Need help w/ a family situation

[RedRoseSAI]

Here's the deal:

Every year, my family (me, MrRR, mom, dad, grandmas, aunt, uncle, cousin) get together for a New Year's Day brunch at my parent's house.

I hate it. In addition to being the day after a big party night, it always turns into a miserable time, for reasons I won't go into. Every year, my mom insists on doing it, and every year, everyone goes along with it, even though no one wants to.

My question - how do we put a stop to this? I seriously can not convey what an unpleasant experience this little brunch has turned become. It's a horrible way to start the year. I was practically in tears by the time it was over last year, and I am determined not to start 2006 in the same manner. Last year I suggested that "we all do our own thing" for New Year's Day, and my mom pooh-poohed the idea ("Everyone loves the New Year's Day brunch!"). I can't think of a good excuse why we wouldn't be able to go this year, but I'm all ears for some advice.

Thanks in advance.