Wealth.

[Natgia]

Did this thought cross any of your minds going into rush?
It crosses my mind an awful lot when I think about rushing this fall.
I'm in no way upperclass.
My mom owns a hair salon and my dad is a sheriff.
And I'm going to a large southern school.

It makes me not want to rush, it's sort of an intimidating factor.

[carnation]

I don't think that the actual issue of wealth is discussed in most cases. The members at large schools have such a short time to choose a certain number of girls...seems like "wealth" would be a really random item to bring up. Most sororities have a few major criteria, such as "Would she fit in here? Do we like her a lot? Will she make us proud that she's wearing our letters? Will she achieve for us?"

They'll want to know that you can pay for your sorority dues and items, of course, especially at schools with big houses, but your rush booklet should list average costs and you should make sure you can handle them.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by Natgia

Did this thought cross any of your minds going into rush?
It crosses my mind an awful lot when I think about rushing this fall.
I'm in no way upperclass.
My mom owns a hair salon and my dad is a sheriff.
And I'm going to a large southern school.

It makes me not want to rush, it's sort of an intimidating factor.

Like carnation said, money is not something that is normal to be brought up in conversation. In fact, most sorority chapters discourage their members from bringing up the 4 B's: Boys, Bank, Bible, Booze.

As long as you can pay your dues/fees, then they don't need to know anything else.

If you are going to A&M which you mentioned in another post, I personally wouldn't worry about it. Yea, there will be lots of students who are obviously banking, but there are people there across all $ spectrums too.

[KSUViolet06]

I think sororities are more concerned with whether you can afford dues and less with what your parents actually do for a living.

[Natgia]

Haha, thanks.
I guess I was kind of stereotyping, but thanks y'all sort of put me at ease.

I mean, I can pay my dues with no problem, it's just my dads not a CEO thing that worried me.

=]

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by Natgia

Haha, thanks.
I guess I was kind of stereotyping, but thanks y'all sort of put me at ease.

I mean, I can pay my dues with no problem, it's just my dads not a CEO thing that worried me.

=]

Where did you get the idea that one's father need be a CEO in order for you to go through recruitment?

[KSUViolet06]

While I am certain that there are some wealthy girls rushing at some of the larger southern schools, it's impossible for ALL of their dads to be comapny CEOs (what are the odds that 800-1000 young women's parents are all incedibly wealthy?).

[Natgia]

I wasn't being serious.
It was just an example of how I was stereotyping.

Originally Posted by icelandelf

Where did you get the idea that one's father need be a CEO in order for you to go through recruitment?

[FSUZeta]

most people are not going to care that your dad is a sheriff and you mom owns a hair salon. i am sure you are proud of your parents-your dad is in law enforcement and helps keep his community safe and your mom is a business owner-not a lot of women can boast that they own their own business!

most of the girls you meet are going to care more about the things that were written in the previous posts. just be yourself, put your best foot forward-keep an open mind, don't listen to "tent talk" or believe the stereotypes and you should be alright. good luck!

[ZTA zetahunny]

I am going to try to say this with out being taken the wrong way. I had a fantastic rush...I loved every minute of it. I was poor, and somehow overcame it without even trying. I didn't even realize how poor I was which might have helped. The thing about it is that money doesn't define class. Good manners and good judgement do. So what if girls flash around in BMWs! Just think how life is going to be for them after graduation. If they are going to be measured, they should be measured by their own success not by the success of their parents. I have been very fortunate. My daughter was able to live a life that I never even knew existed at her age, and she goes out of her way to not show it. She drives a beat up Volvo with a dent in the side and the brakes squeek so loudly that it's a joke. I can't stand looking at it, but she won't let me even get the dent repaired. She is in a fantastic sorority and no one would ever know how she lives when she is not at the University. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are. Study hard, volunteer, get a great job and remember that the success you have may not even me measured in dollars. Don't ever be ashamed of where you came from.

[Just interested]

Sage advice from all of the posts. If you are going to A&M, you are an Aggie 1st and that that will be good enough for them. Don't get me wrong, it is a competative rush and you WILL NEED references but UT and A&M recruitments are so different. (Don't compare them) Many of the PNMs are from very small towns and do very well in recruitment. Some chapters focus on members but big cities but all of them have small town girls. Stay open to all your options and get those references.

[LadyLonghorn]

I'm confused. I thought you already rushed in January. At least that's what your previous posts said.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

I'm confused. I thought you already rushed in January. At least that's what your previous posts said.

Maybe she didn't receive a bid?

[Natgia]

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn

I'm confused. I thought you already rushed in January. At least that's what your previous posts said.

I never ended up doing spring rush.
I dropped out on the 2nd day because I decided to wait until formal recruitment.
Not all the sororities did spring rush, so I wanted to give all a chance.

[Katmandu]

Your mom helps people look and feel beautiful and confident, and your dad helps people feel and be safe and secure. Trust me, you are rich in everything that matters.

Have a wonderful time during recruitment!