What to do about lovesickness?

DeltaBetaBaby · #1 08-11-2001, 12:02 AM

Ah...I am so sad. I met a guy Wednesday night, and he was so wonderful. He was into me too, but there was no exchange of numbers. I think I could probably get his contact info, but I do not want to be a stalker. So how do I get over it???

P.S. The weird part is that he told me that a tarot card reader told him he would meet the girl he was going to marry in August, but he wouldn't realize it until much, much later.

AlphaSigLana · #2 08-11-2001, 05:54 PM

Why do guys always imagine to screw up things like that(LOL)- Miami1839 is the only guy I know who would actually get the digits. I'm still getting over my ex- I drunk dialed him last night- I miss him so and everyone says he doesnt' deserve me, but it is so hard to say goodbye so I can't help you to get over your guy!

James · #3 08-11-2001, 08:59 PM

Why get over love sickness if you don't have to? If you can find his digits call him, you are not a stalker (as a girl) until you start boiling bunnies on his stove (movie: fatal attraction reference).

Call him . . . I hate missed opportunites . . they suck

The tarot card reading was a GREAT line by the way . . . gotta write that one down

AlphaSigLana, us guys will always do something corny like not get the digits . . . or get the digits and flake out and not call

DeltaBetaBaby · #4 08-12-2001, 02:55 AM

Okay, so I made up my mind that I am going to e-mail him. I think that I have nothing to lose because I am not going to see him again if I don't.

In other drama, I got back to campus today, and just ran into my ex at the bar. When we were doing our lap to see who was there, a guy at his table said hi to me, and I said hi and kept walking. I am so proud of myself for not saying hello to the ex.

I used to do the "I am the bigger person, I can say hi" thing last semester, but I noticed that he never says hello to me unless I talk to him first. So now I am too good for him. Yay me.

Where are all the nice boys who know how to ask for digits, call when they get them, and not be shady? Please tell me.

KSig RC · #5 08-12-2001, 08:56 PM

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby:
Where are all the nice boys who know how to ask for digits, call when they get them, and not be shady? Please tell me.

We're chillin with our asshole friends, who are the ones being shady and not calling you back. I know, it's a weak system - but let's face it, the jerk-ass friends are the most fun and the funniest, and watching them 'move in' is usually more than worth the price of admission.

Also - feel free to get my number when i get yours, and call me. Sometimes, there's just stuff going on, then all the sudden it's two weeks later and it makes it weird to call. Guys can be big pansies as well, not that we'll admit it . . .

Anyway - i'd say email the guy, nothing to lose and he'll dig it.

AlphaSigLana · #6 08-13-2001, 12:01 AM

Remeber that nice guys think that girls don't like nice guys?! They are in hiding until us females make it known that we really do like nice guys. We have to stop dating losers.

James · #7 08-28-2001, 03:44 PM

Anything new to report DeltaBetaBaby?

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby
Ah...I am so sad. I met a guy Wednesday night, and he was so wonderful. He was into me too, but there was no exchange of numbers. I think I could probably get his contact info, but I do not want to be a stalker. So how do I get over it???

P.S. The weird part is that he told me that a tarot card reader told him he would meet the girl he was going to marry in August, but he wouldn't realize it until much, much later.

amycat412 · #8 08-28-2001, 04:00 PM

CALL HIM.

I met a guy in Dewey Beach, Delaware last month--same scenario-- but-- his friend was a friend of a friend of mine-- SO, once back in LA, (He lives in Washington DC) I called his friend, who I'd met as well, got his #, took a deep breath and called him, all the while feeling SO NERVOUS--what if he didn't want to hear from me--but knowing it was an opportunity I couldn't let go by.

So I called.

And...

"I"M SO HAPPY YOU CALLED ME, I HATED THE IDEA THAT I'D NEVER SEE YOU AGAIN."

Since then we've talked a few times, emailed a lot, and he is making plans to come to LA for a few days in October, and I am going back to DC for a few days in November.

So make the call--- you never know-- and better to do everything you can and walk away knowing you tried then always wonder about an opportunity missed.

Amy

damasa · #9 08-28-2001, 07:06 PM

CALL THE GUY!!! Being a guy, let me tell you...nothing makes a guy feel better than a girl that he met the other night (and didn't get her #) calls him or emails him from out of the blue. It's sweet, and most guys I know, including myself, like it.

d

amycat412 · #10 08-28-2001, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by damasa
CALL THE GUY!!! Being a guy, let me tell you...nothing makes a guy feel better than a girl that he met the other night (and didn't get her #) calls him or emails him from out of the blue. It's sweet, and most guys I know, including myself, like it.

d

SO GLAD TO HEAR YOU SAY THAT!!!

damasa · #11 08-28-2001, 07:12 PM

Sure thing..and it's so true to, because when you get home your like "AHHHHHH I can't believe I didn't get her number." Then, some day down the road, she gets in touch with you...it's the greatest.

CutiePie2000 · #12 09-17-2001, 03:50 PM

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby
think I could probably get his contact info, but I do not want to be a stalker.

Phone or email him once and once only (that is hardly being a stalker).
I personally prefer the email method, as (in my experience), men don't like being caught off guard with the telephone. Email is better, he can get back to you when he is psyched up for it.

If you email him, make it short, sweet and (above all) brief:
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Dear _____,
I enjoyed seeing you on such and such night.

If you wanted to get together next week, my numbers are:
(xxx) xxx-xxxx [home]
(xxx) xxx-xxxx [work]

Delta Baby.
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That's it. No more. Don't write paragraphs and paragraphs.
Do not email or call him again afterwards.

And don't write more...you don't want this to turn into an email back and forth that never actually materializes in a face to face meeting, you want him to PHONE you to set something up.

Also only give 2 phone numbers (yes, even though some people have 4: work, home, cell, pager) but only give 2 in your email to him (assuming that you go the email route to contact him). You don't want to come across as too accommodating and desperate for him to call you. So only give 2 (could be cell or work, home or work, something like that).

Give it a week and then if he does not respond, as hard as it is, you must be strong and move on. (If he doesn't respond, who knows, he could be dating someone already, maybe someone in his family has an illness, you can't know, but at least you will have given it a shot.).

Good luck and tell us what happens.

James · #13 09-17-2001, 11:09 PM

Cutiepie2000,

Did you see the movie Two can play that Game?

Your post could have come from it

I swear women are so much more sophisticated and tactically aware than men when it comes to dating . . .LOL

How will we men ever have a chance?

CutiePie2000 · #14 09-18-2001, 01:56 AM

But now I want to see that movie...
you have made me so curious....

I will have to go and see it!!

Yep, men have it tough, because women have something else:
SPIDEY SENSE!!

SparkliiQTMTSU · #15 09-18-2001, 03:58 AM

I know how you feel!! I have have had this happen to me also. I felt that if I asked around, got his number, and called him that he would think I was stalking him.

But in fact I finally got up the nerve to say forget it I have to do something!! So I called him and when I did he told me that he was actually trying to get my number!! It was great. So best of luck with you emailing him!! Hope everything works out!

Nichole