Is it just me?

Dionysus · #1 05-15-2006, 01:08 PM

Are other women awful at matchmaking?

It seems to me that A. They won't to introduce me to other guys. B. When they do, the guys are totally NOT my type.

Well, I do not recall telling anyone what's my type. Or, should I say traits that I want in guys, because I don't want to limit myself to types. Nevertheless, they should be able to read between the lines.

Now with guys, they are much more perceptive. Unfortunately not perceptive enough to find out if the men were already taken or that I don't like meeting men at clubs (unless something really really stands out). But, bottom line they seem to know what I'm looking for.

I would say this is a result of competition. I do think this is a factor, but I don't think it is only reason. I say this because it's just not single women who are bad matchmakers, it's also the ones who are already taken and female family members such as my mom and aunt.

Does anyone have any insight?

adpiucf · #2 05-15-2006, 01:13 PM

I hear you. It's like that episode of Will and Grace where someone sets Will up because "well, you're both gay."

I don't want to be set up with someone because, "well, you're both single."

Um, that is one part of the criteria, yes.

I think women are also just a bit competitive, unless they're married and then it becomes a race to have all of their pitifully single and afflicted friends become happily cured and married friends. You know, the ones who cluck, "Oh you'll meet someone someday."

I'm almost determined to never marry just to prove a point that being happy and single is not a bizarre concept.

-Diseased Single & Social Pariah (depending on who you talk to)

AlphaFrog · #3 05-15-2006, 01:32 PM

Do ya'll remember "A Dating Story" on TLC?? It seemed that the men (not that there were many, but there were some) did a much better job. Most couples who were set up ended up saying that they could be friends, but not "involved". You hardly ever saw anyone who just absolutely didn't get along (like Blind Date).

valkyrie · #4 05-15-2006, 02:23 PM

Dionysus, I suspect that maybe it's just you.

Peaches-n-Cream · #5 05-15-2006, 02:58 PM

I found that when my girlfriends would introduce me to a guy who was perfect for me, he was actually a guy who was perfect for her if only she were single and available.

If a friend is trying to fix you up with someone, don't get your hopes up. Just go and have fun without expectations or you'll be disappointed.

Matchmaking is best left to the professionals.

VAgirl18 · #6 05-17-2006, 09:17 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Do ya'll remember "A Dating Story" on TLC?? It seemed that the men (not that there were many, but there were some) did a much better job. Most couples who were set up ended up saying that they could be friends, but not "involved". You hardly ever saw anyone who just absolutely didn't get along (like Blind Date).

I LOVED that show and was so disappointed when they changed the format to TLC doing the matchmaking instead. I wish they would bring the show back.

As for the matchmaking standpoint...I've done a better job when I've set people up that I would LEAST expect to be together.

kstar · #7 05-17-2006, 09:22 PM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I found that when my girlfriends would introduce me to a guy who was perfect for me, he was actually a guy who was perfect for her if only she were single and available.

Cosign. While my friends and I have things in common, we aren't the same people. I went out on a setup and the guy confesses to me that he is just biding his time until the girl that set us up was single.

Jestor · #8 05-21-2006, 03:04 AM

Heh, this reminds me of my grandmother trying for the past several years to set me up with this girl who lives across the street from her.

...And my mother telling me constantly "Why don't you date the nice girls?"

...And people throughout my life trying to hook me up with girls that I have absolutely no dating interest in. The line they use most of the time? "So and so is really a nice girl and she's kinda cute." ....By really nice you mean really boring and kinda cute only if you have a deSadeian outlook on the issue of physical appearances.

They fail to realize that while I'm not the most attractive guy on the planet and tend to be quite shy, at heart I'm a sarcastic, cynical intellectual (though my critics would say psuedointellectual) who abhors the typical "nice, sweet" personality type.

Optimist Prime · #9 05-22-2006, 12:20 PM

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Originally posted by Jestor
Heh, this reminds me of my grandmother trying for the past several years to set me up with this girl who lives across the street from her.

...And my mother telling me constantly "Why don't you date the nice girls?"

...And people throughout my life trying to hook me up with girls that I have absolutely no dating interest in. The line they use most of the time? "So and so is really a nice girl and she's kinda cute." ....By really nice you mean really boring and kinda cute only if you have a deSadeian outlook on the issue of physical appearances.

They fail to realize that while I'm not the most attractive guy on the planet and tend to be quite shy, at heart I'm a sarcastic, cynical intellectual (though my critics would say psuedointellectual) who abhors the typical "nice, sweet" personality type.

Get coffee, and start writing poem. Or fake writing one. Hook up with waitress. This works, but might take paitence.