Somethings I've noticed

GtownGirl98 · #1 08-29-2006, 07:33 PM

There are two things that I have noticed on this board...

One... Recruitment Story people are not coming back to us what sorority was what... very sad... because they tell us great stories but then we don't know what group was what.

BUT I understand if the girls didn't get into a group... just in case someone has figured them out... but if you get into a group... please tell us what group is what code name.

TWO... if you are getting Recs for sororities... get as many as possible for each group because in some groups the more you have the more points you get... just a thought!

texas*princess · #2 08-29-2006, 07:56 PM

Personally it doesn't bother me if the girls chose not to say that Pink was ABC, and Blue was DE and Purple was XYZ. Does it really matter? If they ended up with a house they are excitied to be in, I thought that is what all of the recruitment threads were about?

Is someone really going to take the time to read each and every day of recruitment again to see what she thought of the sororities now that the world knows who the code names were for? I guess I don't have as much free time as everyone else

Plus, I think (just imho) that it's probably better if they didn't go back and say who was who - mainly because if she didn't like a particular house during recruitment, for her to come back and say, "By the way, the house I cut because their girl couldn't carry a conversation was BLUE which was ABC" might offend people if it's their GLO and/or home chapter.

And I didn't know you get extra points if you have more than 1 rec per house.. I must have missed that when I was doing recruitment on the sister-side

#3 08-29-2006, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

Personally it doesn't bother me if the girls chose not to say that Pink was ABC, and Blue was DE and Purple was XYZ. Does it really matter? If they ended up with a house they are excitied to be in, I thought that is what all of the recruitment threads were about?

Is someone really going to take the time to read each and every day of recruitment again to see what she thought of the sororities now that the world knows who the code names were for? I guess I don't have as much free time as everyone else

Plus, I think (just imho) that it's probably better if they didn't go back and say who was who - mainly because if she didn't like a particular house during recruitment, for her to come back and say, "By the way, the house I cut because their girl couldn't carry a conversation was BLUE which was ABC" might offend people if it's their GLO and/or home chapter.

There was that one situation on GC a couple of years back where the things the PNM said online came back to bite her in the ass even after she received a bid into a house.

IIRC, the sisters in her new house read her feelings about that house during rush after they extended her a bid. What she wrote wasn't horrible, but I could see how it would rub off the wrong way. Needless to say, she was alienated by the majority of the sisters in that house and eventually depledged. All because of what she wrote on GC.

I'm all for honesty and openness when done right (like Curly the UF KKG's rush thread), but I don't blame PNMs for not revealing the keys to their code.

blackngoldengrl · #4 08-29-2006, 08:15 PM

As much as I would like to know sometimes, wouldn't revealing the codes, defeat the purpose of the codes?
I know that I would love to see what someone thought of Theta, (hopefully good things!) but not at the risk of a new member being thought of negatively. You KNOW someone will be offended, even if the comment doesn't seem that bad.

pinkyphimu · #5 08-29-2006, 10:06 PM

if someone wants to reveal the codes then great, but truthfully, it isn't a big deal to me. especially for the recruitments with a zillion houses, i also don't have time to re-read everything.

i have to agree with the last few posts that it is probably in the best interest of the pnm/ new member to just not tell.

GtownGirl98 · #6 08-29-2006, 11:44 PM

First of all... it wouldn't be rereading for me because I don't read the post the first time (which other people on here have commented about). I like to know who each group is... pink blue or yellow. Also, I was not blaming them for not posting... I just noticed this year that no one is going back to post who was who.
OTW... I wasn't aware that a member had had an issue. That is really sad that a chapter wouldn't see this for what it is...
And to be honest... the "stories" are so filled with fluff these days that most of the time I really don't think that it would hurt to reveal.

Texas-Princess... I really don't feel that your bite is needed... I could just be tired but that really isn't needed... I was just pointing out that in some chapters... maybe not yours... that having more than one rec isn't going to hurt you and could very much help you. Isn't that the point of recs... and I was just giving advice to all the young ladies that are gearing up for their recruitment next year and starting to wonder about this REC thing. That if they know four SK that they should ask all 4 of them for a REC and if they only know 1 AOP then they might want to seek out more.

#7 08-29-2006, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by GtownGirl98

First of all... it wouldn't be rereading for me because I don't read the post the first time (which other people on here have commented about). I like to know who each group is... pink blue or yellow. Also, I was not blaming them for not posting... I just noticed this year that no one is going back to post who was who.
OTW... I wasn't aware that a member had had an issue. That is really sad that a chapter wouldn't see this for what it is...
And to be honest... the "stories" are so filled with fluff these days that most of the time I really don't think that it would hurt to reveal.

Once GC got wind of what happened to this PNM, "DISCRETION IS KEY" kept sounding like a broken record. GC readership has definitely grown since then (I want to say that this was in 2001 or 2002, can't remember), and with that, someone's going to get offended. That's something you just can't control. GC's a pretty powerful thing...it could definitely affect a PNM's chances of getting a bid. The same can be said about AI as well. (But that's for another thread)

In a perfect world, all rush stories would be like Curly's.

KSUViolet06 · #8 08-30-2006, 12:08 AM

I feel like it doesn't really matter who was which code name in the end. Girls do the code name thing to avoid identifying chapters they maybe didn't click with (just in case a member of that sorority or even that chapter might get offended). It has happened before. It's probably best that they don't anyway. I think if you really want to know, ask them via PM.

Buttonz · #9 08-30-2006, 01:16 AM

I'd love to see what the girls that go through rush at a campus that has SDT think about us, but I can understand why they don't go back and say who is who.

tunatartare · #10 08-30-2006, 09:46 AM

OTW- who was that pnm?

AchtungBaby80 · #11 08-30-2006, 11:25 AM

I understand why they might not want to identify which code name went with what particular chapter, mainly for the reasons you all have stated above. The important thing is that they tell us what eventually happened (i.e. where they ended up pledging, or whatever)!

#12 08-30-2006, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

OTW- who was that pnm?

I'd rather not say publicly. Check your PMs though.

tunatartare · #13 08-30-2006, 02:37 PM

thanks

honeychile · #14 08-30-2006, 03:15 PM

I agree with Buttonz. I'd LOVE to know what we did right or wrong, but in the end, it's nobody's business but the PNM's.

Also, and this may just be an ADPi thing, there are chapters where too many recs is worse than none at all. Frankly, I think that one strong rec, and maybe a letter of support is vastly superior to 4 recs that say essentially the same thing.

adpiucf · #15 08-30-2006, 07:10 PM

I agree. It is something I noticed, too, and I applaud the PNM's for using discretion and not saying "I hated Blue House on Day 2" and then at the end saying, oh yeah-- that was YOUR sorority. I think it shows tact and maturity, and it is their story to share or not.

And more recs doesn't equal more "points"-- each sorority evaluates recs differently, and different schools place more weight on recs than others. A PNM should ask students at her school, recent alumnae from the school or the office of Greek Life what's typical and go from there.