Your Freshmen Year...Sucked or was Awesome?

FiReKraCkEr · #1 08-06-2002, 03:38 AM

This summer I have taken time out from my partying and frolicking to evaluated my first year of college..... I've come to the conclusion that it coulda been better. And I do blame myself for allowing myself for making it suck

I'm glad I took this time to learn my lessons and push ahead

I assure you that I am not a negative person, but some of the crap I went through my Freshmen year....I do not wish on anyone else. This includes stupid relationships with boys, destructive friendships, and other things that I should not mention

Although it was pretty rough, I did meet awesome folks (including my sisters!!) and had a LOT of fun.

SO, my question is...how was your Freshmen year? What life's lessons did you learn?

Ivory

Allie · #2 08-06-2002, 05:18 AM

I learned GREAT study habits from my freshman year. I tended to party a little excessivly, but once I saw my grades, wow! I studied like it was my job, needless to say my grades have skyrocketed and my dean has noticed the change.

One key thing I learned about life is, to love myself. If I can't even manage to love me, who else can?

AOX81 · #3 08-06-2002, 08:13 AM

I went to a community college for my freshman year of school. It sucked

RedRoseSAI · #4 08-06-2002, 09:42 AM

Oh man, my freshman year was AWESOME! Made some great friends who are still with me today. To be honest, though, I partied a little to much, and studied a little to...uh...little. When all was said and done, I think the two lessons I walked away with were:

1) Guys are still immature at 18, 19, 20 (now that I'm 26, this seems obvious, but it was a revalation at 18!)

2) Don't bite off more than you can chew when it comes to your courseload. You don't get an A for trying to be a hero.

ZTAngel · #5 08-06-2002, 09:55 AM

My freshman year was awesome. Probably my favorite year so far (my senior year might be better). I think what made it fun was that I was so naive and innocent. I don't think I would've done the things I did back then if I knew what I now know. But, I think that's what made it so much fun...the fact that I didn't know any better. I stayed out until 4am every night and was somehow able to make it to my 10am class the next day without a hang over. I thought that guys really meant it when they told you that they really want to take you out on a date.

Lessons I learned:

1) Beer before liquor, never been sicker. This is an important lesson.

2) Walls in college apartments tend to be very thin. If your roommate brings a guy home, make sure to spend the night out of the apartment or you might hear some things you wish you never heard.

3) The best way to keep a guy interested: don't be so quick to hook-up with him (I'm talking about hooking up...not sleeping with!).

4) One bad grade will ruin your GPA for all eternity.

5) Many professors do not care about you (notice I did not say all professors). They have a research grant and that is the only reason why they are teaching you.

6) Do not spend all the food money your parents give you on beer. I had a friend who didn't eat but drank lots of beer. She got very sick (obviously).

7) The walk-of-shame is very shameful.

8) If you come to college still dating your high school sweetheart, there is a 98% chance that you won't last until March. (just some of my well-observed statistics)

9) Do not call your parents when you are drunk. They will remind you of this at the next family reunion and it will be very embarrassing.

10) Do not call guys you have a crush on when you are drunk. They probably won't remind you of your drunkeness because they probably won't ever speak to you again (sheer awkwardness).

ChiOqt · #6 08-06-2002, 10:19 AM

My freshman year at the time sucked because I was really unhappy where I choose to go to school. But when I look back on how it all changed me and the experience of it all it was awesome. And it just makes me more gratefull for where I am now.
*When the cops show up to bust a party, do NOT laugh at them and try to be friendly
*Liquor before beer, have no fear...yeah it really works
*Your family is one of your most valuable resources. WHen you're away you'll realize how much the mean to you
* DO NOT..whatever you do....go away to college with a boyfriend from high school...espeically if you're going to different states!!!!!
*Make friends with everyone on your hall
*STUDY
*Go to classs...something I'm still catching on to
*STUDY
*It's ok to admit that you made the wrong decision as long as you're prepared to fix it

#7 08-06-2002, 10:24 AM

Mine was about half and half.

I came to college still with my homet0wn boyfriend, and therefore wanted to be home every weekend, but didn't have a car.

Because of this, I had no interest in making friends at school (I planned to drop out of school after the first year anyway... I didn't really have any interest in college at that point)... but when he and I broke up about halfway through first semester, I realized that I had no friends, and it sucked, so I had to catch up and start meeting people, when everyone else already had.

Second semester was totally different. I had made quite a few friends, was over the guy from home, and was happy to be in school. I started pledging DO and made the greatest friends I'll ever meet, found a new boyfriend (though it didn't last), and started enjoying my independence!

My best year over all was definitely my sophomore year, though!

Dionysus · #8 08-06-2002, 12:18 PM

Well, actually my loss of sanity happened the first TWO years, not just my freshman year. My freshman year was probably the lowest point in my life and my sophomore year was probably the highest, still I was equally as insane.

*Never choose to attend a school that you don't know a lot about. You can't judge from looking on the campus and the college's website.

*Save up your money BEFORE you reach college, so you can attend out of state/city.

*Your social life should NEVER come first or even second.

*Do NOT spin over $500 of your "student credit card" on FOOD in one semester.

*Walk away from a friend/group of friends/organization/boyfriend when it gets too bad, you can't make anyone like you, or forgive you for something that you didn't even do. The more you stick around the more damage it will do.

*Evening classe are cool!

*Cliques are bad. It's better to have your friends and allies scattered. Never put all of your trust in one group or single friend.

*If you were sheltered, never reveal your naiveness.

*PEER PRESSURE CAN EFFECT YOU AFTER HIGH SCHOOL. Why did my HS teachers and parents tell me the opposite?

*When someone gets violent at a party, don't stick around to see what happens or you may decked with a chair and beer bottle.

*Get fed and drugged (caffiened) before your classes and study sessions.

*Never study w/ your friends, it turns into a gossip session instead and you get no work done.

*In any organization, Greek or non, chap./org. listserves are the DOWNFALL of communication. You know, don't send out a email the same day or night before of an event.

*Don't fight on your listserve or you may lose four members including your advisor.

Things go a lot smoother when you "talk things out" in person.

*Possibly related to the above one. Don't hold in your frustrations, you will snap some day.

*Two dates for Homecoming=baaaadddd idea!

UF_PikePC98 · #9 08-06-2002, 12:50 PM

My freshman year was fun. While I didn't know as much as I now know, I still had alot of fun. I did get mixed up in A LOT of things but evenutally it all panned out and things got better. I made some awesome friends and became a member of the best fraternity at our school. Even though I was a freshman I still got laid when I wanted to. My freshman year was like one big party for me. I would go to bed at 5 or 6 am and wake up at 9am for a 9:50 am class. The only class I have ever been kicked out of was in my freshman term. I came in late to my Latin course and I hadn't slept all night, I rinked of the smell of alcohol. I had a hot freshman girl drive me to class and she waited out in the car for me. I stumbled in and my prof was like " I didn't think we were going to be blessed with your presence today." I was already in a pissy mood and so I relpied with the class's attention, " I've been up all night drinking and I havent slept, I have a hot chick in the car waiting on me and your acting like a Vaginous Maximous, (Latin for Great Vagina) what do you want me to do?" He told me to go and don't come back.

I think my freshman term was very fun but each year following it has been even better. I did some crazy things and learned alot of things from them. As in some of the other posts, I too wish i had known then what I now know.

lifesaver · #10 08-06-2002, 12:54 PM

Sucked because i wasnt ready for it. I had no preperation for what to expect, and I hated the first school I was at. I was 14 hours from home, and didnt go to see my friends and family from August to Christmas break. So i made the break, clean, and had to be on my own.

It was awesome tho, because I learned more there in those 9 months than I had learned in the previous 18, and wouldnt trade any part of the experience. It made me who I am today. I grew about 5 years emotionally that year. I can truely say thats when I became an adult.

Starlet · #11 08-06-2002, 03:51 PM

My freshman year was awesome...maybe the best year as I am entering my last year in college this fall. I loved meeting everyone on my dorm floor and going out every night, though this had repercussions when you had mostly 9am classes. However, I must say that my grades have definitely gone up since my first year. I think freshman year was the best for the one reason that everything was new and different from what I had ever experienced before. I treasure the friends that I am still close with since freshman year and love reminiscing with them about all the parties we went to and how much we've changed since then, i.e. the different fraternities we hung out at freshman year compared to now. Hmm...I think most people have said what I was going to say about what I learned during freshman year, but I must include these two:

Procrastination is evil, evil, evil...and I think it's some type of disorder because I have had it since high school and I cannot stop it!

Beware of jungle juice...it will hit you later that night and it won't be pretty. I'm speaking from personal experience.

Peaches-n-Cream · #12 08-06-2002, 04:40 PM

I wish that I had not been so shy when I first arrived at college. I had a great roommate, and we got along great. I lived on a floor of mostly sophomores. I was shy, and they weren't very welcoming or friendly so I didn't get to know many of them. I regret that. I moved for my sophomore year. The best move I ever made.

Interestingly enough, a few years after college, a woman who lived on my floor wound up working at my mother's law firm. My mother asked her if she knew me since we went to the same school. She said no. I told my mom of course she didn't know me, we lived on the same floor.

Except for my floor, my freshman year was great until I got mono and had to go home early.

ladybug1116 · #13 08-06-2002, 05:08 PM

My freshman year was pretty good. I was pretty shy going into college so it was initially hard to meet people. I was involved on campus from day 1 though, so eventually I became more confident and outgoing. The spring of my freshman year was the best...that was when I really met and bonded with the people I was closest to throughout college (and even now after graduation). I look back though and think about how naive I was in regards to some things and it's pretty funny. Like someone else mentioned, I can't believe the crazy hours I used to keep. I have no idea how I pulled it together taking a very time consuming courseload, routinely surviving on almost no sleep, staying out all the time...Thankfully I was one of the lucky few who managed to keep my grades up....no way would my parents have let me come back to school (where they were paying out of state tuition) if I hadn't. As far as ranking my freshman year against the other years of school....I really think each year got better and better....

APhi · #14 08-06-2002, 05:33 PM

My freshman year was both - it sucked and it was awesome. The bad part was my freshman year roomate who was incredibly evil. I found out a little too late that she was trying to drive me out. She'd met a girl at orientation who was originally slated to be her roomate and they'd gotten along wonderfully. Then, that girl changed her mind and heard that Sewall was THE dorm to live in and switched her request. Then, after school started she decided she wanted to back in our dorm where she was originally supposed to be. Apparently my darling roomie thought she could get me out and original girl back in if she just excluded me enough, lost enough phone messages, cursed out enough of my friends, etc. Why I didn't demand a transfer I'll never know. I think I was being stubborn and decided if she was evil and all she wanted was for me to move then I wasn't going to give her the pleasure. Sigh... if I had it all to do again knowing what I know now... C'est la vie.

On the bright side I had my sorority sisters to see me through. I couldn't hang out in my dorm so I had to do all my studying in the library or at study hours. I was also looking for excuses to stay busy so I signed up for Powder Puff football, Songfest, a little singing group we had going, you name it I was there.

In the end I still had a lot of fun and learned a lot about myself, my limits, weaknesses and strengths. I can't say I'd do it all the same but I can say I tried and I've grown tremdously as a person. I'm trying to learn not to look back and question too much, you just drive yourself crazy. Plus, everything I've done has helped make me the person I am today.

chioangel83 · #15 08-06-2002, 06:02 PM

My freshman year was mixed. Had a great time meeting lots of new people, experiencing live without parents for the first time, and of course joining Chi Omega, but other aspects were not so great. I had the roommate from HELL!!!! Literally. She was evil. We had zilch in common..I swear the housing staff never even read our living preferences survey we filled out when applying. So anyways, my roomie was the biggest stoner I have ever met...she got high 24/7 and would go to class drunk all the time as well. She was a VERY loud drunk...you could hear her from like 10 mins away before she even entered the hall, so it made it really hard to sleep/study. And I think I only saw her crack open a textbook like 2 times the entire year! She never had class before 2pm so she would stay up all night and sleep in really late while my schedule of classes was the opposite...early morning and done by 3. Oh and of course she was anti-greek so she had many wonderful things to say about sororities and fraternities.

But, I have tons of great memories from my first year and for the most part had a great time. This first year of college helped me to grow a lot as a person and I feel that I changed in many ways since HS. I have become a lot more outgoing and have tried/experienced many wonderful new things this past year. (EX: I saw snow for the first time and attempted to go snowboarding; went to my first concert EVER, etc). I learned many important things about life, love, myself, getting along with others, the "real world," etc.

~"Don't Cry because it's over, Smile because it happened."