My AI Beginning!

JenSoda · #1 02-17-2006, 06:46 PM

Hi everyone!
I came here to hopefully get some motivation/kind words/advice on the AI process. I graduated college a few years, and have always wondered (ie: kicked myself!) if greek life would have been a good choice for me. Many of my friends were greek, and I always admired them for their professionalism, kindness, community involvement, plus lots more!
I was involved in many groups throughout school, but because of a severe illness of a close family member (which definitely constricted time and money for me), I was never able to pursue it.
Well I've decided I've put it off for too long, and I contacted three local alumnae groups to get more information. I'm nervous, but I'm excited to see where it goes!
If anyone has any advice on this process (besides the neverending helpful threads already here!), I would be forever grateful. Thanks!!

Tom Earp · #2 02-17-2006, 10:59 PM

Search this thread.

There are many advices, heart rendering storys and success storys.

This Thread will give You a better understanding of what, who, how long it may take.

Good Luck in your quest!

MJo19 · #3 02-18-2006, 01:56 PM

Good Luck from one hopeful to another!

litlbear1072 · #4 02-22-2006, 02:34 PM

Good luck to you on your search!

trojangal · #5 03-09-2006, 11:02 AM

Good luck as you start your AI process. Be discreet and take your time.

Honeykiss1974 · #6 03-09-2006, 11:08 AM

Good luck and keep us updated !

blueangel · #7 03-11-2006, 11:28 PM

It's a very, very. long and difficult process. Be prepared for big highs and lows.

If you have any specific questions, please feel free to e-mail me.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #8 03-12-2006, 12:14 AM

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Originally posted by blueangel
It's a very, very. long and difficult process.

Not for everyone. I know some who took only a matter of months. Depends on any number of things.......

blueangel · #9 03-12-2006, 12:39 AM

Smart Blonde... Don't you think that they were the exception, rather than the rule?

Maybe that's another good thread-- how long did the AI process take from start to finish? Technically, for me, it was over 20 years, since I was a pledge in college!

But, from the date AI was discussed for me (my district president brought it up, I didn't even know there was such a thing!) to my actual initiation... it was nearly three years.

VandalSquirrel · #10 03-12-2006, 01:18 AM

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Originally posted by SmartBlondeGPhB
Not for everyone. I know some who took only a matter of months. Depends on any number of things.......

You speak the truth. My experience was different than most women on GC, which is why I don't give any advice or comment much for other people asking about AI. I think there is maybe one woman I can think of who had a similar process, and she's my sister.

KunjaPrincess · #11 03-12-2006, 03:27 PM

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Originally posted by VandalSquirrel
You speak the truth. My experience was different than most women on GC, which is why I don't give any advice or comment much for other people asking about AI. I think there is maybe one woman I can think of who had a similar process, and she's my sister.

I am one of the exception also. I met Melanie in August (I think) and was initiated in April the next year. I had a really easy process but I think a lot of that was because I had people helping me who were familiar with the process and knew how to get it done.
I think that AI is definately harder than collegiate level but is attainable if the PNAM has what is desired and is willing to do the work required. It is not an easy process by any means. You do have to seek it out yourself and be willing to meet with many members. You also have to be willing to step up to the plate after being initated and not just dissapear. I have not been around my alum chapter much since our fouders day due to other commitments but I am meeting with two other alums on monday to get me invloved with advising my local chapter and I do go to house Corp board meetings locally.
Good luck to you in your search but I would advise you to do some reflection first. Make sure you are aware of what you are getting into and are willing to make the commitments needed.

ms_gwyn · #12 03-12-2006, 05:59 PM

Self reflection is a very good thing.....

I was in denial about Tri Sigma for a very long time...I would have been very happy with the other group that I seriously pursued and very active, but to brutally honest, they would have been in my heart, but not like Tri Sigma is in my heart....

It took a lot of tears and self realization to make that conclusion and I'm sure that people thought I was just "looking" for letters as they read the progression of my journey. These were steps that had to be taken for me to come to my realization.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #13 03-12-2006, 06:53 PM

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Originally posted by KunjaPrincess
I am one of the exception also. I met Melanie in August (I think) and was initiated in April the next year. I had a really easy process but I think a lot of that was because I had people helping me who were familiar with the process and knew how to get it done.
I think that AI is definately harder than collegiate level but is attainable if the PNAM has what is desired and is willing to do the work required. It is not an easy process by any means. You do have to seek it out yourself and be willing to meet with many members. You also have to be willing to step up to the plate after being initated and not just dissapear. I have not been around my alum chapter much since our fouders day due to other commitments but I am meeting with two other alums on monday to get me invloved with advising my local chapter and I do go to house Corp board meetings locally.
Good luck to you in your search but I would advise you to do some reflection first. Make sure you are aware of what you are getting into and are willing to make the commitments needed.

That was VERY well said. And for our alumnae chapter, the length of time was pretty normal.

And waht are you going to get involved with??????

(yes, the chapter in question is also my chapter).

SmartBlondeGPhB · #14 03-12-2006, 07:06 PM

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Originally posted by blueangel
Smart Blonde... Don't you think that they were the exception, rather than the rule?

No, I don't. If the chapter and the PNAM click, then it shouldn't take long at all. If the PNAM is going after something that isn't attainable, then it will be much more difficult. If a PNAM has been to 4 or 5 events and the chapter still can't make a decision on her, well that to me is as good as a no. As my sister said, commitment on the part of the PNAM is VERY important. "Actions speak louder than words" as they say......

Show me that you're committed to my group and I will do everything I can to help you join. Lead me to believe that you aren't committed, and I will do the opposite.

KunjaPrincess · #15 03-12-2006, 07:13 PM

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Originally posted by SmartBlondeGPhB
That was VERY well said. And for our alumnae chapter, the length of time was pretty normal.

And waht are you going to get involved with?????? (yes, the chapter in question is also my chapter).

Scholarship. Lynette, Christie and I are going to dinner tommorrow to gossip

I'll fill you in more when I know more