for the guys....

[AGDsexysmoker]

okay guys, here's my problem... (i'll keep it short)...
i work with this guy i used to date for a long time (we broke up in march). we also go to the same school.
although most of the time we get along okay, he likes to try and make me jealous or mad.
my problem is, i let a lot of the things he says get to me.
deep down, i do love him w/ everything i have, and i want our relationship to have a second chance. but the way he is, he doesn't like things that are an "easy challenge" for him. i want to make him realize what he is missing.
guys: here is where you come in... what can i do to make him see what he is missing? i know how to play the game... "ignore him, be mean to him"... i can only do that for so long until he does/says something nice and i melt... then it is back to the beginning. so, what is a sure-fire technique that really gets you noticing/wanting/missing a girl(especially an ex-girlfriend)? what makes you want to call them? what makes you want to see them?

thanks a ton for your help!
tati



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it's hard being a princess...AGD

[Thrillhouse]

Hmmmm. Well one thing that might get me going is if you totally acted as if you didn't care about his acts of making you jealous, etc. That might make him think, hmmm it's not working. I know from past expiriences that if soemone puts on the fact that they don't care about what I say, than it bugs me. It makes me wonder what is wrong, than try not to be mean or do other things to bug you the next time.
Sorry, can't come up with a good answer to the question but hope that helps a little

[SigTauJake]

Since we go to the same school I will give you a situation that worked for me. I mean rather it worked on me. She just lived her life to the fullest, started hanging out with new people, did everything that made her happy. At mixers I would see her and she would be having the time of her life, not feeling awkward being at my house. She was going uptown with her sisters, and was just loving it. I think actually she was over me completely, but I did notice. Brothers would come home from other houses and say, "Hey, I saw your ex at Sig Chi tonight, she was having a blast" We are not back together, but we talk now, and we hang out sometimes. I got interested in her again, because I saw she was leading a perfectly happy life without me, which I thought was impossible, and it made me interested. Not sure if this helps, but it worked on me. Good Luck and I will see you in the fall at a mixer.

[gammazetagrl]

Wow Jake, great advice. Lemme try that for myself, =) since Tati and I are in a pretty much similar situation...

*hi tati*

[newbie]

OK I'm not a guy obviously,

But unintentionally, I made my ex want to get back together with me again after we broke up by doing those exact two situations that ExGreek and SigTauJake mentioned...they work!! Actually, I didn't want to get back with him again...I just decided to ignore him (b/c what he kept on saying to me was a bunch of BS) and decided to have fun with my friends. Girls, just don't do those two situations if you DON'T want your ex chasing after you again!! It sure gets annoying after while if it's unwanted attention!

[This message has been edited by newbie (edited June 13, 2001).]

[KABillyMac]

Mentally, you have to move on. There really is nothing that you can do now. The only thing now that will get his attention is a deliberately making him jealous. (i.e.- letting a guy come in a lay a big kiss on you in front of him) but really, what will that do but give you revenge, and why give him the satisfaction of knowing that you spent the time and effort to do something to get revenge on him. If this BOY believes that you are no longer a challenge to him, then most likely he will always view you this way, and no jealousy, low cut blouse, nice tan, new hair color, or any of those petty things are gonna make the way he thinks of you change. Move on to someone that makes you feel the way you deserve to feel.


Good luck.