devastation

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #1 06-23-2001, 03:19 PM

I am so worried about RUSH. i know i will be SO SO SO SO devastated if i don't get into a sorority. and you all know what i mean, not just any sorority but the one i really love and think i fit well w/ and all. Anyways, are any of you close w/ girls who rushed and really wanted it, but didnt get a bid?? how did they react??? how do they feel about it now?? ex: are they happier? bitter? still tryin to make it?? sorry for all the questions but im just curious. ive got this

sinking

feeling i just won't cut it. oh well, i think im just in one of those wierd moods. thanks

Liz

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Greek_Girl · #2 06-23-2001, 04:02 PM

I know exactly how you are feeling!!! I am in the process of filling out my application, and I'm thinking things like "what if I'm not good enough?, what if the sorority I really like doesn't offer me a bid?" I'm getting so nervous and worried!! I know I should just go on if I don't get a bid from my top choice, but....oh well I don't even know what to say except for the fact that I know what you are going through!!

KillarneyRose · #3 06-23-2001, 04:07 PM

Hi Liz! I sent you an e mail

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BrianMUDU · #4 06-23-2001, 04:13 PM

Well, I'm a guy so I'm not in a sorority, but I think it applies to everyone. I didn't get a bid from the fraternity I originally wanted to be a part of, but then I realized I was there for the wrong reasons. A friend of mine who was a DU had me come by their house during Spring rush and that's where it all started -- everything happens for a reason, keep that in mind! I'm glad that I am a DU and am THANKFUL I didn't get that bid from the other chapter. They did me a big favor whether or not I thought of it that way at the time.

Brian

#5 06-23-2001, 04:36 PM

I know several girls who didn't get into any house at UA and turned out just fine. And I know a LOT of girls who didn't get into their top choice, but realized later that they ended up in what turned out to be the best house for them. My advice about UA rush is relax and don't take it so seriously. I'm sure you will be fine. And it is VERY hard to get into a "bad" house at UA. Even if you don't get into your top choice. There are just too many good houses there.

KayDeeCareBear · #6 06-23-2001, 04:50 PM

Heya.

CRMSNTiDEGRL, I went through formal rush and I actually didn't make it, when I went through my first time. I was tense and nervous, but going through formal helped me meet all the sororities, and find out what one was most like me. I remained friends with a lot of the KD's, and a year later, and after rushing informally, I am a sister in Kappa Delta! I'd say go through formal, and is you get into one, GREAT!

If not, then you've already met all the girls, you know what they're like. You can always rush the sorority you like informally later.

carnation · #7 06-23-2001, 05:05 PM

Hi--

Many, many on this board didn't get our first choice or dropped out the first time because we didn't like our returns. I don't believe that anyone felt like it was character-building at the time...however,
we're all happy now!

The summer before I rushed the second time, I was a basket case because of nervousness and because my camp counseling job ended a full month before rush started. My parents made me go volunteer and stay busy otherwise and I'm glad. If you have 1 job, work extra or get a second one! Volunteer! Do anything you can to keep your mind off rush!

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #8 06-23-2001, 08:26 PM

thanks everyone

i'm just worried and anxious. i think i will be until after rush

then atleast i'll know where i stand!

SLOTheta · #9 06-23-2001, 08:34 PM

Dear CRMSNTiDEGRL717:
Don't worry, I thought I wanted AChiO, and when it didn't work out during their informal rush, I came back for Fall Formal, and knew then I that fate had lead me to Theta. Now, after being active, and knowing all the houses, there was no other house on this campus that could fit me as well as Theta. Things happen for a reason.

My best friend convinced me to come back to Fall rush after the disappointment in informal, it is wasn't for her, I would have never gone back. She wanted AOPi above all others, and set her sights, she ended up being cross dropped, and didn't get a house. Theta wasn't the kick butt house, like the others 'seemed' to be, so she didn't even try, and got dropped...she ended up with nothing. I felt really bad getting a bid from all the houses that I wanted, but I also tried hard at every house to speak to as many girls and hold good conversations. You have to be yourself, you have to showcase yourself. If you don't get into your #1 house, any house you will a small group of friends that you click with. In now way can you ever be friends with all 100 girls, you are lucky if you find 30 girls you are very good friends with...

Don't worry, good luck!

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*Kappa Alpha Theta*
*Zeta Theta Chapter*

juniorgrrl · #10 06-24-2001, 01:15 AM

I've posted on my situation before, but I'll give a condensed version here:

I transferred to LSU in the Spring of Freshman year, when there was no formal (or informal) rush. I rushed formally in the fall, and was cut from 8 of the 10 houses after round I. I was cut from my top choice of the 2 for pref, and I just dropped out from rush. A friend had me go to an informal for her house in the spring of that year and was told they had to cut me because I had been cut by them before. Last summer, I started regretting dropping rush, so I decided to go through again as a junior (hence the nick, juniorgrrl

). Because of the cut once, cut always rule, I was cut from 9 of the 10 houses after round 1. The house I was invited back to cut me after round 2 (despite having a friend in there who I know was pushing hard to get me in). This spring, the same house I rushed informally the year before called me back. They bugged the hell outa me for a week, making sure I'd come to their party and then never called me back.

Am I worse off for not being greek? No. Am I bitter? A bit. Does it screw with your self-esteem? Somewhat. I still see girls and go "Wow, she's an XYZ?!?!" and wonder what they have that I didn't.

My choices are exhausted for joining a NPC group as an undergrad @ LSU. I've been cut from all 10 houses and therefore, they couldn't take me, even if they wanted to

But hey, I still think I'm cool

KillarneyRose · #11 06-24-2001, 01:51 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by juniorgrrl:
But hey, I still think I'm cool

I think you're cool too, Aimee

Haven't seen many posts from you lately; nice to see you again!

Tracy

AlphaXiGirl · #12 06-24-2001, 08:55 AM

Great post worriedsenior... with that attitude, you guys will do great.

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #13 06-24-2001, 01:10 PM

juniorgrrl--- i'm glad to see you've risen above what has happened to you. it sux that things work like that

and i think you're cool too!!

thanks for sharing your experience w/ me(us)

worriedsenior---- i agree, that was a really great post, and very inspiring

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ilovemyglo · #14 06-24-2001, 08:06 PM

One of my sisters went to three prefs... KD, AGD and AOPi. She wanted KD so bad she could taste it but for whatever reason wrote KD first and then AGD second and didn't put a third choice. She didn't get KD. She was so hurt, and her Rho Chi, who was a KD told her that she should go to the bid day for AGD even though she said she didn't want the bid. Her rho chi told her that things happen for a reason and at least give it a try. She did, and now, three and a half years later she is a rho chi for next fall. She says that she wouldn't want to be anything but an AGD now, because that is where her home and heart is.
One of the women we got last year suicided Phi Mu and didn't make it. She came to our bid day party with her roommate and now she says she wouldn't be paid to be anything but AGD. I know sometimes you think you were cut for no reason and it hurts to be rejected, but everything does happen for a reason.. someone up above looks out for you to help you home.

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orchid2 · #15 06-24-2001, 11:38 PM

Have you guys summed up the anxiety and fears I've been having for months...or what?

It's really cool to know that there are all these awesome GC folks to give advice and to inspire. I look forward sharing my rush story with all of you in two months!

I really and truly hope that I'll be able to call some of you "sister" before long. And if I don't make the cut, then I'll try again at informal!

K, now I get sappy.

I think part of my anxiety stems from high school...see, there were four high school sororities, or "juniorette clubs," and they all chose who THEY wanted. For four years I hoped and prayed that one of the clubs would come to my house on "rush day", as they called it, but it never happened. There was absolutely no type of formal recruitment...hence we did not even have a chance to "try out" (as rush in college kind of allows us to do). I went through all four years, very involved in extracurricular activities and immersed in my academics. I had friends who were in the clubs and friends who weren't. Nothing hurt worse than having a friend in a club who raved to me about "Bon Voyage" (annual "sisterhood retreat" to the beach), Greek Week, or how much fun she had at Christmas Ball (an exclusive formal)...or even having to sit behind a girl in class who was in one of the clubs, and having to look at all her club shirts from initiation and all the above mentioned. It was like a pit in the bottom of my stomach, wondering what these girls had that I didn't. I was never able to figure out why I was never asked into a club, and to this day I still don't know.

I think that might be one of the prime reasons why Rush is so important to me. I am determined to find a sisterhood to be a part of these next four years. I want to be a part of a support network of fun, joy, laughter, and even tears. This is why more than half my posts have been about recs, how to get them, the right way to ask, etc., because they are so important in the South! I know that if I am dropped from all the houses I will be really upset...BUT at least there is COB and informal rush to keep hope alive!

LOL....still alive out there?