rushing again

cusecutie · #1 04-24-2006, 03:34 AM

i joined a sorority and i tried soo hard to make it work for me but i just dont fit in with at my house!!! greek life is huge at my school and i dont know what im gonna do if i quit! can i rush after initiated? also my friend is rushing next year and im so jealous!! i kno its bad but i ct help it - i wish i could do it again!

AGDem · #2 04-24-2006, 03:39 AM

You can't rush again after you've been initiated, that is if you're NPC. You can quit, but you still won't be able to rush or join another sorority.

cusecutie · #3 04-24-2006, 04:25 AM

its honestly making me miserable! what should i do?

_Lisa_ · #4 04-24-2006, 06:34 AM

You should deactivate. You aren't doing those lovely ladies any favors by sticking around if you hate it so much. Find a club you can join instead.

PhiMuLady150 · #5 04-24-2006, 08:25 AM

Or maybe talk to some of your sisters about your concerns. Most of the time especially in organizations, we let the little things that bother us build up instead of exploring options to work through them. Find some older sisters that you are close to and confide what your feeling and see if you can work it out. If you still feel like this house isn't the place for you then desister but that's a big decision because if you are an intiated member of an NPC org. you cannot join another NPC org. Good Luck!

adpiucf · #6 04-24-2006, 09:02 AM

Cancel your membership. This means you are no longer a member and cannot wear letters or attend any sort of membership functions or events. You can,of course, be friends with the members!

Once initiated, you can't join another NPC. If you joined a local sorority (one that does not have any other chapters at any other universities), you are eligible to join another local sorority, depending on the rules of that local sorority you are seeking to join.

Cut your losses and get involved on campus in another activity. I understand that you feel you don't fit in, but honestly, and in my experence, unless your sorority is composed of 10 or less members, every sorority on campus has diverse members and you can fit in or not fit in as a matter of choice. What is it you dislike so much about your organization?

Have you passively waited by the phone, hoping people will call and invite you out? Friendship is a two-way street, and just because you can call someone your "sister" does not entitle her to be your friend.

If you haven't made an effort to know the members, do try. Talk to your big sister or another older member and give it a go. If you are totally opposed to this, or there are other (unethical) things going on, then cancel your membership.

Talk to your chapter president on cancellation procedures-- you may need to submit a formal dated letter and have any loose ends tied up (ie: current on dues as of the date of your letter) before you can be officially out.

Buttonz · #7 04-24-2006, 09:25 AM

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Originally posted by adpiucf
What is it you dislike so much about your organization?

Have you passively waited by the phone, hoping people will call and invite you out? Friendship is a two-way street, and just because you can call someone your "sister" does not entitle her to be your friend.

If you haven't made an effort to know the members, do try. Talk to your big sister or another older member and give it a go. If you are totally opposed to this, or there are other (unethical) things going on, then cancel your membership.

Agreed 100%.

Also think back to what made you choose your house, and why you did it.

Tru working things out, the decision to disaffilate is a big one.

33girl · #8 04-24-2006, 09:34 AM

Is anyone else experiencing deja vu? Didn't we just have this post like last week?

aopirose · #9 04-24-2006, 01:29 PM

Apparently, that thread was deleted so it was started again. My advice is the same. Turn in your badge and find something else to do.

Rudey · #10 04-24-2006, 01:46 PM

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Originally posted by aopirose
Apparently, that thread was deleted so it was started again. My advice is the same. Turn in your badge and find something else to do.

Why was it deleted?

I think it's obvious that she can either do something about it (talk to someone about her concerns, try and change things) or quit. That's how you approach anything in life.

Maybe she just wants to talk to someone about it? Why not be kind to her and do just that and see where she goes from there?

-Rudey

PM_Mama00 · #11 04-24-2006, 01:50 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
Why was it deleted?

I think it's obvious that she can either do something about it (talk to someone about her concerns, try and change things) or quit. That's how you approach anything in life.

Maybe she just wants to talk to someone about it? Why not be kind to her and do just that and see where she goes from there?

-Rudey

I didn't notice that it was deleted or know why, but I do know that she got TONS of good advice in that thread and still wasn't listening to anyone and just whining like she is doing now.

kddani · #12 04-24-2006, 01:55 PM

I would be that she deleted it herself and decided to ask again in a different forum. PenguinTrax and Carnation usually don't delete things like that. They may lock them if the discussion becomes heated, but not delete.

She did get a lot of good advice, but i'm guessing she just didn't get the answer she wanted to hear.

KSUViolet06 · #13 04-24-2006, 01:59 PM

Here's my philosophy:

For every girl who is hating a sorority, there's another who would LOVE to join it. So if you really hate it, QUIT, and free up that spot for someone who will be a productive member.

Sticking around when you hate it is a waste both your time and the chapter's time.

ShamikaT · #14 04-24-2006, 02:06 PM

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Originally posted by cusecutie
i joined a sorority and i tried soo hard to make it work for me but i just dont fit in with at my house!!! greek life is huge at my school and i dont know what im gonna do if i quit! can i rush after initiated? also my friend is rushing next year and im so jealous!! i kno its bad but i ct help it - i wish i could do it again!

Good luck in getting any support on here. I went though the same thing almost a year ago and did NOT get anywhere!

aopirose · #15 04-24-2006, 02:19 PM

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Originally posted by kddani
I would be that she deleted it herself and decided to ask again in a different forum. PenguinTrax and Carnation usually don't delete things like that. They may lock them if the discussion becomes heated, but not delete.

She did get a lot of good advice, but i'm guessing she just didn't get the answer she wanted to hear.

That's what I think happened.

Rudey, I hear what you are saying and I agree. However, in the OP, it was stated almost ad nauseam about how much she hated the chapter and most of the girls. IIRC, she said that she was supposed to be in a better house anyway.