Can non greek guys go to formals?

evorevo · #1 12-20-2006, 11:23 PM

May seem like a silly question. Anyway I'm a guy not involved in Greek Life. I am dating a girl and can see it progressing. She's accepting her bid in a sorority at my large state school in the spring. So question is, can a guy go to a formal even if they aren't in a fraternity? Is that common? Also would you say that girls in sororities usually add their sisters as a new group of friends or replace their friends?

Thanks

sigma_chi · #2 12-20-2006, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by evorevo

May seem like a silly question. Anyway I'm a guy not involved in Greek Life. I am dating a girl and can see it progressing. She's accepting her bid in a sorority at my large state school in the spring. So question is, can a guy go to a formal even if they aren't in a fraternity? Is that common? Also would you say that girls in sororities usually add their sisters as a new group of friends or replace their friends?

Thanks

Yes a non-greek guy can go to formals with a girl that is involved with a sorority. Yes her sisters will now become a part of her life but her friends if they are true friends will not be replaced by her sisters but they will defintly play apart of her life now.

#3 12-20-2006, 11:31 PM

She's accepting her bid to a sorority in the spring? So she's rushing in the spring and isn't even a member yet?

My college BF and all the guys I brought to formal were non Greek. Most of the girls in my chapter dated non Greeks. There were only a few girls who dated fraternity members. It wasn't a problem. It really depends on your Greek campus culture.

While the chapter consumed much of my time as a collegian, I managed to keep both groups of friends.

AGDLynn · #4 12-20-2006, 11:35 PM

You can go to the formal. If it were limited to only the sorority and fraternity members, it would be called a socail/mixer/exchange, etc.

I'd hope that your gf would add her sorority sisters to her world of friends; although I'll be honest, esp. in the beginning, it may seem like she doesn't have time for the "outside" world, but that doesn't mean that she wants to give up on her old world so fast.

Just try to be understanding..she's prob got required meetings/events to go to..some things you will be allowed to come to/some not..but then that's life.

Something that caught my eye.."she's accepting a bid in the spring". I assume you mean she's going to spring recruitment?? Sororities aren't "supposed" to tell someone they are definitely getting a bid before it is actually voted on by the entire chapter. Strange things happen, and she may not get/accept one.

evorevo · #5 12-20-2006, 11:44 PM

ahh thanks. Well she rushed in the fall and was offered a bid but put it off until the spring. Yeah I guess the fact that she wants to use it as a way to get more involved and hopefully meet a few great friends is good to know. Thanks for your opinions

Elephant Walk · #6 12-21-2006, 11:52 AM

It's looked down upon when a guy brings a GDI girl to formal, so I can't see any difference.

Tom Earp · #7 12-21-2006, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

It's looked down upon when a guy brings a GDI girl to formal, so I can't see any difference.

Why is that?

I do not fully understand what you are saying.

If a he likes a she or a she likes a he, then they are dating and GLOs are not that exclusive that I know of.

valkyrie · #8 12-21-2006, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

It's looked down upon when a guy brings a GDI girl to formal, so I can't see any difference.

It's looked down upon when a guy calls himself "Elephant Walk," so I can't see any reason to pay attention to this.

shinerbock · #9 12-21-2006, 05:43 PM

Its true, there is a certain drop off when it comes to greek/non greeks at formals and such. Doesn't mean anybody is gonna beat him or her up or openly berate them, but it may take longer for members to warm up to a non-greek.

PiKA2001 · #10 12-21-2006, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by shinerbock

Its true, there is a certain drop off when it comes to greek/non greeks at formals and such. Doesn't mean anybody is gonna beat him or her up or openly berate them, but it may take longer for members to warm up to a non-greek.

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

Drolefille · #11 12-21-2006, 05:57 PM

Our formals had all types. Fraternity boyfriends, GDI boyfriends, the guys who come to every one of your parties with someone, and the randoms/set-ups which could be through fraternity friends or dormmates. If a guy didn't have anyone to talk to, it's because he isolated himself. (or the couple did) Seemed like at our tables while the girls drove the conversation(duh), the guys always managed to fit in with everyone, not just other greeks.

It certainly depends on the atmosphere of the school, and the attitudes of the girls. I'd think that if the girls snub him, the guys won't go out of their way. And if the girls include/accept him, their dates will come along for the ride.

/IMO

WVU alpha phi · #12 12-21-2006, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by PiKA2001

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

Agreed. We choose our tables beforehand, and some of the girls (including me) arranged who we would sit with based on what fraternity our dates were in. I think it's just better this way because atleast your date has his friends at the table too and you don't have to entertain him.

JamesBond007 · #13 12-21-2006, 07:18 PM

Curious...do you serve...martinis at these formals? Shaken, not stirred of course.

Elephant Walk · #14 12-21-2006, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by PiKA2001

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

Exactly. It's a family affair when we go to formals and my brothers will always be there at them. We sit with them, which usually leaves the random GDI out in the cold.

ilovehellweek · #15 12-21-2006, 09:21 PM

Yeah Non greeks can go to formals. I don't believe that's been an issue.