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PNM2007 · #1 09-09-2007, 01:01 PM

I've done a long search and I just can't find the answers I'm looking for. To try and make a long story short, I went through formal rush (which is deferred here) last year. I was cut from all 10 houses the 2nd day. Needless to say I was devistated. I looked into a local sorority, but the more I find out, the more it seems like this group is going to fall apart (it was just founded a year ago and all the girls who have joined have little interest in it being a 'true' sorority--like no one goes to events, there is no communication among anyone, everything just isn't working).

I am one of those girls who wants to be like, a 'true sorority girl.' Overly involved, rah rah sisterhood, etc.. But I did join the local one that isn't going well at all. So my questions:
1. Would it be possible to join a national one on campus? I mean, I know you *technically* can, but I think a lot of girls might look at it like I'm sleezy for dropping out of one and not having the committment (even though it's the rest of the group without the committment).
2. Since I was dropped from all 10 houses during formal, should I just take the hint and not bother with COB?

Thanks for your ideas/suggestions. I'm so torn up because I originally saw so much promise with the local one, but I have volunteered for anything and no one will take me up on the offer, and I even donated extra money to try and help girls who couldn't pay because I really wanted to get this group going strong. It's not a great situation, so any advice is helpful!

I also wanted to note: Greek life isn't huge on this campus (there's a good percentage, but it's not the only thing--if that makes sense). It's not one of the seriously competitive schools although I don't know if that will make any difference.

KSUViolet06 · #2 09-09-2007, 01:08 PM

There is no rule against girls from locals joining NPC sororities.

No one here can tell you for sure whether you'll get a bid if you do go through COB because we don't go to your school.

There's no harm in going to events and checking them out.

texas*princess · #3 09-09-2007, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There is no rule against girls from locals joining NPC sororities.

No one here can tell you for sure whether you'll get a bid if you do go through COB because we don't go to your school.

There's no harm in going to events and checking them out.

Well said.

You do need to note that some groups (either nationally or on a chapter by chapter basis) have a cut once/cut always rule. So if you get cut by all 10 again, it might be best to try getting involved in other organizations

UGAalum94 · #4 09-09-2007, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

Well said.

You do need to note that some groups (either nationally or on a chapter by chapter basis) have a cut once/cut always rule. So if you get cut by all 10 again, it might be best to try getting involved in other organizations

Do we know that they really do?

I have the feeling that it's kind of an urban legend.

I guess there's no way of knowing since it's MS, but it just doesn't make any sense in the era of release figures.

icelandelf · #5 09-09-2007, 01:26 PM

I'd say if you're really interested, then go COB. Couldn't hurt. Good luck!

I've never heard of a cut once/cut always rule...

KSUViolet06 · #6 09-09-2007, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Do we know that they really do?
I have the feeling that it's kind of an urban legend.

I guess there's no way of knowing since it's MS.

You're right. There's no way of knowing this for sure, which is why there's no harm in going to COB events for chapters and seeing what happens.

Benzgirl · #7 09-09-2007, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by icelandelf

I'd say if you're really interested, then go COB. Couldn't hurt. Good luck!

I've never heard of a cut once/cut always rule...

ditto

texas*princess · #8 09-09-2007, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Do we know that they really do?

I have the feeling that it's kind of an urban legend.

I guess there's no way of knowing since it's MS, but it just doesn't make any sense in the era of release figures.

Yea.. I don't know the chapters at her school or how they operate.. I just heard when I was college that sort of thing existed. It might not be correct? Who knows.

UGAalum94 · #9 09-09-2007, 02:14 PM

Anyway, OP, even if they don't have a "once cut, always cut" policy, you'll need to have something new to show for yourself or you can expect similar results this time. Are your grades better? Do you hold some leadership roles on campus? Did you make friends with a bunch of Greek women outside your local too?

Because if you rush with exactly the same resume and connections, you can expect similar results, I'm afraid.

And that's not even getting into whether having dropped out of the local is going to be harmful.

So much of the answer to your question depends on the climate of your particular campus.

violetpretty · #10 09-09-2007, 02:15 PM

I don't see the harm in COB. With formal recruitment, you could have been lost in the shuffle.

UGAalum94 · #11 09-09-2007, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by violetpretty

I don't see the harm in COB. With formal recruitment, you could have been lost in the shuffle.

Good point. COB is likely to be different than formal.

SWTXBelle · #12 09-09-2007, 02:35 PM

And unless the chapters have some crazy database of information on girls they've cut, they probably won't even remember you. Of course, if you wore pantyhose with sequins up the back, they might still remember you.

icelandelf · #13 09-09-2007, 02:38 PM

Bad Belle!

adpiucf · #14 09-09-2007, 02:44 PM

Try out COB. A member of a local sorority IS eligible for membership in a national sorority. However, if COB doesn't work out, cut your losses and try something else.

And I don't say this to be cruel, but if you were cut by all 10 chapters in formal and the campus recruitment is not very competitive, you are probably not a good fit for Panhellenic Sorority Life at this campus... Unless there were just some extremely bizarre circumstances that you have proof of and which led to those cuts...

There are Greek Life opportunities outside of being a Panhellenic Greek. These may be a better fit for you at your school. You can also look at Non-Collegiate Sororities.

Regardless, I hope you find your niche at the university and wish you much luck and success at the college and with your career plans.

LPIDelta · #15 09-09-2007, 07:44 PM

The OP didn't seem to indicate her current involvement with the local--so should she disaffiliate from her local before going through COB? I mean, it could be awkward to be at a COB event while being a member of another sorority, even a local. Something to consider...