Men and women and breakups: Dissapointment vs. Betrayal

[James]

Ok.

I was talking to some people the other day about break-ups and we saw a general pattern that I wanted to run by you guys.

When a long term relationship ends and its deifnitely over, there seems to be a slight difference in perspective between men and women.

Most men I know feel dissapointed that the relationship didn't work out, maybe even a little relieved that it was finally over assuming the process of breaking was unpleasant.

Women i have spoken to, and watching posts on here, seem to feel almost betrayed by the end of the relationship. Almost like there is some implied contract that the guy has broken by not being a better mate or making sure thinks are worked out.

I was wondering if thats why women seem a tad bit more vindictive after a relationship is over . . .

This is also assuming that cheating is not involved, I think most people feel betrayed when someone cheats.

Anyone else notice this difference at all?