girls.. i'm sure someone has been here..

SweetyD · #1 04-10-2006, 11:24 PM

Ok.. my ex's fraternity and my sorority hang out a lot (one of my sisters is his chapters "dream girl" this year too) and we've just recently broke up.. the hard part is I don't want to seem rude to the rest of his brothers because I really do like them.. but it's so hard for me to go to mixers with them.. especially if they are at the fraternity houe because I used to stay there so much.

I just don't know to do.. I need time to get over the whole thing, but I don't want to seem rude or angry at the rest of the guys because of the emotions I'm going through right now.

Lindz928 · #2 04-11-2006, 10:40 AM

My opinion is to not worry about the idea of being rude or making them think you are angry. Just do what you need to do for yourself. If you need to stay away from the whole group for awhile, do it. If they are really your friends, they will understand.

And yes, I have been in a similar situation before. And I made the mistake of NOT staying away from the group. It caused a lot of awkward situations, and even ended up with me getting myself in trouble with them a couple times.

Just my opinion though.

HBADPi · #3 04-11-2006, 05:24 PM

co-sign on what lindz said. I too have done the opposite and it burned me even worse. I'm sure the guys will understand and its probably akward for them as well if they are friends with you. If you want to maintain friendships with the guys, perhaps in time you can hang out with them outside the house but for now just do what you need to do.

BobbyTheDon · #4 04-11-2006, 09:05 PM

How about you just give the rest of the guys BJs? That way they'll be happy, and your ex will get super jealous. Who knows, it might even ruin their chapter.

HBADPi · #5 04-11-2006, 10:44 PM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
How about you just give the rest of the guys BJs? That way they'll be happy, and your ex will get super jealous. Who knows, it might even ruin their chapter.

You know whats sad is I know a girl who did just that...meh

KSUViolet06 · #6 04-17-2006, 02:04 AM

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Originally posted by SweetyD
Ok.. my ex's fraternity and my sorority hang out a lot (one of my sisters is his chapters "dream girl" this year too) and we've just recently broke up.. the hard part is I don't want to seem rude to the rest of his brothers because I really do like them.. but it's so hard for me to go to mixers with them.. especially if they are at the fraternity houe because I used to stay there so much.

I just don't know to do.. I need time to get over the whole thing, but I don't want to seem rude or angry at the rest of the guys because of the emotions I'm going through right now.

I would stay away from the house and his brothers for awhile. If you don't, you'll make things awkward. Your feelings could get the best of you one night while you're over there and cause you to do something dumb. You could get pegged as "Billy Bob's crazy ex who starts drama".

Example:

I had a sister who dated a guy in a certain fraternity for like 2 years. She loved the guys (our chapter hangs out with these guys alot), so she'd still go over there after they broke up. She and the guy tried to be nice to each other whenever they saw each other at his fraternity house.

About 2 months after they broke up, she went over there with some sisters for a party. Of course, the guy (being newly single) was there with a girl that he'd just started seeing and they were making out and stuff. Well my sister saw him making out with this girl and freaked out. She was a little tipsy and obviously jealous. She called this girl all types of horrible names and spilled a drink on her. As a result, she got pegged a "drama starter" and got pretty much banned from there.

StillSearching · #7 05-04-2006, 09:09 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
How about you just give the rest of the guys BJs? That way they'll be happy, and your ex will get super jealous. Who knows, it might even ruin their chapter.

Please tell me you're not serious about your answer....

I say...spend some time away from them and then go back and when you have healed, go back to hang out.

BobbyTheDon · #8 05-04-2006, 11:52 AM

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Originally posted by StillSearching
Please tell me you're not serious about your answer....

I say...spend some time away from them and then go back and when you have healed, go back to hang out.

wait you mean, it's not common practice for girls to give her ex boyfriends chapter brothers blowjobs?

KSig RC · #9 05-04-2006, 12:55 PM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
wait you mean, it's not common practice for girls to give her ex boyfriends chapter brothers blowjobs?

She must have been in the prude sorority . . . I don't even know which one that was at my school, we didn't hang with those bags

-RC
--I spit game like that, I get brain like that

StillSearching · #10 05-04-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by KSig RC
She must have been in the prude sorority . . . I don't even know which one that was at my school, we didn't hang with those bags

-RC
--I spit game like that, I get brain like that

To whom are you referring to and I know you just didn't call me nor my sorority a group of BAGS....

KSig RC · #11 05-04-2006, 01:59 PM

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Originally posted by StillSearching
To whom are you referring to and I know you just didn't call me nor my sorority a group of BAGS....