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10-19-2008, 01:34 PM
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Concerned Pledge
I am a pledge and we are fairly far into the pledge process. Initiation is only a few weeks away. I have fallen behind in my studies and my parents are a little concerned and want to me to drop my pledgeship. What is the best way to do this? How should I approach the fraternity and tell them that I must drop my pledgeship?
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10-19-2008, 02:53 PM
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Well, if you are only a few weeks away the damage is already done to your studies. In business that's called a "sunk cost"...even if you depledge you will still be behind. After you are initiated you will have less responsibility and can manage your academics AND gain the benefits of fraternity life. I'd honestly stay stick with it...if you depledge you will have wasted all your studies for nothing and it certainly won't suddenly make you up to speed in your classes.
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10-19-2008, 07:35 PM
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Originally Posted by APhiAnna
Well, if you are only a few weeks away the damage is already done to your studies. In business that's called a "sunk cost"...even if you depledge you will still be behind. After you are initiated you will have less responsibility and can manage your academics AND gain the benefits of fraternity life. I'd honestly stay stick with it...if you depledge you will have wasted all your studies for nothing and it certainly won't suddenly make you up to speed in your classes.
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Ditto. Your pledge period is a busy time. Honestly, being Greek can have academic benefits (which vary by organization / chapter but can include things like study hours and scholarships!).
Discuss your concerns with your Pledge Educator. It is likely that he or another brother had similar worries at some point.
Also, are you a freshman? Maybe some of this is more related to adjusting to college than adjusting to fraternity life.
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10-19-2008, 09:15 PM
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yes, i am a freshman. I feel that it is taking a decent amount of my time and am wondering how I can address my concerns and potential depledging with my organization.
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10-19-2008, 09:22 PM
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Originally Posted by johnc
yes, i am a freshman. I feel that it is taking a decent amount of my time and am wondering how I can address my concerns and potential depledging with my organization.
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Your grammar is hideous.
I get the feeling the fraternity didn't hurt you academically.
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10-19-2008, 10:20 PM
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Originally Posted by johnc
yes, i am a freshman. I feel that it is taking a decent amount of my time and am wondering how I can address my concerns and potential depledging with my organization.
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Your grammar is hideous.
I get the feeling the fraternity didn't hurt you academically.
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He didn't capitalize in the first sentence, which is a spelling error. However, there are not any grammar mistakes *in what you quoted.* A person can use gerunds and compound verbs and still write correctly.
More importantly, there is no reason for you to be so rude.
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10-19-2008, 10:24 PM
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Originally Posted by APhiAnna
Well, if you are only a few weeks away the damage is already done to your studies. In business that's called a "sunk cost"...even if you depledge you will still be behind. After you are initiated you will have less responsibility and can manage your academics AND gain the benefits of fraternity life. I'd honestly stay stick with it...if you depledge you will have wasted all your studies for nothing and it certainly won't suddenly make you up to speed in your classes.
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Perhaps it's different for others but once I was initiated and became an active member I had MORE to do, not less. You might want to look at what the actives are required to do, what excuses you are allowed to submit, etc...
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10-19-2008, 10:27 PM
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Perhaps it's different for others but once I was initiated and became an active member I had MORE to do, not less. You might want to look at what the actives are required to do, what excuses you are allowed to submit, etc...
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It's a fraternity. He's not required to do anything, he can be socially active and pay dues, never go to chapter, and do every social event they have. Pledging is way more work unless you want to be an officer.
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10-19-2008, 10:30 PM
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Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel
It's a fraternity. He's not required to do anything, he can be socially active and pay dues, never go to chapter, and do every social event they have. Pledging is way more work unless you want to be an officer.
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that is not true, I know my chapter requires attendace in chapter meetings or you get fined, a good GPA to be able to vote, and 15 hours of community service each semester
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10-19-2008, 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel
It's a fraternity. He's not required to do anything, he can be socially active and pay dues, never go to chapter, and do every social event they have. Pledging is way more work unless you want to be an officer.
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interesting to note. All I know is my boyfriend does A LOT with his fraternity but they are still in the process of chartering so I'm not sure if that's a very good example.
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10-19-2008, 11:57 PM
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Does your fraternity require you go to the library and study? You should probably miss some of the non-required social events in order to study and get back up. This is really blunt but if you flunk out of college you're of no use to the fraternity.
Since you're so close to initiation you should talk to your pledge educator and explain your situation and what is required of actives (though you should have a good grasp of what the actives do by now).
If you realize you can't handle classes and just being an active brother maybe you should depledge. Your grades should come first.
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10-20-2008, 01:39 PM
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Originally Posted by lucgreek
Does your fraternity require you go to the library and study? You should probably miss some of the non-required social events in order to study and get back up. This is really blunt but if you flunk out of college you're of no use to the fraternity.
Since you're so close to initiation you should talk to your pledge educator and explain your situation and what is required of actives (though you should have a good grasp of what the actives do by now).
If you realize you can't handle classes and just being an active brother maybe you should depledge. Your grades should come first.
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How should I go about informing the brothers and my pledge class of my decision to depledge?
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10-20-2008, 01:49 PM
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How should I go about informing the brothers and my pledge class of my decision to depledge?
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Have you talked to your pledge trainer? He's the one you should be speaking to about your concerns or your depledging.
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10-20-2008, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by LaneSig
Have you talked to your pledge trainer? He's the one you should be speaking to about your concerns or your depledging.
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He didn't listen 
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow
Talk to your pledge/new member educator about this.
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