Please Help!

[What2Do]

Okay, this is a long one. Alright I am a new member of a fraternity and have been having my doubts ever since invitation. I had a few doubts during pledging but didn't drop because a lot of the brothers really like me because I am probably the most crazy, outgoing person in the fraternity. But as time moves on and I hear from friends in other fraternities and girls about all of these fun socials going on. We have a very weak social calender because we are a newer chapter and it is killing me because I joined a frat to make good friends but to also have a lot of fun. I did make some god friends here, yet there are plenty that I don't get along with so much. Also there aren't many that actually party as much with me. I mean when they do party they are fun. They just don't party or as social as I wanted to be. Now I know you can't change fraternities after initiation but I am a student at the local CC, though I have received admission into the university for summer of 09. Now my question is, Is it wrong for me to leave my current chapter to repledge next semester at a different fraternity? I am worried about some of the guys that I am friends with. But this is so hard for me because I want a more social fraternity as well as more guys that are more like me. PLEASE HELP!

[lucgreek]

Wait, so how are you in community college and member of a fraternity? Or did you join a fraternity, transfer to community college, then plan on transferring back?

Either way, if you were initiated into an NIC (North-American Interfraternity Conference) fraternity then the only way you can quit and pledge a new org is if your national HQ releases you. But even then, I've heard of very few instances where another NIC will let someone who quit an NIC after initiation pledge.

But if it's a local fraternity that's a whole different story. I don't know much about non-NIC fraternities so someone else will have to clue you in if you're talking about NPHC fraternities.

[Zeta_heart]

My advice to alwasy be the change you wish to see. If you are not happy with the way your fraternity is now, become a leader. Step up and take responsibility and help lead your chapter to a higher level.

With that said, being a member of any GLO is more than just socials and having a good time. It is learning life skills that will help you in the future. If your brothers are more reserved and need help networking, then seize your oppertunity as an outgoing member to help them become more outgoing. You said you are a member of a new chapter on campus. That is an oppertunity to create any identity you want! Of course it should be a positive one. Being the biggest partiers on campus isn't going to help you attract quality members. But being and active chapter, socially and through service and campus involvement, you will see a change in your group and the men you attract during recruitment.

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by lucgreek

Wait, so how are you in community college and member of a fraternity? Or did you join a fraternity, transfer to community college, then plan on transferring back?

I've said this before, I know of a couple chapters at Auburn that do this with the nearby community college. I don't think it's terribly rare to be in a community college and the nearby fraternity.

That being said, if the campus culture is anything like ours....or perhaps anywhere else, if you depledge you're likely only going to go down the social ladder, not up. Anyone we've ever kicked out/forced to quit has always ended up a balanced man.