Help! Please evalutate this situation!

smr78 · #1 10-31-2002, 03:45 AM

this past weekend I shacked @ theta chi w/ this guy I was kinda together w/ at the end of last year. He is kinda sketchy and has never been good at communicating~and I let him know that wasnt cool. ANyways, that night he promised to be "more vocal" and that "things would get better between us" blah blah and was really cute-although Im sure he was drunk. When I left the next morning he explained he had a lot of homework but that he would try and leave me an instant message later. That was sunday-he did IM me yesterday, wednesday, but only to ask me some stupid question about Ireland then he had to go to class. I am just wondering-should I be completely freaked out that he hasnt called? Have I gotten totally played? or could he just be oblivious/busy?! please help! Thanks!

Kevin · #2 10-31-2002, 12:21 PM

Doesn't sound like you have enough information there to at least give ME a good feeling for the situation. There are other "professionals" on here that may be able to lend you their services

Lady Pi Phi · #3 10-31-2002, 12:46 PM

When a guy says he call and then doesn't he's a lying sack of S*** and not worth your time, and he doesn't have the balls to be honest with you...

Okay I'm sorry, I am in the very same situation, and I'm a little pissed off right now...

ktsnake is right, you haven't really given enough information to help you out. He could have totally played you, or he could be oblivious/busy, it's really too hard to say. But I would find him, and talk to him about what's going on. That's they only way you'll find out, or at least get a better idea of what's going on.

librasoul22 · #4 10-31-2002, 12:57 PM

Why do chicks freak out over these things?? I swear, there are way more important things to freak out about then whether some guy has or has not called you back.

smr78, stop worrying about whether he's gonna call and just move on to the next guy. That way if he does call, you are cool and if he doesn't you are cool...see?

Also, women if you really are worried about this, stop being so daggone traditional and get a guy's number every once in a while. Then let him sweat wondering why you haven't called HIM.

"Oh, you want my number? How about if I take yours instead."

Hootie · #5 10-31-2002, 12:58 PM

Yeah, no offense but it sounded like all he wanted was a booty call! If he hasn't called or persued you, then what makes you think he'll change?!?

Go for bigger and better fish and leave this one to the sharks!

Imthechamp · #6 10-31-2002, 04:37 PM

Haha you bonehead, I'm sure this is just one of many guys who will play your ass.

I can't believe you fell for the "Let's make things work" line!

smr78 · #7 10-31-2002, 09:32 PM

ok, so apparently I was a dumbass to "fall for a line" but we were friends first and maybe I'm naive but I didnt think he would have the balls to bullshit me. So basically the overall consensus is I am dealing with a typical frat dick and should move on? Or is 4 days really that long for a guy to not call someone?

AlphaSigLana · #8 10-31-2002, 11:20 PM

I have gotten plenty of advice before about guys on this forum-- I'll repeat what they have said
STart doing something for you self, stop sitting in your ass waiting for him to call. Make him want you, for some weird reason guys like girls that other guys like, so put your self out there--just don't put out. Get involved in activities. I wish I could get back all the time I'd wait by the phone for a guy to call and I was willing to drop anything for a guy that didn't even last and didn't have any goals.
I'm sorry that you got hurt though!!!

sororitygirl2 · #9 10-31-2002, 11:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by smr78
So basically the overall consensus is I am dealing with a typical frat dick and should move on? Or is 4 days really that long for a guy to not call someone?

First of all, I don't think four days is really that long. Sometimes people get busy. However, if something is REALLY important, you usually don't put it off. So, take it for what you want... Maybe you were the booty call, maybe he is interested... you just have to wait and see, and if you don't want to wait, then don't obsess over it.

Oh, and I don't think I would classify him as a "frat dick." He's just a boy... boys will be boys!

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 10-31-2002, 11:33 PM

A guy sometimes says the very things that a girl needs to hear in order to get what he really wants.

That might be the case here.

Imthechamp · #11 10-31-2002, 11:36 PM

Do you really think a guy would do something so mean?

kddani · #12 11-01-2002, 07:49 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Imthechamp
Do you really think a guy would do something so mean?

If they're anything like you...... yeah.