wedding party

purpleskies · #1 03-06-2009, 12:13 AM

I am thinking about who I would like in my wedding party, and the problem is I don't have any girlfriends i am close enough to ask, and my family is all male(except my aunt/mom)- do i just ask someone on my fiancees family or ask a male in my family?

Munchkin03 · #2 03-06-2009, 10:14 AM

Before you start fantasizing about your wedding party, perhaps you and your fiance (it's with one e, not two) should have that talk about finances...

AGDee · #3 03-06-2009, 11:21 AM

You may make a friend or two in the next three years, you never know! I'd worry about it in a few years, seriously.

KSUViolet06 · #4 03-06-2009, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Before you start fantasizing about your wedding party, perhaps you and your fiance (it's with one e, not two) should have that talk about finances...

LOL.

Seriously.

I'd focus on the important stuff.

SWTXBelle · #5 03-06-2009, 07:36 PM

Isn't that why you join a sorority? To have bridesmaids?

KSUViolet06 · #6 03-06-2009, 08:31 PM

Not really trying to be a Debbie Downer, but in her original post, she mentioned something about being engaged and and having financial concerns:

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Originally Posted by purpleskies

I have been engaged for a few months, am currently in university, and am unsure how long i am going to stay in school. my fiancee wants to get married in 3 years, only problem is money (right now, haven't got my career figured out, and my fiance does not have any money saved yet. so i was wondering, do you think it is a mistake to be engaged if you have doubts about finances. i was at the time, a little surprised that he proposed, but i do love him a lot and said yes. i am hoping if i stay engaged, that finances will change in a few years, and how would you approach discussing with your partner about saving money/paying off debts.

If you're seriously doubting someone's finances I would *think* that a couple would want to figure out suff like this before they made anymore concrete plans.

KSig RC · #7 03-06-2009, 09:54 PM

This is kind of a bitchy thread.

KSigkid · #8 03-06-2009, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by KSig RC

This is kind of a bitchy thread.

Welcome to the Datings and Relationships forum.

Munchkin03 · #9 03-07-2009, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by lilsunshine214

You're discussing a different thread. She's thinking about who she wants standing beside her. I've been engaged for nearly 3 years and was worried about the same things when I first got engaged. This is the fun, and oftentimes, less stressful part. You make it sound like just because a completely different thread she discussed money concerns, of course it has to be at the forefront of her mind at all times. Well, sorry, it obviously isn't for our lil buddy.

Well, she's only made three posts---two about how she and her fiance need to have a finances talk because she's nervous about how they're going to make it, and this one about the wedding party. Since I was in a similar situation and chose not to get engaged, perhaps I see the WTF? situation a little more acutely than others. I know I used things like wedding party and time of year to get my mind off of the fact that my ex was a dud.

She plans on being engaged for at least 3 years...chances are, her friendships will change in that time. If I had gotten married just out of graduate school (as I had intended), the people in my wedding party would be COMPLETELY different from those I would have stand up for me now.