Morbid Question

Special1920 · #1 10-06-2001, 08:11 PM

Have you thought about your Homegoing? Do you want a happy or sad service? Lots of flowers or no flowers. Crying or laughing?
Enemies there or not there? Buried or cremated? I asked because my Aunt planned her's.

stillwater15 · #2 10-06-2001, 10:19 PM

good questions...

i have always stated that i don't want any crying at my homecoming. if anything, i should be crying for everyone else who hasn't gone home w/me. the way i look at it, i'll have found eternal happiness.

friends and foes are welcome to come. hey, they talk about me now, give them one more opportunity. i want plenty of gospel music and at least one reggae song. i don't care for flowers now and don't really want them at that time.

also, i want to be cremated and have my ashes strewn over the blue mountains in jamaica. from my insurance policies, my mom will get just about everything, but i've also left something for delta sigma theta sorority, inc.

Finer Woman10-A-91 · #3 10-15-2001, 11:33 AM

I think it is purrfectly healthy to discuss the otherside of life. Like Stillwater, I don't want any crying and lamenting mourners acting out! As a matter of fact there better be a serious party happening. I too wish to be cremated. All of my "good parts" can be donated. I don't need them anymore. All of my closest friends know the deal. I want a production...a band, the whole nine yards...maybe a festival of sorts...jugglers, face painting...all of that stuff that makes you smile. My remains can be strewn across the ocean or mixed with the earth to start a garden somewhere in PA and NYC.

lil_sunshine · #4 10-24-2001, 05:41 PM

I think about this sometimes too. My friend told me that when she passed, she wanted me to wear white to celebrate her life. This is what I'd want for my homegoing:

I want a service where there's some crying, but more rememberance than anything. I want all of my family members to wear white. Not all white, but just mostly white. I definitely want to be buried. I don't want any flowers at the service, but I do want them at the burial. I want my family to be able to visit my grave to talk to me. I don't really have any enemies, but I think if my ex and his baby's mama wanted to attend, I wouldn't want them to come. Their very presence upsets me. Just like I wouldn't want either one of them to attend my wedding. I had dreams about that and it really makes me mad.