hung up on looks

gammazetagrl · #1 07-30-2001, 01:55 PM

Sure, when I spot a hot guy I am immediately attracted to him. THis may sound really cliche but from my experience looks really aren't everything. I went out with both hot and average looking guys, and the average looking ones, if they have great personalities, it kinda shines on them and makes them really cute and attractive in my eyes (weird, i know). On the other hand, the cute guys, if they are a**holes, I get really turned off and they get somewhat ugly that next time I see them around campus I go "eww look, there's so and so". But hey, if I'm lucky enough to hook up with a cute guy who's really sweet and nice too, then I'll take him! What a combo!

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Kevlar281 · #2 07-30-2001, 02:00 PM

Well im not going to sit here and say looks aren’t important to me because they are. Im not really sure if that makes me a shallow person but i know that’s always the first thing i notice, i guess i just need that attraction. Of course looks only get you so far. I mean if someone looks really good but they have a shit personality then I wont even consider them for more then a hook-up.

GmuTeke · #3 07-30-2001, 02:39 PM

I admit it, I'm hung up on a girl's eyes. While I always look for personality and a sense of humor, I'll still fall for any girl with gorgeous eyes.

I mooned over this one ZTA for WEEKS because of her blue eyes. Nothing ever happened tho

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princessgin · #4 07-31-2001, 12:48 AM

Hey you guys out there

Just how hung up on looks are you? How important is a girls appearence to ya

What do you girls think, too???

princessgin · #5 08-01-2001, 09:30 AM

I, myself, have to initially be attracted to someone at the start. I agree with gammazetagrl it really does make a person more attractive if they have a great personality. My favorite feature on guys is there smile and style. I don't always go for the preppy guys just guys who have their own sense for what they like & what looks good on them individually.

SSS1365 · #6 08-01-2001, 10:01 AM

Looks are usually what attracts people to each other initially. But like everyone else has said, if a person is really hot but their personality sucks, then they're not going to get very far. Sometimes the hottest guys are the biggest assholes (but not always!)

pirate00 · #7 08-01-2001, 10:15 AM

If a girl is really physically attractive, but her overall attitude doesn't match her stunning looks, I won't be as attracted to her as I would a girl with more suddle features and an awesome personality. To sum up, there's got to be a balance of positive inside and outside features for me to be interested.

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PhiSigMeg · #8 08-01-2001, 11:32 PM

To be in a relationship with someone, of course I need to be attracted to them...but I agree that looks aren't everything. If the guy doesn't have a good personality, then it doesn't matter what he looks like---he's not for me! Of course looks matter, but often times I will find a guy MORE attractive after I've gotten to know them.

Megan

AlphaSigLana · #9 08-01-2001, 11:43 PM

Never tell a girl
"I wasnt' attracted to you at first, but once I got to know your personality I was attracted to you." I remember hearing that someone was told this and I thought that was so mean. My feelings would be hurt if my bf were to say I thought you were plain, but hey that's ok bc your personality makes you attractive!!!

Miami1839 · #10 08-02-2001, 09:06 PM

Lana, I'm not sure if I'm reading you right but heres what I think about that. I could be wrong but most times I think it takes a woman a while longer to be interested in a guy than a guy does. It depends on the girl and the situation I guess.

I agree that looks arent everything. Mutual attraction is whats important I think. Everyone has their own sense of what beauty is and what they "like" about a person. I go for the whole package in a girl. Generally someone I can talk to about anything where I dont feel like I'm "serving" her.

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AlphaSigLana · #11 08-02-2001, 09:54 PM

Kevin
I don't think you understood what I was saying at all.

Miami1839 · #12 08-02-2001, 10:01 PM

Lana,

oh ok lol I'm starting to see what you meant. my bad.

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 · #13 08-02-2001, 10:59 PM

Lana--- I completely agree w/ what you're saying

It would hurt my feelings SO much if a guy told me that. Somethings are meant to be kept to yourself!!!

P7A77 · #14 08-03-2001, 01:00 AM

I'm actually more flattered if someone thinks I'm attractive because of my personality. I've been told as much many times. Not only is beauty fading, it's not even really accurate.

To take it away from people for a bit, if I like something right away, chances are I get tired of it rather quickly. The music, or artwork, or architecture, or movies, or whatever that I'm not immediately sure what to think are the ones I go back to, and the ones that I ultimately find to be the richest and deepest in beauty.

Of course, I feel the same way about people. Sure, I'm as guilty as anyone else of being brainwashed by the fashion industry, so when I see someone immediately physically attractive, I notice it, and enjoy it. But for anything that lasts more than a few seconds, it doesn't even relate to any "list", because it's not even considered an issue.