GreekChat.com Forums  

Go Back   GreekChat.com Forums > General Chat Topics > Chit Chat
Register FAQ Community Calendar Today's Posts Search

Chit Chat The Chit Chat forum is for discussions that do not fit into the forum topics listed below.

» GC Stats
Members: 329,717
Threads: 115,665
Posts: 2,204,946
Welcome to our newest member, Vortexref
» Online Users: 1,650
0 members and 1,650 guests
No Members online
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 07-15-2006, 09:44 AM
PhiMuLady150 PhiMuLady150 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Posts: 428
Angry Wedding Question

Hey,

So I am a House Party member for friend of mine's wedding in the Fall. There are 2-3 other girls who share this role with me. I e-mailed to ask some questions and she said she was going over with her planner soon about our roles and that she would get back to me. She also told I would be invited to the rehearshal dinner, etc, and that they had a block of rooms if I needed a hotel and maybe share with the other girls in the wedding. However, I have talked with another house party member about sharing and she was told her accomidations would be "taken care off." I have to admit I'm a little irked and I am not sure how to approach this with the bride. I went ahead and asked how much the hotel cost and am waiting for the answer. I don't understand why I was told one thing and the other girl was told another.
__________________
Adrienne
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 07-15-2006, 09:59 AM
PM_Mama00 PM_Mama00 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Michigan
Posts: 5,807
Send a message via AIM to PM_Mama00 Send a message via Yahoo to PM_Mama00
What's a House Party member? I've never heard that term before.
__________________
Proud to be a Macon Magnolia!

KLTC
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 07-15-2006, 10:07 AM
FSUZeta FSUZeta is offline
Super Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: naples, florida
Posts: 18,649
perhaps the bride just made a mistake and meant to tell you that the room was taken care of? since she did not swear to secrecy the other girl, that is what i would guess. i would wait to see if the bride gets back with you on the cost of the room.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 07-15-2006, 11:27 AM
PhiMuLady150 PhiMuLady150 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Posts: 428
Lightbulb

Quote:
Originally Posted by PM_Mama00
What's a House Party member? I've never heard that term before.
PM_Mama00,

Supposedly it's a long standing tradition of a group of people who help the bride "hostess" at the wedding but aren't invited to be part of the mainstream wedding party. This is the 2nd wedding I've been a house party member. The last wedding where I was this role, I lit the candles in the sanctuary prior to the wedding ceremony. They assigned special tasks that aren't delegated to the bridesmaids or groomsmen.
__________________
Adrienne
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 07-15-2006, 11:28 AM
PhiMuLady150 PhiMuLady150 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Posts: 428
Lightbulb

Quote:
Originally Posted by FSUZeta
perhaps the bride just made a mistake and meant to tell you that the room was taken care of? since she did not swear to secrecy the other girl, that is what i would guess. i would wait to see if the bride gets back with you on the cost of the room.
FSUZeta,

Thanks. I'll keep everyone updated when I hear from her.
__________________
Adrienne
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 07-15-2006, 03:12 PM
Tom Earp Tom Earp is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2000
Location: Kansas City, Kansas USA
Posts: 23,584
People should not get married. Just live in sin. It is a lot cheaper and easier!

God dang, Marriages can be so tramatic for both paties, not counting $$$$!
__________________
LCA


LX Z # 1
Alumni
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 07-15-2006, 03:22 PM
DSTRen13 DSTRen13 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Georgia
Posts: 1,343
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tom Earp
People should not get married. Just live in sin. It is a lot cheaper and easier!

God dang, Marriages can be so tramatic for both paties, not counting $$$$!
Just about every member of my family has repeatedly told me and my fiance to elope ... preferably as soon as possible, so no one has to worry about it anymore. Such a sentimental bunch
__________________
Delta Sigma Theta "But if she wears the Delta symbol, then her first love is D-S-T ..."
Omega Phi Alpha "Blue like the colors of night and day, gold like the sun's bright shining ray ..."
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 07-15-2006, 04:31 PM
Tom Earp Tom Earp is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2000
Location: Kansas City, Kansas USA
Posts: 23,584
Quote:
Originally Posted by DSTRen13
Just about every member of my family has repeatedly told me and my fiance to elope ... preferably as soon as possible, so no one has to worry about it anymore. Such a sentimental bunch

Truth is stranger than fact!
__________________
LCA


LX Z # 1
Alumni
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 07-16-2006, 11:28 AM
MaryAmanda MaryAmanda is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Atlanta, GA
Posts: 197
My mother has always told me I should elope...not only because my family's big (9 uncles, 6 aunts, and 21 first cousins), but also because she doesn't want to pay for it.

Also, when my sister and I were little, my mom promised us $1000 each if we waited until we were 30 to get married.

As for not derailing this topic, PhiMuLady, I'm sure it's just a misunderstanding. Planning a wedding is a huge hassle I'm sure, and she probably just forgot to let you in on that tidbit. Best of luck with that!
__________________
Omega Phi Alpha Nu Chapter
Alpha Phi
The brand-new Iota Mu Chapter!

A Ramblin' Wreck from Georgia Tech - Class of 2007
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 07-16-2006, 01:18 PM
adpiucf adpiucf is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: I can't seem to keep track!
Posts: 5,803
Quote:
Originally Posted by PhiMuLady150
Hey,
She also told I would be invited to the rehearshal dinner, etc, and that they had a block of rooms if I needed a hotel and maybe share with the other girls in the wedding. However, I have talked with another house party member about sharing and she was told her accomidations would be "taken care off." I have to admit I'm a little irked and I am not sure how to approach this with the bride. I went ahead and asked how much the hotel cost and am waiting for the answer. I don't understand why I was told one thing and the other girl was told another.
Here's an idea. Call the bride. She's insanely busy and stressed out. Too many people use email as a crutch. You're also going by hearsay. Maybe accomodations would be "taken care of" means that a block of rooms has been reserved. Call people and be proactive.

I hardly doubt the bride is paying for some people's rooms and leaving other attendants on their own. And if she is, that's incredibly stupid.
__________________
Click here for some helpful information about sorority recruitment and recommendations.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 07-17-2006, 09:48 AM
xo_kathy xo_kathy is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: NY
Posts: 2,170
Quote:
Originally Posted by adpiucf

I hardly doubt the bride is paying for some people's rooms and leaving other attendants on their own. And if she is, that's incredibly stupid.
I don't think it's "incredibly stupid" to pay for some and not others. I did this. Each bride needs to make their own decision about things. I knew the financial situation of my various attendants. One had the means to pay it all when I asked, then some things came up. Instead of making her step down b/c she couldn't afford everything, I helped her out with her dress and offered her the spare bed at my apartment (parents were in our room, we were at a hotel). I could have offered it to any of my attendants, but I knew she couldn't afford the hotel so she got the offer.

Now, if she is paying for everyone except PhiMuLady, that's one thing, but if she's helping out an attendant or two, that's really no one's business but the bride.
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 07-18-2006, 02:11 AM
jadis96 jadis96 is offline
GreekChat Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Posts: 312
Send a message via AIM to jadis96 Send a message via Yahoo to jadis96
Quote:
Originally Posted by xo_kathy
I don't think it's "incredibly stupid" to pay for some and not others. I did this. Each bride needs to make their own decision about things. I knew the financial situation of my various attendants. One had the means to pay it all when I asked, then some things came up. Instead of making her step down b/c she couldn't afford everything, I helped her out with her dress and offered her the spare bed at my apartment (parents were in our room, we were at a hotel). I could have offered it to any of my attendants, but I knew she couldn't afford the hotel so she got the offer.

Now, if she is paying for everyone except PhiMuLady, that's one thing, but if she's helping out an attendant or two, that's really no one's business but the bride.
My college roomate was in this position. There were 5 bridesmaids and we all worked full time and could afford to be in the wedding. Two months before the wedding the maid of honor told the bride she had to drop out along with her daughter (1 of the 2 flower girls) because of money issues, the bride helped her out by making arraignments for her to stay with friends in town and also to pay for her shoes and help with the cost of the dresses. All of us understood because the bride was upfront about helping out a friend.

When my brother got married my dad and mom paid for all the groomsmen's/ best mans tuxes because they were just out of college and my parent had known them for years and wanted to help them out. But they did not know the bridesmaids so they didn't make them this offer.
Reply With Quote
Reply


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Wedding question KappaKittyCat Chit Chat 45 08-10-2004 07:25 AM
wedding question? rainbowbrightCS Chit Chat 6 02-17-2004 11:10 PM
why? (wedding question) smiley21 Chit Chat 45 01-01-2004 05:08 PM
a wedding question maggieaxid Alpha Xi Delta 8 06-03-2003 03:38 PM
Wedding Question maggieaxid Chit Chat 4 03-04-2002 11:23 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 04:42 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.