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Old 01-14-2005, 12:05 PM
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Your best remedy.......

....for a broken heart.
How do you get over it?
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Old 01-14-2005, 12:08 PM
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Shopping!

Seriously though... go out with some friends and hit a couple dance clubs. Maybe something funky like line dancing, or swing, or salsa.
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Old 01-14-2005, 01:17 PM
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Time, good friends, losing 10 pounds, and when you are ready, other boys ( don't try the last one too quickly! I went to a club a week after breaking up with my ex and burst into tears because I couldn't handle the meat market). Nothing beats heartache like finding out there are other fish in the sea who think you are hot.
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Old 01-14-2005, 02:14 PM
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losing 10 pounds,
No really, I was going to suggest joining a gym and focusing on yourself for awhile! Thats what I did - and am doing right now. And I think its the best when you're waiting for time to pass!
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Old 01-14-2005, 02:21 PM
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No really, I was going to suggest joining a gym and focusing on yourself for awhile! Thats what I did - and am doing right now. And I think its the best when you're waiting for time to pass!
This is a great idea, nothing makes you feel like a heifer more than being dumped out of the blue.
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Old 01-14-2005, 02:51 PM
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Time heals all wounds.

In the meantime, throw yourself wholeheartedly into productive things like your studies, your job, exercise, hobbies, spending time with friends, etc. Do things you couldn't do while you were in a couple. Don't dwell on "what was" - move forward into "what will be".

When you feel you're ready, go to a club or bar, not necessarily to meet someone, but just to be seen. It's quite an ego boost to have guys checking you out
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Old 01-14-2005, 02:58 PM
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I'm going to recommend this thread:

http://forums.greekchat.com/gcforums...threadid=48741

It helped me a lot.
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Old 01-14-2005, 04:46 PM
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Drugs and Tang

Have you tried drugs and narcotics? You can also sleep around. Most guys don't turn down tang, unless there obviously something wrong with the tang. I mean it's nothing to be proud of, but hey it's a temporary fix.

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--By tang, I mean the pooti tang and not the orange stuff astronauts drink
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Old 01-14-2005, 04:46 PM
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Just think "fuck him. fuck him. fuck him" He obviously doesn't deserve anything from you, especially tears, if he's gonna do some fucked up shit. I agree with the gym part. You'll feel better about losing weight and being in shape. And you'll be like "ha!" since you'll look better also!

Shopping is always fun, hanging out with friends to keep your mind off of him helps.

good luck and hope you feel better!
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Old 01-14-2005, 05:10 PM
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Re: Drugs and Tang

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Have you tried drugs and narcotics? You can also sleep around. Most guys don't turn down tang, unless there obviously something wrong with the tang. I mean it's nothing to be proud of, but hey it's a temporary fix.

-Rudey
--By tang, I mean the pooti tang and not the orange stuff astronauts drink

remember that dollar drafts are considered a drug, too.
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Old 01-14-2005, 05:17 PM
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Re: Re: Drugs and Tang

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remember that dollar drafts are considered a drug, too.

mmmm dollar drafts.
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Old 01-14-2005, 05:29 PM
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Re: Your best remedy.......

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....for a broken heart.
How do you get over it?
You surround yourself with men who'll treat you wayyyy better.

Jim, Jack, and Jose!
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Old 01-14-2005, 06:22 PM
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Re: Your best remedy.......

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....for a broken heart.
How do you get over it?
What do you want to do? And hopefully not hurt yourself... I mean, do you want to go running out there after your loved one buck nakkid screaming "whyyyyyy"? Or would you rather wrap yourself up in your house in a little ball and cry? I really don't know...

But one thing that worked for me when my past relationships failed is:

It's Spring Cleaning Time--like "I'm gonna wash that man, right outta my hair"...

Get rid of all his or her chit... Burn it if you have to... Set it outside your living space and put a "FREE" sign on it...

Then write a letter to him or her saying how much you hurt and why you think it was wrong for him or her to dump you, etc. Seal that letter up in an envelop--and BURN IT--seriously!... DO NOT SEND IT to them, because it will only hurt worse... Think of it as a "baptism by fire" thing or whatever you have to do to "sterilize" the memory of the past pains this person caused you...

Then go shopping and buy a fantabolous pimp mackidocious outfit for the club tonight with an aphrodisiac pheromonal cologne, groom yourself up to the "nines"--get your hair done, manicure your nails and toes, get a facial--whatever, but pimp yourself out...

Then go to the most happening club in the world in your area, and buy a drink that will get you lit quickly, and flirt your ass off. But go home alone so that you can sleep off your hangover--don't rebound physcially with anyone until you think you're ready... The point is to have "dreams" about having an extremely good time, ALONE without fool that thought you could be dumped...

And I say, within 2 weeks or so, you'll be over it... It usually takes that long if you do it this way... And it doesn't drag on and on... Moreover, you don't have to self-reflect about the moon and stars and why this person did what they did, whatever...

Remember, as my Dad said to me, if you miss the first city bus, there will always be another one to come along that same route...
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Old 01-14-2005, 06:34 PM
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Re: Re: Your best remedy.......

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Then write a letter to him or her saying how much you hurt and why you think it was wrong for him or her to dump you, etc. Seal that letter up in an envelop--and BURN IT--seriously!... DO NOT SEND IT to them, because it will only hurt worse... Think of it as a "baptism by fire" thing or whatever you have to do to "sterilize" the memory of the past pains this person caused you...

I have done this, and it's really cathartic. When you burn it, make sure you are near the kitchen sink with a bowl full of water waiting because those letters can burn.

Also keeping yourself busy with friends and family helps. If you are really lonely and have nothing to do, do some volunteer work. It helps put things in perspective when you realize that your life isn't half as bad as someone else who is really suffering.
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Old 01-14-2005, 08:06 PM
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I gotta second the dollar drafts and the three wise men . . .

Also, it helps if you can find hot guys in bands to dedicate songs to you. The only way this gets sweeter is if your ex is in earshot when it happens.

Just go out and have fun! I know this sounds cheesy, but remind yourself about what is so great about you and why you don't need him. Flirt with hot men. Do silly but harmless things while drunk. (Take his number out of your cell before you get drunk so you won't be tempted to drunk dial.) The gym is a great place to burn off excess emotion. Just concentrate on you.

And no malicious revenge schemes. You might feel better now, but in a year you'll appreciate it more that you took the high road. Living well is the best revenge and all that.
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