In need of advice from older, wiser people!

[Honey77484]

I have a crush on one of my best friends. He was like, my first guy friend and I spent all of last year dating HIS friends and complaining about them and he was always so nice and understanding and always knew how to make me feel better. Occasionally my other friends would tell me, "You know, I think Alex has a 'lil crush on you." But I'd just like dismiss it, because I don't know, it just seemed to preposterous at the time. I really didn't think it was true. I wasn't TRYING to be cruel by dating his friends!!

Anyway, around May, I had some trouble with my boyfriend, a lot of BS about him and my friend Stacy which turned out to be partially true but ANYWAYS, Alex started dating some freshman from a different school in like February. I finally broke up with the Jerk and suddenly realized how much I liked Alex.

How stupid, huh? I feel like such a prick for only appreciating him after he wasn't available. How stupid and TYPICAL. Anyways he's been dating that idiotic freshmen for six months and I'm terrified that he'll stay with her until we graduate from high school! I'm not even sure if he has feelings for me anymore. I must have hurt him last year I feel so guilty. I know we'd be so happy together and it'd be different because we're already friends and comfortable with each other and it would be so perfect. Anyways, if you have any advice or even just want to yell at me to get over him cause I wasted my chance, I probably need to hear it. Hahaha thanks for reading my absurdly long post

[damasa]

lol...older automatically = wiser? I've heard that so so many times, and many times it has been so so not true. I don't understand how ppl can think that just because you are older, you are wiser. Maybe more experienced in some matters, maybe
more adapted to a certain part of life..but never wiser just because older.

[Honey77484]

Oh, thank you tverde! That's what I needed to hear. I mean, I can't just barge in there and break them up. Not that I'd even succeed if I tried. And I care about him so much I'd never want to risk him being mad at me. So yeah, I guess I'll just stick it out and wait for...something. I guess fate. I know we'd be perfect together, and if its meant to happen, it will. Thank you!!

In any of those three times that this happened to you, did you end up with your friend? It wasn't the SAME friend was it?? Ahahaha that would be one interesting relationship!

[DeltAlum]

Of course older = wiser!

Look at fine wines. As the age, the get so much better.

Or they turn to vinegar.

Oooops!

[ladybug1116]

Well I'm actually going through a similar situation right now with one of my best guy friends. The thing is...we have both discussed the situation and we are in mutual "like" right now. We are too chicken to actually do anything about it b/c we are afraid of ruining the friendship. It's a really interesting situation. Our friends think we are dating b/c when he comes back to town (I'm still in school and I graduate in December) we are virtually inseparable. Who knows what might happen. My best advice is to hang in there....and have fun in the mean time