Alumni Chapter in Trouble

[True_Greek]

Not with me but the wifes.

She managed to find a small alumni chapter of her sorority and things were pretty good for the first few years. But in the past year, they let got three more members and things have litteraly gone to hell in a hand basket.

Of the three, one is an alcoholic, who gets blotted at every single social. Another is a nympho, that acording to my wife, has already had it off with three of the husbands. She's already flirted with me but it hasn't gone further than that. And the third wat's to be the center of attention everywhere she goes, the utlimate topper.

My wife says that at least a dozen of her sisters are seriously thinking of leaving the chapter, my wife included. As most of these are the real active ones, it will be the kiss of death for the chapter, which is pretty small to begin with.

Most of them are still trying to figure out, how they voted them in in the first place.

To all the sisters out there, is this a very unusual situation, or do other chapters have similar situations?

[honeychile]

I've never heard of a sorority alumnae association which votes on accepting a member.

I'm calling shenanigans.

[ladygreek]

Why would the the greater number allow 3 folx to cause them to leave the chapter? Maybe they need to have a lemon squeeze.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by honeychile

I've never heard of a sorority alumnae association which votes on accepting a member.

I'm calling shenanigans.

Unless he means how they were voted in as collegians.

The unusual part to me is a hubby being all up in his wife's alum chapter - are they regularly having "socials" with men? What's the point?

[jojapeach]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Why would the the greater number allow 3 folx to cause them to leave the chapter?

Exactly! The majority who are already experienced in the sisterhood should be setting the tempo, not allowing three problems to kill a chapter.

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Maybe they need to have a lemon squeeze.

Is that a motion, Sistergreek? Seconded.

[jojapeach]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The unusual part to me is a hubby being all up in his wife's alum chapter - are they regularly having "socials" with men? What's the point?

It may be a matter of the husbands attending the chapter's events or having social nights. I know most of my sorors' husbands, and they are regular fixtures at our formal and informal events. We love our Sigma Gents!

But he does know a little too much about the chapter's business. Loose lips sink ships, and those would be the wife's lips. Sorority business shouldn't go outside the sorority.

[adpiucf]

Dude, it is an alumnae association. If a bunch of the members dislike the way it is being run, they can start a new chapter. And it's just an alumnae association.

[True_Greek]

The unusual part to me is a hubby being all up in his wife's alum chapter - are they regularly having "socials" with men? What's the point?

No, not usually 'up' on the chapter. But this is an unusual situation. And what is so 'secret' about what I said after all? Geez ladies, give me a break!

As for 'mixed" socials. We tend to have the ocasional barbeque and such where just about every one shows up. We are adults after all. That pretty much has stopped.

[adpiucf]

I'd send a letter to whoever is above the alumnae chapter-- like a regional director and then go and get involved with something else. If it isn't fun, there is no point. And please, no lectures on how it is a lifetime committment. We have a limited time on this earth-- I'd prefer to spend it working on projects that are meaningful and avoiding situations with people I can't stand.

[Drolefille]

Is this perhaps an NPHC alumna chapter, hence the "voting"?

[REE1993]

This post confuses me. Voting? Letting go of members?

I think that any Alumnae involvement is fabulous. Keeping the sisterhood alive past the collegiate experience is really something special to hang onto, if you can find other like-minded Sisters.

With any group of people, there will be dissention and difference of personalities/opinions/etc.

I think you should "let" your wife handle her involvement and actions herself. Seriously, my husband never has, and never would get into a situation between/among my Sisters (That goes for blood sisters too).

ETA: Which sorority is this? You don't have to name chapters.

[True_Greek]

I never said I was handling this. I dont interfere in her activities.

I just wanted to share and perhaps get some annonymous input.

As for naming names, do you think that will be wise?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by True_Greek

I never said I was handling this. I dont interfere in her activities.

I just wanted to share and perhaps get some annonymous input.

As for naming names, do you think that will be wise?

I think our big question is: Is this a NPC sorority, NPHC sorority, or "Other"

NPC alumna chapters and NPHC alumna chapters are different and knowing which one it is could let members of that conference/council give you better information.

Otherwise we're all just stabbing blindly in the dark.

[REE1993]

Drole, thanks. That's what I meant to ask.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by REE1993

Drole, thanks. That's what I meant to ask.

No problem. It just doesn't make sense as it stands.