I'm in need of some advice!

[RedFox]

Ah it's been soooo long since I've been on here but I'm looking for some advice and I know ya'll give some great tips so....

...here it goes...I need some help on what to do about my status with someone that I recently met. Long story short, I'm working in the sports marketing profession and he's roughly 8 hours away from me...which totally stinks, but I think...actually..I KNOW there is something there...

He's a 3rd year orthopedic surgery med student...it was definitely unexpected and really random how we met. At a wedding oddly enough...the two token Jews there (I swear it's fate!!). The wedding was between mutual friends in the town where I am currently living in. The good part about him being far away is that he goes to school where I am from originally, and where my family and friends still live, which makes it much easier to go home, and I can hit two birds with one stone, seeing him and family.. That was about a month ago...after we met, we spent the entire rest of the weekend together. He's amazing and I definitely could see myself with him someday. Each day I learn more and more about him and can't stop thinking about him.

Like I said, it's been almost a month and I'm headed up there this coming weekend to spend time with him. I'm nervous about it though because I'm going to be meeting his friends and all that. He's taking me out to dinner so t'll be like an actual date, though it doesn't seem like it is as often as we talk. Since we've met, we've talked every day sometimes for hours on the phone, we text, email, AIM, webcam, all that stuff...which is pretty awesome, considering that I know how busy he is. Next month he's starting oncology rotations so I won't be able to see him which is why I'm going up this weekend to do it and he knows this. I have no question about him being just as interested, but I know how insane these next few years with his school are going to be and I just want to keep a potential open for maybe thinking about a long distance relationship with him. I just want to support him and make him happy. I know he's a good guy and I can deal with him not being around because he's in school and motivated and he's worth the sacrifice...I feel like even if I was closer, he still wouldn't be seeing me as much anyway, so I feel like this is worth the risk...advice on what to do this weekend? Or even in general? I want to bring it up, but not sound like I'm pressuring him or forcing the topic just because we're seeing each other face to face. Any tips would be great, Thanks!

[SWTXBelle]

Calm down (as much as possible) and live in the now. No one can predict the future, so I think the thing to do is take it step by step. Enjoy the time you can spend together, don't pressure him, and don't put your life on hold. He's going to be busy - be sure you aren't spending all your time mooning over him. Keep developing yourself as a person, and encouraging him. If he is as perfect for you as you think, in a few short years you will have built a solid foundation for an enduring relationship. If it doesn't work out, you won't be bitter because you have wasted time. Best of luck!

[RedFox]

thanks so much, Lion...just gives me that nervous vibe...I know it will be fine, just want to make sure I get the guy friends approval...he's apparently sent pictures to his good friend and his mom (I did the same..haha so lame) and I definitely took that as a good sign...I should probably add he's a greek too...AEII

[Buttonz]

P, dear, of course he is AEPi, do you expect anything else?

I say just realax and have a good time with him and just let whatever happens come natrually.

O, yeh...I'll be IMing ya later tonight....have some news for you......

Nice to see you back on GC

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by RedFox

thanks so much, Lion...just gives me that nervous vibe...I know it will be fine, just want to make sure I get the guy friends approval...

Don't worry about the friends. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

[RedFox]

yay! can't wait!! haha...and yeah, we have much to discuss! I figure who better to get advice from than GC'ers!

Originally Posted by Buttonz

P, dear, of course he is AEPi, do you expect anything else?

I say just realax and have a good time with him and just let whatever happens come natrually.

O, yeh...I'll be IMing ya later tonight....have some news for you......

Nice to see you back on GC

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by LionInMI

Hi, the similarities between your story and my and my husband's caught my eye. You probably won't feel you'll need to bring anything up this weekend because you'll know whether you both feel it. Just enjoy your in-person time together because it's so precious. My husband and I met almost 10 years ago, were across the country from each other for most of the first year, and now we're 7 1/2 years married with 3 little boys. With the right person, it just works.

As if 3 boys is reassuring??? (Dunno how you do it, my one boy just about wore me out!)

[skylark]

^^^^^So am I the only person on GC that doesn't have mo moneymike on ignore? I haven't seen anyone make a comment recently on his obviously ridiculous posts.

Did everyone come to the consensus that he's a troll?

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by skylark

^^^^^So am I the only person on GC that doesn't have mo moneymike on ignore? I haven't seen anyone make a comment recently on his obviously ridiculous posts.

Did everyone come to the consensus that he's a troll?

No

and

yes.

If we don't feed it, hopefully it will die...

[RedFox]

of course it happens on a thread that I post...haha...well Mo, I appriciate your advice....here's a proposed question...I know we're going out with his friends afterwards...(I think a friend of mine will be meeting us out also, so it won't be as scary but what to order to drink..defnitely don't want to look like a drunk but dont want to be stuck up and not order anything, I don't have a preference over beer or liquor, but maybe depends on where they are going and what everyone orders is my plan...I know i'm looking into this waaaaay too much, just want it to go really well, esp since time spent with him is so limited.

[nittanyalum]

^^^I'd recommend a mixed drink, if you don't think you'll be doing heavy drinking (so you'll both be "aware" of everything later), I would avoid the beer breath... blech.

[MTSUGURL]

Good luck, and just enjoy yourself. Sounds promising!


/hijack: Those I place on ignore: either just really irritate me to no end, or use such horrible grammar that it hurts my head to read their posts. Pick one.
/end hijack.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

No

and

yes.

If we don't feed it, hopefully it will die...

and the worst part...he isn't even a funny troll

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

and the worst part...he isn't even a funny troll

I know! Those are at least fun to bat around.

BTW, feel the need to confess that I actually did click the link in your sig, thought maybe you and Drole had gone into biz together!

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

I know! Those are at least fun to bat around.

BTW, feel the need to confess that I actually did click the link in your sig, thought maybe you and Drole had gone into biz together!

aaaw...im sorry....hehehhe....