEN take break-ups harder than WOMEN. That statement, by a man, kind of surprised me.)

[This message has been edited by AKA2D '91 (edited May 01, 2001).]

[112Soul]

I think it depends on the situation and what exactly happened to lead to the break up in the first place.

IMPO women have shown affects of relationship on the outside but I think men think about it more on the inside. That is because women are more likely to said "that... did me wrong" to another girl as where I think men tend to have more flashbacks and try to surpress those memories.

112

[Professor]

Personally speaking, I agree! Women are emotional and their pain may actually be apparent to others. Men tend to internalize their emotions but may suffer just as much as women over the break-up of a relationship. Hell, one time I thought I was going to loose my mind.

Originally posted by 112Soul:
I think it depends on the situation and what exactly happened to lead to the break up in the first place.

IMPO women have shown affects of relationship on the outside but I think men think about it more on the inside. That is because women are more likely to said "that... did me wrong" to another girl as where I think men tend to have more flashbacks and try to surpress those memories.

112

[The Original Ape]

I agree with 112Soul. It depends on what happened.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Professor:
Hell, one time I thought I was going to loose my mind.

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

I was thinking the SAME THING!!

Professor, DO TELL

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
Who do you feel take break-ups the hardest, MEN OR WOMEN? Tell us about it!

Both sexes take skerious love affair breakups the hardest. If it wasn't serious, then a break up isn't hard to do...

Both sexes handle a break up in different ways. Women usually cry, whine and groan for days, weeks, months and sometimes years over a lost love, analyzing and reanalysing with professional help and medication as to why they were so easily cast aside.

On the other hand, men might cry, whine a little bit. But sometimes they can become violent and stalk a woman... Although, I've know some "fatal attractions", but when a man is caught "harassing" a woman, if the police are called, he will be arrested, booked, bail set, and sentanced to either undergo counseling and community service or imprisoned... The Law don't play anymore with domestic violence issues...

But I think both sexes endure hard breakups because we allow ourselves to. If our recruitment strategies were better, summa us wouldn't be so hurt... In fact we might be glad the MF (B) walked out on us!!!

[exquizit]

I feel that men take the break ups pretty hard. I have several male cousins and friends that go nuts on the inside when break-ups happen.

Sometimes it's because pride makes them feel like they're the ones who should Do the breaking up..

Other times it's because they really care for the woman and it was really hard to accept the feelings, and eventually to have it all fall apart was just too much.

[jazbri]

Originally posted by PrettyKitty:
I think it's true that men take break ups harder than women. I have seen it for my own eyes. The sad thing is that men tend to feel bitter and take it out on the next woman and that's sad...

Dag...

Sounds like we've dated the same type of guy!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by PrettyKitty:
I think it's true that men take break ups harder than women. I have seen it for my own eyes. The sad thing is that men tend to feel bitter and take it out on the next woman and that's sad...

wtf???

Oh; this is something that only men do?


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[PrettyKitty]

I think it's true that men take break ups harder than women. I have seen it for my own eyes. The sad thing is that men tend to feel bitter and take it out on the next woman and that's sad...


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[Professor]

It is so difficult to find someone that you are compatible with - especially after you reach a certain age bracket. The thought of no longer having a person in ones life can be overwhelming. In past relationships I must admit I have been to the point where I could not sleep, eat or even remain focused for long periods of time. Those of us that love and love deeply fear loosing security and dislike the fact that we have to get back out there and start over - again! As a man, I grow tired of being hooked up by friends. They want to set me up with their sister, soror, aunt, etc. Normally, if I do decide to meet the lady, she may look ok but have baggage or display other characteristics I dislike. By then, I've spent my money taking out an individual I have no attraction for and at some point have to say, "I don't want to see you again" or just never call the woman again. Hell, I'm getting old and want someone in my life but I won't accept just any sister. She's got to have herself together. Damn, I'm talking about something else. Umm, yea, I have felt lost after a break up, even like I have lost my mind.

[jazbri]

Originally posted by The Original Ape:
wtf???

Oh; this is something that only men do?


[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited May 03, 2001).]

Nah, O-Ape,

It's not just men. I think that exclusive of gender we all drag our bags from relationship to relationship.

I think the problems begin when you decide to sit in the middle of the floor and start unpacking that bag like you makin a home. At that point, you look to that new person to put on the shyt you pull out the bag. Another thing you might do when you pull all that stuff out is to wrap yourself in it and refuse to take it off.

Obviously being a female, I can only speak on the men I've dated and have found this pattern in a lot of them.

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[dirtymike1906]

AKA2D: Take it from someone who was recently there--men take it harder. For one, they don't have the same support systems in place. Men don't confide in other men about personal problems--it just ain't cool. When we meet up for drinks, the talk is about money and sports. Women, on the other hand, can talk to other women about anything and are not looked upon as being less than a woman in doing so. Additionally, from adolescence, men are taught to be competitive, that drive and determination will always produce victory. Being left by a woman produces a sense a defeat.

[PrettyKitty]

Originally posted by The Original Ape:
wtf???

Oh; this is something that only men do?


[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited May 03, 2001).]

Nope, never said that...there are some females that do too...but from my exp. I have seen more females take a time out after a relationship to pick up the pieces than I have males. It takes a mature person whether male or female to take time to evaluate what happened and learn from their past exp. and not bring baggage on to a new relationship.

Thanks for responding in my absence jaZbri

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