Soliloquy's Fall 2007 recruitment

[Soliloquy]

Hey everyone! I'm Venice's friend and I've decided to rush too. We're both in the same boat with our school involvement and things that may hinder us. So it will be interesting to see what will happen!

I didn't go through rush last year or any cob events this year because I really just wanted to get a feel of what our greek life was on campus first. I like to observe before making choices; I learned the hard way what happens when you make rash ones.

I'm working hard on getting recommendations. I've been following Venice's advice and I think I may have some. One girl who is actually graduating this year said she would write one for me. Do you ladies think that's inappropriate or will it mean more to the respective sorority because it's from a recent member? Hopefully the latter will be true.

So the groups (after some of my favorite groups!):
Copeland
311
Alexisonfire
Damone

I really love all of the sororities on campus and I know I am going to have a tough choice to make. There's something about each that I love that would make me want to join:

Copeland: A lot of the girls in this group are some of the sweetest I've met. I love how they interact with each other.

311: I dig their philanthropy a lot and the activities they do for them.

Damone: I also dig their philanthropy and a lot of the sisters I've met from here have wonderful humor.

Alexisonfire: Unique group of girls who really seem to have their hands in everything.

Disclaimer: not that the others don't display equivalent qualities- these are just the ones that stick out to me the most throughout the year. They're more or less the collective reasons as to why I want to rush

[LOVEinZTA]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

I'm working hard on getting recommendations. I've been following Venice's advice and I think I may have some. One girl who is actually graduating this year said she would write one for me. Do you ladies think that's inappropriate or will it mean more to the respective sorority because it's from a recent member? Hopefully the latter will be true.

I wonder about this as well sometimes - I had a rec letter for one of the chapters on campus written by a girl who had graduated the previous spring. IMO (being a collegiate member) someone who had just graduated from my own chapter might be able to write a rec that relates better to our chapter BUT if the rec-writer graduated not in the best standing then it might not go over so well (i.e. the writer was one strike away from some big judicial problems and as such how do we know the girl she writing for isn't the same?).

[FSUZeta]

this is strictly my opinion, but one rec. would not hold more influence than another. in other words, a newly graduated sisters rec. would not carry more weight than a 30 year members, especially if the pnm did not meet all the criteria the chapter was looking for in a member. in that same vein, a pnm would not be penalized if her rec. was written by a newly graduated member. it is more the content of the rec, than who wrote it, and long as the writer is a member in good standing.

the pnm has to sell herself and exhibit those qualities that would help her to fit in with the chapter, and then the rec. would sort of be the icing on the cake.

[ASUADPi]

First let me say YEAH to a recruitment thread even though it is only May. Seriously, you go through withdrawl. LOL.

Second, good luck with recruitment. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.

[twinkle555]

Go Alexisonfire! good luck

[Soliloquy]

Thank you for the replies ladies.

I met with a 2 alums and an active of 311 recently, and they gave me some wonderful advice about rush. They even practiced rushed me by asking some stereotypical questions and critiqued my answers! They want me to have a successful rush, even if I do not end up at their house, because they are so confident that I would be a great sorority woman. I know that this is by no means a guarantee that I will get a bid, but it felt great to have a bit of confidence placed in me. I think that I will not be nearly as nervous during rush now- due to their help! I'm so blessed to have such incredible friends

Oh! Come to find out, recommendations are not a big deal at my school and if I do not have any it will not hurt me- *whew*

I am very exicted now and simply cannot wait until for the rush period to begin! I certainly hope things will end in my favor and I find a home, if not than that is ok- but those sort of thoughts have not put a damper in my enthusiasm!

[sailboatgirl]

Good luck with recruitment!

(And I, too, am glad to see another rush thread...they're my favorite part of Greek Chat!)

[Soliloquy]

Well recruitment for the fall has just become a lot more difficult to handle. A good friend of mine who literally just graduated and entered alum status in her sorority died 2 days ago. She was so excited about me going through and even wanted to write a rec for me. She told me that "the idea of you becoming my sister is thrilling!" This girl did everything possible to help calm my fears, and was one of the key reasons why I decided to rush. She was the epitome of a sorority woman and it breaks my heart that I won't be able to see her again.

I cannot imagine how hard it will be for her sisters during recruitment when they do the slideshow and read senior letters. If I make it that far in that particular house, I will be bawling with the rest of the girls.

I do not care if this post makes it obvious where I go to school, or who I am. I just know that this has deeply affected my views on recruitment and life as a whole. You really do not know if today will be your last day on Earth. So please, try to make each day count. <3

[SigKapCoug]

I'm so sorry about your friend. That's so sad!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Soliloquy

Well recruitment for the fall has just become a lot more difficult to handle. A good friend of mine who literally just graduated and entered alum status in her sorority died 2 days ago. She was so excited about me going through and even wanted to write a rec for me. She told me that "the idea of you becoming my sister is thrilling!" This girl did everything possible to help calm my fears, and was one of the key reasons why I decided to rush. She was the epitome of a sorority woman and it breaks my heart that I won't be able to see her again.

I cannot imagine how hard it will be for her sisters during recruitment when they do the slideshow and read senior letters. If I make it that far in that particular house, I will be balling with the rest of the girls.

I do not care if this post makes it obvious where I go to school, or who I am. I just know that this has deeply affected my views on recruitment and life as a whole. You really do not know if today will be your last day on Earth. So please, try to make each day count. <3

*hugs*

My chapter had a (founding) sister die just shortly before I joined. It's never easy for the sisters, but they did all tell stories about her. We still do a memorial walk for her and her foundation set up by her parents. No matter what happens as far as joining a sorority, I'm sure her sisters will be glad to know one more person who understands their pain.

[navane]

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.


.....Kelly

[susan314]

Sorry to hear for your loss, and the chapter's loss also.

[BuckeyeTriDelta]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

[violetpretty]

I am sorry for your loss, as well as the loss of her chapter and her family.

[dgdramadawg]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Soliloquy.