So what exactly are we...

Liv4ChiO · #1 09-18-2001, 11:37 AM

How do you guys "define" your relationships with your SO's? Is it just understood, the transition from just seeing each other to an exclusive relationship? Do you sit down, have the "talk"? Or do you just never know, and assume the two of you are on the same track?

AlphaChiGirl · #2 09-18-2001, 12:33 PM

We had a "talk"...it was probably needed 'cause it's a long-distance thing. Maybe things are different when you're both in the same place? Of course, it all depends on the physicality of said relationship.

Salience · #3 09-18-2001, 01:49 PM

used to LOVE having The Talk with my SOs at each stage, but after the last fiasco, I'm through. Men say they want honesty, but when you speak with them candidly, they freak out. So, now I just wait for him to ask about our status.

Jeff OTMG · #4 09-19-2001, 09:19 AM

Nothing is understood. Never assume anything. The 'talks' are necessary. Without them I would never know what was going on.

Relationships go through a number of stages and without those talks in between someone may go to another level, whether up or down, leaving the behind.

#5 09-20-2001, 04:17 AM

Oddly enough, Brady and I never had the talk. It just sort of happened.

But then again, ours is also a long distance relationship every other two months. When he and I started dating, we were together for about oh...less than a week...and then he got deployed to the South Pacific. I remember thinking "hey, if things don't work out...then things don't work out...but if I can handle the separation, then I may actually be serious about this guy."

When he came home, it was a mutual understanding I didn't want to share him and he didn't want to share me.

But...

After a year and a half together we've had those bad moments. And then we realized that those talks were necessary. What JeffOTMG said is absolutely true! Those talks definitely helped my relationship grow.

James · #6 09-22-2001, 12:45 AM

You should always have a talk if only for your peace of mind. It will also help prevent those wierd little momentary lapses of reason that can destroy an embryonic relationship . . . like sleeping with another girl (often alcohol induced) and then saying," Well you and I weren't committed, (or) you didn't say you wanted to be exclusive".

AlphaChiGirl: Do Not assume that a relationship is exclusive with a guy, even if you have slept with him, without the talk. Us, men can be strange that way . . .

Don't flame me guys, I know I'm giving away secrets

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Originally posted by Jeff OTMG
Nothing is understood. Never assume anything. The 'talks' are necessary. Without them I would never know what was going on. Relationships go through a number of stages and without those talks in between someone may go to another level, whether up or down, leaving the behind.