Rho Gammas

RushLeader08 · #1 12-28-2007, 12:50 AM

i interviewed and was selected to be a rho gamma next year. but i didnt tell anyone in my sorority. we have certain rules about who is allowed to do it, and everyone decided that i had to stay for rush because im one of the prettiest girls in our chapter.
its really unfair because of the rush system we have. the prettiest girls stand near the front door and walk girls into the house where they are paired with someone else. really pretty girls get paired with all the bestlooking rushees, plain janes are paired with normal girls, etc.
were only allowed to be a rho gamma if you are in group 4. selections will be posted on the greek website first day of class- heres my question

should i tell my exec now or wait for them to find out. im afraid that if i tell them now i will be pressured to resign my spot.

anyone else been in a similar situation? i know all the sororities here do it except for the best ones because they have so many pretty girls it doesnt matter.

violetpretty · #2 12-28-2007, 01:07 AM

Since you've already been selected, maybe try talking to the Rho Gamma coordinator or Panhellenic VP Recruitment on how to tell your chapter. I can't see how your chapter could force you to resign the position. Having good Rho Gammas is important! You're recruiting PNMs for the whole community.

My chapter's VP Membership was sad that I wouldn't be recruiting for SK last spring, because she says I am good at recruiting, but we'd never tell someone she CAN'T become a Rho Gamma.

GymnastA · #3 12-28-2007, 01:25 AM

On the flip side, it probably wasn't in your best interest to go behind the chapter's back and apply and be selected for a Rho Gamma position. I do think it's unfair that only "group 4" girls can apply for the position, but if you don't tell your chapter now, it will be a bigger deal when they do find out. Tell them ASAP, and hopefully you ladies can work something out!

MaggieXi · #4 12-28-2007, 10:08 AM

I would have thought that the chapter would have had to verify your standing (like that you were active, didn't owe serious money, etc.) to become a rho gamma.

If you are close to someone on your executive board (or whatever you might call it) I would talk to them first.

AlphaFrog · #5 12-28-2007, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by RushLeader08

its really unfair because of the rush system we have. the prettiest girls stand near the front door and walk girls into the house where they are paired with someone else. really pretty girls get paired with all the bestlooking rushees, plain janes are paired with normal girls, etc.

Unfortunately, rush is a pretty superficial process when it comes right down to it, and your "system" is in place because that's what works for the sorority as a whole, and is in the best interest of the group.

But I'm SOOOOO sorry that you're too pretty to be a RhoGam. It must suck to be you.

33girl · #6 12-28-2007, 10:19 AM

I don't blame you for disliking your chapter's system, I wouldn't be jazzed about something that's basically using me for my looks - and then you don't even get to talk to the girl, you hand her off to someone else!

If you're resentful of being there, it doesn't matter how perfect your face or figure, that is going to come through and NOT create a good impression on the rushees.

Definitely stay in your rho gamma position, and explain exactly why you decided to take it.

SthrnZeta · #7 12-28-2007, 11:28 AM

My chapter's EC had to approve you before you even applied. Sure helped to avoid situations like this... I say tell them before they find out. No sense in creating drama if you can avoid it.

twinkle555 · #8 12-28-2007, 02:42 PM

i applied for Pi Chi recently(I dont find out until a month from now) and i have had a few sisters come up to me and tell me that i shouldnt have because they say im good at recruiting (i feel like a clutz though).

I think its good to have strong Pi Chis/Rho Gammas, they have to deal with so much that they have to be strong women! I say tell them now and if they make a fuss, just let them know that it was something you wanted to do to make not only your chapter, but Panhellenic as a whole better.

Benzgirl · #9 12-28-2007, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Unfortunately, rush is a pretty superficial process when it comes right down to it, and your "system" is in place because that's what works for the sorority as a whole, and is in the best interest of the group.

But I'm SOOOOO sorry that you're too pretty to be a RhoGam. It must suck to be you.

"Don't hate me because I'm beautiful". Pantene commercial from the 80s featuring Kelly LeBrock

Fawn Liebowitz · #10 12-28-2007, 03:01 PM

I can't believe no one has said anything about being "intimidated by her hotness" - That's one of my favorite phrases from GC.

33girl · #11 12-28-2007, 03:10 PM

I don't think she's bragging - on the contrary, it sounds like she thinks her chapter just picked her for her looks and that they are the main thing she has to offer, and that kind of bites.

Thetagirl218 · #12 12-28-2007, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't think she's bragging - on the contrary, it sounds like she thinks her chapter just picked her for her looks and that they are the main thing she has to offer, and that kind of bites.

I got the same thing from her post. ...You need to tell your chapter, be firm, tell them why you stood up and wanted to be Pi Chi/ Rho Gamma. They may be upset, but they have to realize that you are representing your sorority by serving a position in Panhellenic!

It is soo important to have good Pi Chis!!!!

AlphaFrog · #13 12-28-2007, 04:31 PM

If you promise to dirty rush a few girls, I'm sure they'll change their mind.

-Only kidding, of course.

RushLeader08 · #14 12-28-2007, 10:01 PM

why did i do this??? its like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. i dont like rushing because bid meeting are so mean. girls fight and yell and scream so i wanted to be a rho gamma.
i told my big i did it because we are not that close and i thought we could bond over the situation and at least something good could come of this. she just got mad and said i shouldnt have done it and that she was so embarrassed. im sorry, but i messed up you know???
but she said she wouldnt tell exec but that i had to so i guess i will soon.

i know they are going to make me talk about stupid stuff and when i give a girl a 10 no one will care because i always give girls 10s but its because i get all the good ones.

what is an easy let down? i want to keep my spot i would even tell girls what the best houses are. i dont want them to be clueless you know?? ill be a good rho gamma. i just dont want them to make me quit. sorry i know no one can really help me because i did it to myself. its just so unfair. i hate rush.

RushLeader08 · #15 12-28-2007, 10:04 PM

i dont want to be mean but i didnt know i was in a bad sorority during rush. all the fat rho gammas were in my sorority!! im not the prettiest but there are some well lets say not very attractive girls in my sorority.
i love my sisters but looks are not everything. so many girls have good personalities that we shouldnt care but they do anyway. i will barf if i have to talk to stupid barbies on group 1. i will tell them i do coke!!