When did you realize...

MoxieGrrl · #1 08-02-2003, 09:56 AM

Have you ever had times or experiences that made you realize that you were too old for things or have outgrown people in your life?

I was thinking about this because of two experiences I had yesterday:

1. I called my best friend since 7th grade yesterday to talk about my wedding (she's a bridesmaid). It was almost like we had nothing to say to each other. It's been building up to this for a while. I went to college; she didn't. I have a good job; she doesn't. Mr. Mox & I are functional; her and her man, not so much. She lives with her parents in our hometown; I moved to a new city and am trying to forge my new life. It's almost like we cannot meet on a common ground anymore. When we actually have conversations, we reminisce about the past but cannot find anything current things to forge ahead in our relationship with. It makes me sad.

2. I was at the mall yesterday (something I don't do very often) and went into the stores I usually check out (American Eagle, Gadzooks being two of them) and felt like, "Oh Lordie. I am the oldest person in this store!" Seriously, I was practically playing tug-of-war with a 14 year old in Gadzooks over a tank top and felt like screaming, "Give it up! I actually have money to spend, hootch!" If I'm wearing the same clothes as someone born after the movie Cocktail came out, then I need to find new places to shop.

smiley21 · #2 08-02-2003, 10:29 AM

i remember a couple of months ago, when was hanging out with an old friend of mine. she's a few months older than me but i cant believe it. she may be married, but she doesnt take it to seriously. when i was hanging out with her, she was still acting like we were in high school. she will not grow up. you know what she said to me after she got married? 'i can now have sex without feeling guilty!' that may be true, but can you look for for the other good things about marriage? she also dropped out of college after one semester. now she has a job as a waitress. she also dresses like she is a punk goddess gone wrong.
i havent talk to her since may and i dont really miss her. sounds mean but there is no point for us to hang out anymore.

mmcat · #3 08-02-2003, 10:36 AM

two words...justin timberlake.
yuck!

bethany1982 · #4 08-02-2003, 12:50 PM

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Originally posted by mmcat
two words...justin timberlake.
yuck!

LOL!

steelepike · #5 08-02-2003, 01:18 PM

what I will never be too old to play in the MCdonald's playplace

DeltaSigStan · #6 08-02-2003, 01:42 PM

1) I went to the same school from 4-12th grade, so after graduation, it didn't sink in until my first day at SDSU that I'd never be walking through the halls of SCPA ever again. It was kind of surreal, considering I had done the same routine on the first day of school for 9 yrs.

2) I'll be honest: When I was first rushing to a greek, the first thought in my head was "I wanna go back to HS to show everyone my letters and show them how well I've done. It took me a while to realize that they probably wouldn't have given a rat's ass.

3) We have a county fair called the Del Mar Fair. I went every years since I was 7 except this one. When it got to this summer, I realized the only people my age who go to the fair bring their significant others. Not having one, I kinda just got over it.

pinkyphimu · #7 08-02-2003, 02:01 PM

ooh, i definately agree!!

my first semester of college, i went to visit another friend on another campus...and realized that these friends were sooooo not my friends. we had gone to a party and i had been hit in the face with a bottle. i ended up going to the hospital and had a broken nose. the next day, we were going to a football game. i agreed to go, but i really wanted to go home after the game. they said, "we'll see." i was soooo pissed off. i didn't talk to anyone at the game. we got back to my friend's dorm and i called my parents and asked them to come and get me. lol...i was about 4 hours away! they said they would come, but i should check a bus schedule first. anyway, these people all knew what i was doing and never once said, ok, she really wants to go home, we better go! nope...they wanted to stay and WATCH PORNOS!!! needless to say, i took a cab to the bus station and took the bus to my parents house! my dad picked me up at 3 AM and i NEVER EVER EVER spoke to any of those people again.

more recently, i have no interest in going to clubs. honestly, i don't want to pay $15 to get in some where that i can't even talk to the people i went with bc it is soooo loud. and drinks are ridiculously expensive....even water!!! so, i might be an "old" lady, but i would rather spend time with my friends!!

Jadey28 · #8 08-02-2003, 06:20 PM

I used to be a HUGE fan of going out on College Night with all my friends..............

and then I turned 21! I soon realized that there were people using fake-id's to be 18 so they could enter the club! No wonder all my older friends never wanted to go dancing with us on Thursday night! Somehow, I was totally blind to the 16 and 17 year olds at the clubs with us!

IheartMATT806 · #9 08-02-2003, 06:30 PM

I remember going to the beach all the time just to drive around..have fun with the girls and meet guys. After comming back from my first year of college, a couple of my friends that I wasnt really as close with since I left for college all went to the beach. I had no fun at all...it was too busy to have fun. The cars were not as cool to look at anymore and the boys were as lame I had seen while away to college! Thats when i KNEW I had changed so much my friends were no fun and neither was what we were doing....IM TOO OLD FOR THIS SHIT!!

OUlioness01 · #10 08-02-2003, 07:12 PM

i went to college and after a quarter, after i rushed (unfortunately in my opinion), I realized that i didn't care what other people thought of me anymore. i figured the only good opinions i needed about me were from myself. this was a really novel concept to me but i'm so glad that i realized it when i did....although i wish i had figured that out sooner.

also sometime this past year i realized that i really prefered curling up with a good book to going out and partying all night at times. that really helped my gpa too actually; and when i did go out i had more fun with sipping the same drink the whole night than going through 6 or 7 in a couple hours

veemers · #11 08-02-2003, 09:36 PM

I think this summer was a lot of what everybody else has been describing. The main way you can see it is in all the new clothes I've been buying. Instead of buying baggy jeans and GUSTER tees or whatnot, I'm buying skirts and blouses...it's like I could go out there and be a teacher already, just based on my wardrobe.

Also all those times when I make a decision and then think to myself, "Wait, that was the *responsible* thing to do!" (For example, I was going to take on a job at KFC, and then decided not to because I realized that I needed to have enough time for classes.)

Drat this whole growing up thing!!!

juniorgrrl · #12 08-03-2003, 02:54 AM

I had a very good friend in HS, who graduated a year ahead of me. We were always kind of different, but when she went to college in Pittsburgh and I stayed in Louisiana, we grew apart a lot.

Her first year we kept in close touch, but she got more and more involved in animal rights groups and didn't have time for our friendship anymore. We rarely ever talk anymore. She sent me an engagement present and I emailed her a thank you note and she never responded.

I had a hard time deciding whether or not to ask her to be a bridesmaid, but decided not to. I'd feel a bit odd having a Wiccan stand in a Catholic ceremony. Plus, she and I just aren't that close anymore.

I also notice that I'm too old for things when I go shopping. I'd love to just not give a rat's ass about what anyone thinks about what I wear, but I've got to be at a certain level of conservatism due to my profession. But I refuse to give up my Hello Kitty tshirts

That's my holdout.

AchtungBaby80 · #13 08-03-2003, 12:57 PM

It always hits me how far I've come since I went away to college every time I'm home and I see people I knew in high school that stayed in our hometown. For example, last year I was at Court Day and I ran into two of my old friends. One of them dropped out of college after the first semester, and the other had two kids trailing after her. We tried to talk, but it was obvious we didn't really have anything in common anymore.

Then, a couple nights ago at the fair, I saw some girls I hadn't seen since graduation. They were dressed like they were going to a club and one had her hair bleached blonde, and they were trying to chat up these guys I wouldn't have touched with a thirty-foot pole now that I've seen what else is out there. I thought it was kinda sad...here my best friend and I were walking along talking about grad school, and these other girls were still doing the same thing they did in high school.

And then, here's the kicker...I recently found out that one of my good friends from home had a baby with the, ahem, gentleman (I use the term loosely) she ran away with after graduation. This guy is almost 50 and doesn't work, and she gave up a nice scholarship to a really sweet private school to go and live with him. I see her in Wal-Mart occasionally, but we never speak because I guess there's just nothing to say.

PhiDeltAlum · #14 08-03-2003, 01:25 PM

I was thinking about this the other day. I recently met up with my friend from Jr. High a couple weeks ago and we were talking about our old classmates. When I was in Jr. High I had this very niave way of thinking that everyone would turn out alright and that everyone would become successful. It's this innocent but false belief you have as a kid that everything would turn out fine and that all roads would lead to home, but it doesn't always turn out that way.

Several of my classmates from Jr. High never even went to college, others dropped out, several have kids, and one of them died from bulimia. My friend and I are considered a success story compared to the others.

Yeah, being grown up is great but realizing you're not a kid anymore is kind of like a numbing feeling.

AllisonDG · #15 08-03-2003, 01:38 PM

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Originally posted by Jadey28
I used to be a HUGE fan of going out on College Night with all my friends..............

and then I turned 21! I soon realized that there were people using fake-id's to be 18 so they could enter the club! No wonder all my older friends never wanted to go dancing with us on Thursday night! Somehow, I was totally blind to the 16 and 17 year olds at the clubs with us!

Haha! I totally agree with that one! I remember how awesome "college night" was when I was a freshman. Now everyone just looks so young! Makes me feel old...