very pissed off right now

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

I'm really confused as to what you are asking here.

I was just wondering how a girl who follows every rule to the tee be considered ineligible with no reason Behind it.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

QFP.
It don't know what happened, but I can tell you this -- unless someone on GC works in the greek life office of your school, they don't know either. I'm sorry things didn't work out.
If you would've gotten a bid if there were no mix-up, then COBing should be a piece of cake, right?

[Titchou]

How do you know that missing a day is OK? Is that in writing somewhere? And did you let them know you had class and would not be there?

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

You do not know what the sororities thought. You only know that you were deemed "ineligible." The only people who can tell you why is your GREEK LIFE OFFICE.

We don't know, we're not psychics. And neither are you. There's no grand conspiracy theory here to lie to you and then drop you, then tell all the Greeks on the internet.


Or is there.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12

I have the terrible feeling that you misunderstood your info sheet, and that your panhellenic did a bad job explaining the way recruitment works. What they probably meant was that you could attend up to 8 sororities out of 12 during that round of recruitment - you would attend all parties. It does not mean that it's optional for you to attend only some of the parties you are invited to, or that you can spread your party count across days - NPC policy is that you attend all parties you are invited to for each round. Some schools will drop you from recruitment if you skip parties, whereas at other schools those sororities whose parties you miss will usually just drop you because they didn't get to know you as well as the other PNMs.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I have the terrible feeling that you misunderstood your info sheet, and that your panhellenic did a bad job explaining the way recruitment works. What they probably meant was that you could attend up to 8 sororities out of 12 during that round of recruitment - you would attend all parties. It does not mean that it's optional for you to attend only some of the parties you are invited to, or that you can spread your party count across days - NPC policy is that you attend all parties you are invited to for each round. Some schools will drop you from recruitment if you skip parties, whereas at other schools those sororities whose parties you miss will usually just drop you because they didn't get to know you as well as the other PNMs.

This sounds like the most plausible explanation yet. You can't just "pick" a day of parties to miss, if you were invited to parties on that day.

mynamegoes - did you have a Rho Chi, Rho Gamma or something else helping you? (I'm guessing/hoping not.)

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

I have the terrible feeling that you misunderstood your info sheet, and that your panhellenic did a bad job explaining the way recruitment works. What they probably meant was that you could attend up to 8 sororities out of 12 during that round of recruitment - you would attend all parties. It does not mean that it's optional for you to attend only some of the parties you are invited to, or that you can spread your party count across days - NPC policy is that you attend all parties you are invited to for each round. Some schools will drop you from recruitment if you skip parties, whereas at other schools those sororities whose parties you miss will usually just drop you because they didn't get to know you as well as the other PNMs.

This. Did you tell the Greek Life office that you had a class during recruitment BEFORE you skipped parties? Attending every party that you are invited to is part of the process. If you miss a party, you are dropped from recruitment.

The sheet specifically stated that to be eligible a PNM must attend 8 out 12 parties. Also I did notify The Greek Life Officer prior to the beginning out recruitment that I had i class that I would not be able to miss. She said I was fine. I spoke with the Rho Chis and they said I would be ok. that's just where I was confused. Also I go to a small not so competitive school if that helps. I tried a few times after this happened to go to the Greek life coordinator but she keeps blowing me off and saying you can COB. I was willing to prove I attended the parties. Honestly, I would have rather been cut knowing no one wanted me rather than knowing there are people who could of wanted to invite me but couldn't because of this mistake

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

Is this informal recruitment? What are the rules, exactly? Can you share - word for word - that the info states regarding the process of attending 8 out of 12 parties? It seems to me like you're misreading something.

Something's amiss.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

Then I think you need to make an appointment to discuss your situation with the director you "always spoke with and who said it was fine." No one here can help you.

i dont mean to offend anyone I just am venting. I just felt that to randomly be dubbed ineligible out of no where with no explanation is strange.

[AZTheta]

OP - are you paying attention to what responses you are being given? We are not meanies and we are trying to provide you with some constructive directions.

Please go speak to the Office of Greek Life. Your explanation will come from there, specific to your situation and your school.

Without knowing your school and seeing all the paperwork that you're referring to, it is difficult (impossible) to be any more specific. And we are going on the limited information/explanation you've offered.

If you are at a school with NPC sororities, you weren't "randomly dubbed ineligible", I can assure you.