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08-03-2001, 08:42 PM
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Sibling Relationships
First my question(s): Do you have siblings? Are they brothers or sisters and older or younger? And finally, how is your relationship with them?
I was reading another thread where 33girl made reference to an ex who got the crappy end of the stick when it came to the way his parents treated him and his sister. I find I have a very similar problem with my older brother.
I have always felt like my parents have been way easier on him than they have on me. Given him more, coddled (sp?!?) him more and basically gave him everything he wanted and more, whereas I had to work for the things I wanted.
And yet, I have friends who have the most amazing relationships with their siblings. One thing I have found is that, in general, my friends who are the closest with their siblings are usually girls who have an amazing relationship with their sisters.
How has it worked in your families?
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08-03-2001, 09:02 PM
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Alright...here goes Leslie!!!! Here's your reply!!! I do have siblings...I have a younger brother who recently turned 18. I also have 4 stepbrothers, 2 of which are older than me and 2 that are younger. My relationship with my biological younger brother is pretty good. I love him and everything but I think he's a little spoiled. My parents basically buy him anything and everything he wants. He gets away with MURDER!!!!! I guess my parents are just harder on me because I've always been their "star" child (not bragging on myself...just saying that I've always been an overachiever). My brother is a little immature for his age so they expect a lot more of me. My relationship with my stepbrothers is definitely different. We've always had a really strained relationship. I think it comes from me not liking my stepmom when she first married my dad. I get along with them much more now even though I'm still not cool with the second oldest...he's just a prick. Hope that answers all of your questions!!! Talk to you later girl!!
Allison
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08-03-2001, 11:57 PM
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Whoa! I had just been thinking about my current relationship with my brothers this past week. There are three of them, and I am the only girl. Growing up was all about protecting my Barbie's from my older brother who wanted to see what would happen if you launch Barbie on her pink motorbike down the stairs. (The rearview mirrors and bike basket breaks, and Barbie rebounds off the tile.) Of course, I tried to convince my younger brothers it would be cool to dress up in my old halloween costumes and look like a Care Bear or a cheerleader. That didn't go over very well but makes for great blackmail pictures now!
The dynamics are a little different now. I am super protective of my younger brothers even though they they manage fine on their own. One is almost 15, and the other is almost 19. The older one, 26, and I seem to just coexist with the same last name currently.
The younger two and I can pretty much chat about anything. Problems I am having in school, work events, and just random things. The older brother and I were close at one point, but just don't really talk anymore. It's sad, but sometimes I think if he and I weren't related, he and I probably wouldn't even be aquaintences. However, we all respect each other and know we all have each other's back. Lol...my youngest brother still tells his friends to not mess with me because I'll "beat them up!"
On a different note: I think the youngest one used to get away with EVERYTHING! The rest of us basically were expected to be the ideal children involved in every activity with good grades to provide great parental bragging rights. The youngest one though got a cd player for improved grades, rules bent all over the place for him, you name it: it happened. We complained all the time how unfair it was.  As the rest of us moved out, went to college, or whatever, things started to change though.
I do envy those who have such fantastic and close relationships with their entire family, but I know that I have learned from all. Besides, I don't think I turned out so bad.
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08-04-2001, 01:18 AM
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I have 2 sisters - one who is 17 and the other is 24 (i'm almost 20). I have a great relationship with my older sister - we hang out together and as we're getting older i think our relationship is growing stronger and deeper ( no more fighting over toys  ) My relationship with my younger sister is unexplainable - i love her to death. She is my best friend. We understand each other so well and get along so well that even my parents are scared of our relationship. when i left home for school last year i missed her terribly and we would talk everyday about anything and everything. now that she's a senior in HS i'm hoping that she chooses Iowa, but no matter what i know we'll stay close.
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08-04-2001, 10:13 AM
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I only have one brother who is 13. We are 7 years apart, but are really really close. Sure we have our times, but doesnt everybody? For instance, he is always trying to bug me by playfully hitting me. It doesnt hurt, he basically just touches my arm but its as if he was going to hit me. I know that didnt make sense but i dont know how else to put it. So anyway, that gets on my nerves sometimes and he wont stop so i have to yell "mom, can you tell him to stop please!!!!".  I know i sound like a 5 yr. old but its the only way. I have to admit that when im bored ill bug him as well too, but we do have a wonderful relationship and i love him very much. When he goes to spend the night at a friend's house, i get so bored because the house is so quiet.
Oh, this summer since he has been on summer vacation, everytime i come home for lunch he has the food all prepared and ready to eat. He tries to make it very professional looking as well.
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08-04-2001, 10:49 AM
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Let me re-inact a typical day with my brother and I as told by a good freind of both of ours:
I've figured it out, you guys love to fight(him imitating us now)
Nick: what do you what to eat, you %&%&
Stefan: Pizza, #$&@&%
Nick: I don't want that! you @#^$
Stefan: shutup ^%*# just, eat it!
...and so forth.
We argue continuously, but it's not a vindictive relationship, 5 minutes later we'll be sitting on the couch fine. When it all comes down to it, blood is thicker than water. I think it has a lot to do with being fraternal twins. Everyother set of fraternal twins i've met act the same way as we do.
My other sibling is my older sister by 2 years. I'm pretty close to her, more so than my brother. I can tolerate her mood swings at times when my brother and her would just bitch away at eachother.
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08-04-2001, 10:38 PM
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I have one brother. We're 2 years apart. Different months however(I was Feb and he was Sept) Both born on the 13th. We're very close. It can be a good and a bad thing at times I suppose. One time we rode with our parents across country back in the early 80s and we almost playfighted the whole way. ha ha. I dont really think of him as younger we're more equals than anything. He excelled in more of the hard sciences in school(VCU) and I excelled more in the Social Sciences and Government area. Hes married(2 years now). My sister in law (AGD), my brother and I spend a lot of time together when we're not at our jobs.
Kevin
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08-05-2001, 01:50 AM
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I'm an only child, but I lean more towards the oldest child persona. I was always responsible and an overachiever - after all if something went wrong, the only one to blame was me
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08-05-2001, 04:37 AM
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Quote:
Originally posted by juniorgrrl:
I'm an only child, but I lean more towards the oldest child persona. I was always responsible and an overachiever - after all if something went wrong, the only one to blame was me
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DITTO!! I hear ya juniorgrrl
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08-05-2001, 11:59 AM
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I'm an only child too - and I got *such* pressure from my parents to succeed - as in, "Is that a B on your report card?? You're grounded for the next month!!"  Plus, if anything in the house was broken, they knew exactly who to blame!
I don't want to have an only child myself ~ I'm planning to have two.
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08-05-2001, 02:15 PM
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Well im the middle child so I pretty much get away with everything, my parents are to focused on my little sister and older brother to worry much about what im up to. It always pisses them off that I get by so easily. My brother thinks I have it to easy but im not sure what he expects of me its not like I can work full time or something and my little sister thinks I get everything I want of course she’s the one who just got the brand new car (used but still new) and my parents bought her a condo (they call it an investment) up at Pen. I don’t know I just wish they would look at what my parents do for them before they start bitching about the little things I get.
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08-05-2001, 10:29 PM
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I have two older sisters. I was the youngest and DID get away with everything. The best part, I KNEW I was getting away with everything.
My oldest sister is 47 years old. Doesnt look it. We were never that close, because of our age difference. I mean, how is a 30 year old gonna kick it with a 10 year old? Kinda funny, because we'll go places, and people will think shes my mom, because we look alike. I tease her about that a lot. Shes nice, but was raised differently (boarding schools) and it messed her up BAD. Shes all about the failed relationships. We didnt get close till my father passed away when I was in high school. That was wierd also, because she had never been involved in the family, now it was like instant sister...just add water. That took a while to get used to. She has always been the fun one tho. Up for going out, and is a kid at heart. She can be really two faced tho, and I hate that. She thinks I idolise her and tries to manupilate me to her side on a lot of issues. She doesnt know I got her number.
My other sister is the one I was raised with and is 31. I WORSHIP her. We are so close. We fought like cats and dogs growing up, now I cant imagine life without her. I didnt realize how special she was to me till she had her baby in June. After the delivery, the whole family was fawning over the kid, while all I could think of was to see her and know she was OK. Its wierd, because my mom is jealous of the relationship we have together, and so is her husband, and my oldest sister. I cant help it, were just close. Megan rocks tho. I totally respect her. She always has been the responsible one, took care of me if I was sick, was the classic hurried child, let me have a life growing up, because she knew it was important, so she cooked and cleaned and stuff while I played. She always worries aout me, more so than I do. I was devistated when she left for college. Way cool, I introduced her to a brother from my chapter, and they got married. So a good friend married my sister. Too cool. She lives in Houston, but we talk everyday on the phone. Have to. She visited me last summer in town and we partied like rock stars. She was amaized at all the people I knew and how I party and stuff, since she's a momma now, she always wants to hear about my adventures and stuff. She says she lives through my life. How cool is this? She told me she wants to have another kid, just so it can have the opportunity to experience how awesome a siling relationship can be. Gotta love the big sis.
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08-05-2001, 11:09 PM
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I have a little brother and we have never been real close, but we do get along real well. He just graduated HS and is coming to school here at SIU. He came up last weekend to visit me and said the first thing he was going to do in the fall was Pledge Beta. I guess he is an alright kid after all.
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