High School girl in college world

Renee Smith · #1 09-13-2007, 06:59 AM

high school girl in college world
Please advise me! I am a Senior in High School taking one class this semester at my High School. I live in a big college town and take 3 classes at the University. I spend more time at the University than my High School. I am now hanging out more with the college boys than my high school friends. I cannot wait to rush next year. I do go to the parties at the Frat houses on weekends because I am invited by my friends in the houses. I have a few High School girl friends that go with me to the parties, but I don't really like hanging out with the guys I go to High School with. My question is; Am I jeopardizing my chance to be in a Sorority next year by hanging out with some college boys this year. I do attend the University, but as a concurrent student. A lot of Freshmen girls that went to my High School last year are really mad and give me dirty looks. Will they be able to keep me out of a Sorority next year. It is very important to me to rush and get into a Sorority.

Thanks,

Renee

SWTXBelle · #2 09-13-2007, 07:14 AM

"Hanging out" with college boys should not hurt your chances as long as you are not doing anything with them that might lead to a bad reputation.
If you are really interested in joining a sorority, keep your grades up, be involved in activities (whether in your h.s. or the community) and read up on recruitment here on Greek Chat.
Don't worry about any perceived "dirty looks" from former high school students. While it is possible that someone who doesn't like you could try and sway the vote of her sorority, the odds are that by the time you go through recruitment most of them will barely remember you. Concentrate on presenting the best "you" that you can.
Good luck.

FSUZeta · #3 09-13-2007, 09:08 AM

you might be hurting your chances.

is hanging out at the fraternity houses worth jeapordizing your chance of getting in to a sorority in a year? only you can decide.

Katmandu · #4 09-13-2007, 10:40 AM

I guess I would just say, you are obviously smart, or you wouldn't be in a joint HS/college program, so don't do anything to mess up your bright future! That includes underage drinking at frat parties, flirting with guys who may be other people's boyfriends, or behaving in any way that you might regret later.

I am not implying you are doing any of that! Just keep your eyes and your actions focused on what you want in the future, and if that includes a great college experience and sorority membership on that particular campus, it is better to be initially a little too conservative than to be a little too "out there".

As others have noted, keep your grades up and enjoy some valuable community, church, school and academic extracurriculars--that's what potential sisters will be looking for in your recruitment resume.

SWTXBelle · #5 09-13-2007, 10:47 AM

I guess we should have asked for a definition of "hanging out".

amanda6035 · #6 09-13-2007, 11:24 AM

I thought joint enrolled students were allowed to join already - as long as if they were under 18, they had parental signature. Because if you take classes at the college, youre technically a college student, even if you have yet to graduate high school. Your GPA is also a factor. We had a joint enroll student come through recruitment one year, and even extended her a bid. Her parents requested that she wait until the following year to join. We still invited her out to stuff and recruited her the whole year long. The next year, she was working a part time job and ended up getting married and decided sorority wasn't for her. Go figure.

Also - if you're taking this many college classes already - won't you technically be considered a sophomore next year....or even if your class standing isnt officially sophomore, if you only have 3 years left at school, how will that affect your recruitment? Do you go to a college where sororities might not take sophomores, or girls who can commit to 4 years?

AlphaFrog · #7 09-13-2007, 11:29 AM

I'm pretty sure you have to be full time to join an NPC sorority. Three classes (unless they're 4 hours each) is not full time.

And, no, if she's only taking three classes, she probably won't have enough credits to be considered a Sophomore.

KSUViolet06 · #8 09-13-2007, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I'm pretty sure you have to be full time to join an NPC sorority. Three classes (unless they're 4 hours each) is not full time.

That's correct. You need to be a full time student.

Honestly, the answer to your question depends on the school you go to. At some schools, a freshman who is constantly hanging out with fraternity men and going to parties might be frowned upon, where at others it might not be a big deal.

I tend to think that as long as you're not totally making a drunken fool of yourself at the fraternity parties, and doing things that draw negative attention (like stripping, dancing on the bar, or making a drunken scene on the front lawn) you should be fine. My advice is to be kind of "low key" when you're hanging out and don't do anything stupid.

Most sororities understand that freshman women like to go out and have a good time. At the same time, they are leery of girls who go out and get out of control.

A far as your other question , I really couldn't tell you if having girls from your HS in sororities will hurt or help your chances.

Good luck!

Cruise4fun · #9 09-13-2007, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I'm pretty sure you have to be full time to join an NPC sorority. Three classes (unless they're 4 hours each) is not full time.

And, no, if she's only taking three classes, she probably won't have enough credits to be considered a Sophomore.

Being a full time student is not a NPC requirement. It may depend on each organizations Inter/National policies. The local CPC or individual chapters may also add the requirement into their bylaws.

I know for Tri Sigma a woman must be matriculated at the university. (registered for a minimum of one class) I am an alumnae advisor at a commuter school. We often have women who are not full time students (usually 12 credit hours). I just had this confirmed again this week with our national organizaton.

However at the university I attended, there was a local college panhellenic bylaw requiring full time status.

adpiucf · #10 09-13-2007, 02:24 PM

For all intents and purposes, you are a college student, so it is understandable if you're not wanting to spend as much time with people who are still in high school. Take this time to make some friends of those freshman ladies, and especially sorority members.

It takes a very long time to build up a positive reputation, but you can earn a negative reputation in the blink of an eye. Your conduct at the fraternity houses may be completely innocent, but if you're getting the evil eye from freshmen sorority women, then they are getting a less-than-desirable impression of you. Maybe you're getting too chatty with someone's love interest or ex-boyfriend. Maybe your conduct looks unladylike. Maybe you ticked them off somehow when you attended high school together. Honestly, it doesn't matter: if they are snubbing you, they probably don't like you.

Their impression of you will most certainly affect your recruitment, as these ladies will represent that majority of the chapter make-up in their sororities next fall.

Find another weekend activity and save the fraternity parties for next fall. You can maintain your friendships with the fraternity members, but do it over lunch at the Student Union, going to a movie or cheering them on at the intramural fields.

Also, on an unrelated note: Think about applying to a variety of colleges, not just the one in your hometown. It's a wonderful growing experience, and you can always come home to take classes at the local U in the summertime.

Renee Smith · #11 09-13-2007, 03:43 PM

Thanks for all the replies. The University I attend is an SEC school and is fairly large. I am behaving myself at the Frat houses; no sex or heavy partying. I'm a pretty good girl. I'm just ready to start my college life and I am sick of the High School drama. My University will only let full time students rush. I was definitely disappointed I couldn't rush this year. I guess I have a lot of guy friends and only a few girl friends at this point. That may be the problem. I would hate to jeopardize my rushing next year, but can't imagine not hanging out with my new guy friends. I may check out other Universities also, I just wanted to go to my hometown University because a lot of my classmates are attending here also.

AOII Angel · #12 09-13-2007, 03:52 PM

If this is your real name, I recommend you change it. It's not really safe to talk too much on this site. If you say something that someone finds unacceptable, it's a lot easier to find you. It's amazing how you betray your campus with things you say making it possible to hunt you down. Use something a little more vague!

FSUZeta · #13 09-13-2007, 06:02 PM

my daughter's dorm roommate from last year is from auburn. she told us that a lot of her h.s. classmates went to fraternity parties while in h.s., and it sabotaged a few of the girls sorority aspirations.

the way she explained it, the college girls look at the h.s. girls like they are fraternity groupies; little girls trying to pretend they are big college girls. not a good thing.

kathykd2005 · #14 09-13-2007, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

I'm pretty sure you have to be full time to join an NPC sorority.

Exactly correct. She can't join an NPC if she isn't enrolled as a full-time student.

exlurker · #15 09-13-2007, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

my daughter's dorm roommate from last year is from auburn. she told us that a lot of her h.s. classmates went to fraternity parties while in h.s., and it sabotaged a few of the girls sorority aspirations.

the way she explained it, the college girls look at the h.s. girls like they are fraternity groupies; little girls trying to pretend they are big college girls. not a good thing.

Yep, that's a possible reaction, and, I'm sorry to say, it's what crossed my mind when I read the original poster's remark, "I have a few High School girl friends that go with me to the parties . . . ."