Question on rushing / getting bids.

mikeCA · #1 09-07-2009, 03:53 AM

Alright, I'm a transfer student (2 credits shy of being a sophomore). I went one year at a community college till I picked my major, and then transferred into a 4 year university. Now transfer students regardless of freshmen status move in when regular upperclassmen move in. So I am pretty sure I missed the official rush week. Now I am stuck on what to do. I've met some brothers of different fraternities, but only when they (and I) were a tad drunk. And now most of the big fraternities are having closed parties or only let girls in.

Back on topic. Now after that I feel intimidated to try and walk up to the fraternities during parties, for whenever they are girls only I feel like a like the dudes in "Girl next door" before they hooked up with the porn stars. But it seems I have only met brothers of any house when they were drunk. I dont know how to get into contact with them during the day, and in general, I have no idea how the Greek system works. Also, I have NO connections from back where I live. But im trying to network well known people around campus. I'm going to stop rambling and hope someone understands what I am asking.

***NOTE***

As some people seem to think I am suggesting, I do not want to be fake friends with brothers. I get along with basically everyone. Shit my roommate comes in high at 4 am every day and I still dont even mind him. I like to believe I am a chill person, just a little "quite" at first before I get to actually know someone. I'm gonna check out the Greek Office or shoot them an e-mail, and most likely end up pledging somewhere in the spring.
Any more tips / suggestions would be very much appreciated though. Thanks!

knight_shadow · #2 09-07-2009, 04:00 AM

You didn't ask any questions...

mikeCA · #3 09-07-2009, 04:04 AM

I'm basically asking what should I be doing if I am trying to join a fraternity for fall 2009/spring 2010. I feel I missed the events to formally connect with the brothers outside of the party scene. I dont even know if the brothers remember me, as when they talked to me about pledging ect.. They were usually drunk. I mainly want to join a fraternity for the networking, meeting people, experience, and being apart of something worthwhile at school..

(If I am failing to make sense it is probably because I am tired as fuck.)

mikeCA · #4 09-08-2009, 09:28 AM

I'm still checking back on the thread if anyone is willing to answer.

Should I just be trying to talk to / befriend some of the brothers at parties ect.. now, and just wait for spring rush?

pshsx1 · #5 09-08-2009, 10:39 AM

Um, unless the fraternity you're rushing gives out bids year round, you have to wait until Spring Rush. It doesn't hurt to keep talking to the brothers, though.

Barbie's_Rush · #6 09-08-2009, 11:36 AM

So you would only want to make friends with these guys if they are able to give bids right away?

knight_shadow · #7 09-08-2009, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

So you would only want to make friends with these guys if they are able to give bids right away?

Who are you talking to?

DubaiSis · #8 09-08-2009, 11:49 AM

Did you ask the Greek Affairs office when/how fraternity rush happens? It sounds like you're still pretty hazy on how it works, and it's completely different for fraternities than sororities and from campus to campus. Try there first and you'll probably get all the answers you're after. Plus, fraternities who are looking for members will possibly be given your information and seek you out.

mikeCA · #9 09-08-2009, 09:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

So you would only want to make friends with these guys if they are able to give bids right away?

Not what I was asking at all.

Thanks for some of the suggestions.

APhiAnna · #10 09-09-2009, 03:13 PM

Well, you should try to befriend guys in houses, but because you are similar in personality and not because you need a connection to a house later on. That is going to seem really obvious to even the most clueless fraternity guys. So find the guys you get along with and rush their fraternity rather than picking what fraternity you want the most and trying to get along with their members (subtle difference, but I hope that's clear enough).

First of all, bonding with them drunk isn't even a bad thing, it might honestly be easiest that way ("Oh yeah, I met this hilarious guy last night at our house..."). If not, well...classes, intramural teams, sorority events, football games, any sports game for that matter...greeks are just normal people, they do the same stuff you do.

Honestly if I can give you one piece of advice, from the tone of your posts you seem to have put fraternity members on a pedestal. That is going to make you come off as whatever defense mechanism you put on when intimidated (fake, shy, awkward, douchey, it's different for everybody) and will not do you any favors. So that's why I'm saying pick what you love doing on campus and connect with the greeks you meet in a comfortable atmosphere. Don't set your heart on one chapter that is the most popular or whatever...be honest with where you'd really fit.

My dad always told me the best way to meet a (boyfriend/job connection/sorority member, etc) is to meet people in general. Sounds like you should be doing that. Who knows when even that one random GDI in your class tells his fraternity roommate, "Oh yeah I invited this fun guy to play beer pong before we go out on the row." So stop worrying about people and just go out and do it! Seriously, with 90% of the people in this world if you treat them like a normal person (not condescending and not sucking up either) they will be happy to give you a chance. I feel like people like to make excuses saying this isn't so, but it is.