okay, this might get confusing, so bear with me...
I hang out with this girl (we'll call her Sue) who is a really good friend of one of my friends. She doesn't seem to have any girl friends and totally latched on to me. Though she's nice and pretty cool, she can be pretentious, overbearing, and lacking in sense of humor. I think this comes from being insecure and needy. Her mom is a Phi Mu and wants Sue to join a sorority because she sees that Sue can't make and keep friends. That said, she asked me about structured recruitment one night and I told her briefly what she can expect from it, empasizing that she'll find where she belongs and can be happy.
She must have selective hearing or something, because she thought that meant that because she knows me and some of my sisters from hanging out with us, that she's automatically going to get a bid from us. Honestly, and this may sound totally shallow, but I don't think our chapter is the place for her. Most of my sisters who met her don't like her, but are always nice to her. I keep reminding her "you've only met some of my sisters. Keep an open mind and see where you belong."
Sue is ADAMATE about being an AGD. She works with our VP recruitment, and one day asked her, in front of a large group of people, how her chances were for getting in. Needless to say, that put our VPR in a very uncomfortable situation! She said the same thing I keep saying, to go through structured, and she'll find her place, whether it be AGD or not. Sue took it the wrong way, and called me that night saying that VPR basically guaranteed her a bid!
What do I do or say? I don't know how to talk her out of this mindset. I care about her and know chapters on our campus where someone like Sue would fit in perfectly, but she doen't get it. Short of beating her with a stick and screaming in a megaphone "YOU DON'T BELONG!! YOU DON'T BELONG!!", What else can I say? Sorry this is so long. If you guys made it this far, i applaud you
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