What's It Like????

jwilson · #1 11-05-2005, 04:37 PM

Hello All,

I have a question that really warrants an honest response from anyone. Can anyone tell me how it really is in a predominately [did I spell that right] white sorority?

I have a girlfriend whom is of color that is interested in pledging.
I being the concerned friend that I am just really want an honest answer no sugar coating please. My main concerns are: Will she really be accepted? Now/Future??? How will the experience be different for her?

thanks

P.S. email me personally at j_wilson20@yahoo.com

Tom Earp · #2 11-05-2005, 05:42 PM

Not knowing of What Color You Speak I cannot say!

BUT, there are Members in All GLOs of Color.

A very Close Brother of Mine is Color of and I keep in touch with Him all of the time! Oh, He is much Younger than I am, so I guess it doesnt really make a difference.

The total idea is to pick a person who will benefit not only themselves but The Organization.

It is The Person or should be.

Small People have small minds at times!

Honeykiss1974 · #3 11-05-2005, 06:04 PM

Women of color in the NPC

In the recruitment stories thread, there were a few black women that rushed and found a house. I can only think of 1 off the top of my head...

Texas Rush Story

HTH and good luckto your friend.

AznSAE · #4 11-05-2005, 06:18 PM

i think it depends on which school you go to. some schools are more open than others about accepting people of "color." if she is interested in rushing, then tell her to go for it. if they dont offer her a bid solely based on her color then why would she want to become part of that organization. times have changed and people have changed.

honeychile · #5 11-05-2005, 10:21 PM

Again, it depends upon the school and the chapter. My own chapter has had women of varying cultures and color, as have many other chapters at Pitt.

I would suggest that your friend would look at her school of choice's website, and at the varying sorority chapters there. Without knowing the school, there is really no other advice to give, other than this: recruitment is not to be taken lightly under ANY circumstance. If she is cut, it could just as easily be because she did or said something wrong as anything else. Make sure that she reads the Recruitment threads prior to plunging into rush!

PM_Mama00 · #6 11-06-2005, 11:49 AM

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Originally posted by honeychile
Again, it depends upon the school and the chapter. My own chapter has had women of varying cultures and color, as have many other chapters at Pitt.

I would suggest that your friend would look at her school of choice's website, and at the varying sorority chapters there. Without knowing the school, there is really no other advice to give, other than this: recruitment is not to be taken lightly under ANY circumstance. If she is cut, it could just as easily be because she did or said something wrong as anything else. Make sure that she reads the Recruitment threads prior to plunging into rush!

That doesn't always help. For some time, I heard comments about people saying we were the "white" sorority... and we weren't doing it on purpose. Didn't help that another chapter was emphasizing diversity in their chapter. The chapter isn't so "white" anymore and we got a few really great, diverse additions to the chapter. I don't think we ever really made a big deal about it or hard-rushed non-Caucasian girls, cuz color didn't really matter.

It depends on the campus, but my advice is to tell her to just go and rush and see how she feels. Tell her to keep an open mind and go with what she feels comfortable with... not necessarily who is more diverse or whatever. Somtimes appearance isn't always what it is.

honeychile · #7 11-06-2005, 12:12 PM

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Originally posted by PM_Mama00
That doesn't always help. For some time, I heard comments about people saying we were the "white" sorority... and we weren't doing it on purpose. Didn't help that another chapter was emphasizing diversity in their chapter. The chapter isn't so "white" anymore and we got a few really great, diverse additions to the chapter. I don't think we ever really made a big deal about it or hard-rushed non-Caucasian girls, cuz color didn't really matter.

It depends on the campus, but my advice is to tell her to just go and rush and see how she feels. Tell her to keep an open mind and go with what she feels comfortable with... not necessarily who is more diverse or whatever. Somtimes appearance isn't always what it is.

Point taken. I'm not sure if there are any women of color currently in my particular chapter, but there certainly has been some!

Tom Earp · #8 11-06-2005, 05:58 PM

Sad that Color no matter what is even brought up.

If a person fits then they fit.

Some may have better tans than others!

It always amazed Me that Us, "White Folks' work on Tans!

NebraskaDelt · #9 11-06-2005, 10:51 PM

I have a friend who is black and she lays out for hours on end in the Summer. I ask her why she does it and she says she's tanning. To each his own, I guess. Sorry for interrupting the conversation.

Tom Earp · #10 11-07-2005, 06:20 PM

Oh, People of Color (

) do change color also!

It aint a one way street is it?

MTSUGURL · #11 11-07-2005, 09:24 PM

This is not meant to be argumentative, but I'm sure it will come across that way and I apologize in advance.
Every time I read a thread saying in essence, "Will I/my friend be cut by a sorority because of my color?" I think, "Are you/Is she choosing the sorority because of their color?"

Most likely, the answer will be no. My sorority prided itself on diversity and celebrated the fact that we had sisters of different cultures, but we didn't give anyone a harder/easier time in recruitment because they were or were not a woman of color.

If you expect to be uncomfortable because of race, and it's all you can think about (the chapter's reaction to your color, how will they treat you because of your color, etc) you will probably notice slights or attitude changes (real or, more likely than not, imagined) than if you went in not worrying about it.

We did once have a PNM who rushed us instead of an NPHC group her mother was pushing her toward because she said she didn't like black people. She was black. I thought that her attitude was strange, but I didn't think it was odd that she was rushing us before she said this (during recruitment).

After that comment, I thought she had issues and was clearly unhappy with herself - I discovered that there wasn't much that this girl would be happy with. She would say things like, "Maybe they'll forget I'm black."

I was like, "Honey, race isn't an issue for us or them - it's an issue with you."

AXi1257 · #12 11-08-2005, 07:58 PM

Where I went to school "color" didn't matter to me or anyone that I knew personally. My chapter had different ethnic backgrounds and we prided ourselves on being open to all regardless of "color". I'm from the midwest so maybe it's different here. I know 2 of my sisters had children who were biracial. Just my 2 cents.