'Ships on GC??

[AXJules]

Who on here has dated or wanted to date someone you met on GC??? Did you do it? Why or why not???

I am REALLY NOT trying to start any drama, so please don't use names (unless you guys married or something ). Simply, did you do it, have you thought about it, did it work out, why or why not.

I'm curious-- a bunch of us have "the crush thread" and some of us talk offline, but does it go further than friends????



I'll be the first to answer my own question. I have made 2 or 3 great great friends on here that I love dearly....but I keep everyone else at a pretty far distance on purpose b/c I saw things that I didn't like happening to other people about a year ago. So no, I have never wanted to date anyone. Haven't pursued anything (also b/c I'm in a relationship with someone I love immensely), and it would take like, moving mountains to get me to go out with someone from online (not just GC).


And you???





And I'm serious about the drama...I'm not stupid...you can say something didn't work without getting nasty. Ruin my thread and I'll beat your ass :::::INSERT ANGEL FACE HERE:::::

[PM_Mama00]

I met someone I had a crush on, brought him to my formal and unfortunately had a really bad time cuz I had a migraine. He was a pretty cool friend tho.

But as for friends I've made a few really good ones, and one who has become a really close friend.

[Buttonz]

I would never go out with someone on~line.....yes, I have a few good friends that I have made through GC, but no one that I would want to start anything with.

[Rudey]

Ivory I never say anything bad about you I'm sweet like bubble gum!

-Rudey





Edited by ZTAngel to delete a quoted post.

[absolutuscchick]

OK, I admit that I've dated a few people from JDate.....but I've definitely never seriously considered having an actual relationship with someone off of GC. Sure there's someone I may flirt with online all the time and talk to, but it stops there.

[sugar and spice]

Considering the male-to-female ratio on GC and the decent-male-to-not-so-decent-male ratio (not to mention the psycho-to-normal-people ratio), I feel like I'm at a disadvantage here . . .

But seriously, though I have never done the online romance thing, I have done the long distance thing for a few months and HATED it. I don't think I could handle internet relationships. I've had enough trouble with internet friendships getting all crazy that I don't think I want to move it up a level.

[AXJules]

I just think it's all very interesting. We have these circles on here, some tighter than others. And some people flirt and PM and whatnot....but then you have something like Ivory's, where when you attempt to move it off the computer it is like it never happened. That's fascinating to me.

I guess it all goes back to the trust thing. I keep a more than safe distance from the majority of the people on this board.

[Rudey]

Originally posted by AXJules
I just think it's all very interesting. We have these circles on here, some tighter than others. And some people flirt and PM and whatnot....but then you have something like Ivory's, where when you attempt to move it off the computer it is like it never happened. That's fascinating to me.

I guess it all goes back to the trust thing. I keep a more than safe distance from the majority of the people on this board.

Remember when you sent naked pictures to a couple of us?

-Rudey

[AXJules]

Originally posted by Rudey
Remember when you sent naked pictures to a couple of us?

-Rudey

Remember when you liked it?

[Rudey]

Originally posted by AXJules
Remember when you liked it?

No. I'm gay.

-Rudey
--So yes it turned me on...long time.

[AXJules]

Originally posted by Rudey
No. I'm gay.

-Rudey
--So yes it turned me on...long time.

So what you're saying is, you're a chick?????
OMG what's that short for? Rudina? Rudith???

Dude I never knew....


And hey, remember when you hijacked my thread b/c you wanted me so badly???? WTF?! At least make something up....

[sugar and spice]

I think everybody comes into it with so many different past experiences with the way they relate to people online, you know?

I've had enough experience with people online not being who they said they were (not personally, but with friends) that I'm pretty wary of people. There are a lot of warning signs that will make me suspicious -- people refusing to give out fairly harmless details about their lives, only having one or two photos of themselves (or none!), having too much going on in their lives all the time, etc. -- and it takes a lot for me to get past that. There are still a number of GCers that I wouldn't be surprised aren't legit. And semi-recent events on GC have just proved to me that it makes sense to be careful, you know?

There are a lot of people who are a lot more trusting, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, but it makes for a totally different way of relating to people they meet online. There are people who assume somebody's a fake until they get proof otherwise, there are people who assume somebody's real until they get proof otherwise, and there are people everywhere on the spectrum between.

When it comes to flirting -- when I said before about how I've had internet friendships get screwed up, flirting played a major role. People are so different on the internet than they are off the internet and especially if you've never met them in real life you have no idea what that flirting is supposed to mean. I flirt a lot in real life -- it's just one of the ways that I bond with people -- and I had one of the closest friendships I ever had ruined by the fact that we first started talking over the internet (though I knew his brother and a couple of his friends offline) and because of that flirting there were a lot of complications and mixed messages when we finally met in real life. And though ultimately we sort of became friends again, the friendship was never the same and it's never going to be the same because of that.

So while I still sometimes flirt online, I do a lot less of it, almost none of it on purpose -- and at least on GC I do a lot more flirting with girls than guys , simply because I know it won't lead to the same kinds of complications as it did that one time, assuming that they're straight.

Every brings so much baggage to the table that they're bound to have different levels of trust when it comes to the whole internet thing.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by AXJules
So what you're saying is, you're a chick?????
OMG what's that short for? Rudina? Rudith???

P.S. RUDITH is the HOTTEST NAME EVER.

[AXJules]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
P.S. RUDITH is the HOTTEST NAME EVER.

Stop it, you're making me wet.

[PhiPsiRuss]

Originally posted by AXJules
Stop it, you're making me wet.

Me too.