Leaving Fraternity

[seersuckers]

Hey, how do I officially leave a fraternity? I am a member of Lambda Chi Alpha. What is their policy?

Originally Posted by seersuckers

Hey, how do I officially leave a fraternity? I am a member of Lambda Chi Alpha. What is their policy?

You should post this in the Lambda Chi Alpha forum and ask them over there.

GammaZeta knows everything.

[EE-BO]

I see 3 possibilities here,

1. If you want to quit and have no interest or care in how that departure is handled- just quit and tell an officer in your chapter.

2. If you want your name officially removed from the rolls, or if you are leaving for a hardship reason (financial, leaving school etc.) and would like to not go out in disgrace- do like OTW said and post your story in the LXA forum where you can get some advice. All fraternities have specific policies dealing with these issues, and you need to talk to an LXA to get advice on this.

3. If you are wanting to leave LXA so you can pledge somewhere else, you are out of luck. Once you are initiated into an IFC fraternity, you may not pledge another- regardless of whether you have been removed from the rolls of your previous fraternity.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by EE-BO

3. If you are wanting to leave LXA so you can pledge somewhere else, you are out of luck. Once you are initiated into an IFC fraternity, you may not pledge another- regardless of whether you have been removed from the rolls of your previous fraternity.

I don't think this is true, though I could be wrong.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

I don't think this is true, though I could be wrong.

NIC bylaws say that members can initiate somebody if they are officially separated from their prior fraternity, with a signed letter from the national office. however there are fraternities that will not allow somebody who has been intiated somewhere else to pledge. Also most nationals don't allow an offical seperation because you are told that it is an lifetime commitment.

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

NIC bylaws say that members can initiate somebody if they are officially separated from their prior fraternity, with a signed letter from the national office. however there are fraternities that will not allow somebody who has been intiated somewhere else to pledge. Also most nationals don't allow an offical seperation because you are told that it is an lifetime commitment.

It's been often said by members of fraternities here that even though someone's got that paper saying he's not a member of the original fraternity anymore doesn't mean the new fraternity chapter will want to consider him.

[Psi U MC Vito]

I'm just saying that it is technically possible. Honestly if somebody came to my chapter and I knew he had crossed somewhere else I would send him packing. I mean if he left one, whats to keep him from leaving mine.

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

I'm just saying that it is technically possible. Honestly if somebody came to my chapter and I knew he had crossed somewhere else I would send him packing. I mean if he left one, whats to keep him from leaving mine.

I know Psi U, I was agreeing with you.

Just because it's technically possible doesn't mean anything.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by OTW

You should post this in the Lambda Chi Alpha forum and ask them over there.

GammaZeta knows everything.

LOL.

He really shouldn't have to post this on GC at all. If he doesn't have info that only members should have, he atleast has Google which can get him to the website and the organization's contact info.

[LaneSig]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

LOL.

He really shouldn't have to post this on GC at all. If he doesn't have info that only members should have, he atleast has Google which can get him to the website and the organization's contact info.

Co-sign. I never understand why people come on here to ask for this type of information. Why not ask your chapter or your inter/national hq? They know the specific information for your fraternity.

[33girl]

Maybe he wants to feel out the situation before actually bringing it up to his brothers and decide whether or not leaving is something he really wants to do.

And there's also the possibility he's leaving because his chapter is so full of lunkheads they barely know the name of the Vice President of the US, let alone what their fraternity policies are.

[Tinia2]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

Co-sign. I never understand why people come on here to ask for this type of information. Why not ask your chapter or your inter/national HQ? They know the specific information for your fraternity.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

LOL.

He really shouldn't have to post this on GC at all. If he doesn't have info that only members should have, he at least has Google which can get him to the website and the organization's contact info.

I would agree with above as well. All Greek organizations more than likely have their own set of rules, procedures and protocols for this matter or situation. Best to go right to the source for information and directly asking them. And if poster is just having problems with the Chapter, asking HQ for information and help would also seem to be the best bet.

[EE-BO]

In defense of the OP- I do not know about other fraternities, but we do not post this kind of policy information on our website. I would be shocked if any fraternity did quite frankly- this is member selection (or in this case "de-selection") policy.

If the OP is not currently comfortable talking with members of his own chapter about his potential departure, then it would be quite logical to come here and ask what to do. A good idea? No. He would be better off contacting his IHQ directly- info that is easily available. Then again, if it is not a certain decision yet, maybe he does not want to risk his IHQ contacting the chapter to ask why he might leave etc...

OTW- well said and thanks for the clarification. I was not aware that there is policy on the books allowing for people to de-brother and pledge elsewhere. I just know that as a matter of practice it is not done.

I would speculate the IFC does have the provision referenced by Psi U MC Vito in place to cover situations where an entire chapter leaves its own national organization and reinitiates with another- though even that expansion approach seems to be getting rarer.

[LaneSig]

[QUOTE=EE-BO;1700235]In defense of the OP- I do not know about other fraternities, but we do not post this kind of policy information on our website. I would be shocked if any fraternity did quite frankly- this is member selection (or in this case "de-selection") policy.[/QUOTE]

If the fraternities don't want the information posted on their websites, then they definately don't want it posted on GC by random members. I would not post specific, membership-oriented info about Sigma Chi on here and would lose a lot of respect for someone who posted private membership info for their fraternity.

I understand that the OP might want to feel out the information before he approaches his fraternity. My point is that I don't understand why someone would ask specific points about their fraternity to a bunch of random strangers on a message board who are not members of their fraternity.

[seersuckers]

I was going to post the reasons behind my intentions; however, after reading the responses, I do not think that it would be a good idea. A member of the LXA has messaged me, so I will talk with him. Thank you all for your input.