FOR GREEKS - Biggest Mistake?

BlueReign · #1 05-18-2002, 01:22 PM

To help those out who are seeking membership, did you ever do anything during your quest that you realize now was not appropriate? Trying to be tactful and helpful but not disrespectful sometimes is not an easy thing to do. I receive PM's and e-mails from some asking questions, making statements, etc. that they should not!

One thing that I did that I regret is that I had the nerve to call my Basileus and ask her for specific dates, etc. because I was tired of waiting

What would you tell an interest not to do?

msbrowneyz · #2 05-20-2002, 11:10 AM

Never tell other Greeks you are going to "pledge" XYZ. You would be amazed how fast word travels. lol

SeriousSigma22 · #3 05-22-2002, 05:56 PM

Sorhors and sisterfriends,

I always tell my senior students in high school the very same thing (Never tell folks that you want to be a member of XYZ) Some listen however, many don't and then they come back to me look very sad because they didn't listen and their dream didn't come true!

The moral of the story is keep your business to yourself!

Serioussigma22

rho4life · #4 12-08-2004, 06:00 PM

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Private I · #5 12-08-2004, 08:37 PM

I know of an interest who called our Dean of Intake the night before we emerged to ask her should she come over and learn the steps...we were like um, is she going to learn everything about the organization overnight?...I think the one thing you cannot stress enough to interests is to be DISCREET, don't be telling everyone and their momma you're interested in XYZ (or worse, tell them you're going to pledge it), and this includes, at least for my organization, wearing a shirt with a big butterfly in lavender or Carolina blue to our table in the union or our carwashes and whatnot.
Also, picking and choosing which events to attend that we co-sponsor-it's always easiest to show up to one of our parties, but much more meaningful to show up to community service projects or educational seminars. Also helps us remember their face.
Another thing I've seen that interests do is when we can't put a name to their face they get offended...??!!!!

KSUViolet06 · #6 12-09-2004, 07:28 PM

Hi ladies. We in the NPC have countless threads about things that potential members do/say that turn us off during our recruitment process. While our process is different than yours, some of the same things hold true for women who are going through recruitment.

One thing I can't stand is when girls come to us after visiting another sorority the previous round, and INSULT that organization.

Example:
Me: "Hi Beth, welcome back to Tri Sigma, how has your day been?"

Beth: "Hi, well I just came from XYZ last round and I don't like them, their colors, philanthropy, and all their members suck."

To me, insulting another sorority shows no class. Girls bash other sororities and think it will make us like them more, but all it does is makethem look bad.

Senusret I · #7 12-09-2004, 07:43 PM

I wish I had RELAXED.

All the Alphas in my chapter were very chill men and I was probably too uptight around them.

preciousjeni · #8 12-09-2004, 08:08 PM

Hmmm...I already like the comments in this thread.

I have one for REAL. Please do not say that you couldn't get into xyz NPC sorority so you'll "try one of the other sororities" just so you can say you're Greek. (No, we're not talking about another NPC - we're talking about one of those sororities that are not "real" like the NPC.)

WHY would you think that's an intelligent thing to say? Word does travel and you have just blackballed yourself. (I'm almost embarassed for the child.)

KSUViolet06 · #9 12-10-2004, 03:00 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
Hmmm...I already like the comments in this thread. I have one for REAL. Please do not say that you couldn't get into xyz NPC sorority so you'll "try one of the other sororities" just so you can say you're Greek. (No, we're not talking about another NPC - we're talking about one of those sororities that are not "real" like the NPC.) WHY would you think that's an intelligent thing to say? Word does travel and you have just blackballed yourself. (I'm almost embarassed for the child.)

That's VERY mean of someone to say that about your sorority.

#10 12-10-2004, 03:12 PM

We had two girls who were really good friends come in and talked to each other the entire time. We had to double rush (take in two girls each) since we had a smaller chapter and they ended up being together. Anyway, the entire time they held a discussion about whether they wanted to be Kappas or Thetas. In the middle of OUR party they were trying to figure this out. Any time the girl who had them asked them a question, they would just roll their eyes and answer rudely. My advice, dont' be a Bit*h just because you don't like a chapter.

preciousjeni · #11 12-10-2004, 03:14 PM

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Originally posted by ADPiZXalum
We had two girls who were really good friends come in and talked to each other the entire time. We had to double rush (take in two girls each) since we had a smaller chapter and they ended up being together. Anyway, the entire time they held a discussion about whether they wanted to be Kappas or Thetas. In the middle of OUR party they were trying to figure this out. Any time the girl who had them asked them a question, they would just roll their eyes and answer rudely. My advice, dont' be a Bit*h just because you don't like a chapter.

excuse the hijack...did they go Kappa or Theta or did they get booted altogether??

Ms.Thang319 · #12 12-17-2004, 08:06 PM

I have a quick question. I was emailed by the chapter advisor and tod that there would be a community service event next week, that I could go to. She told me to call her but I am nervous to do so. I guess im just scary b.c im wondering what time should I call or even the day. She seems nice though. When should I call her?

Senusret I · #13 12-17-2004, 08:24 PM

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Originally posted by Ms.Thang319
I have a quick question. I was emailed by the chapter advisor and tod that there would be a community service event next week, that I could go to. She told me to call her but I am nervous to do so. I guess im just scary b.c im wondering what time should I call or even the day. She seems nice though. When should I call her?

You could email her back and politely ask what time is a good time to call. I know it's scary, but don't forget your common sense in the process!

You can do it!

Blue Fire #3 · #14 01-04-2005, 11:44 AM

I guess you could say that a mistake that I had was being so scared. Scared to truly show interest because it might not be the most discrete way

At informationals I would walk around to all the tables so that no one would know which organization I was interested in. (Althought that could be kinda smart) I was scared to tell my DP that I was interested... and didnt know when to do it either. I would just tell anyone interested chill... some stuff doesnt even matter that much! But let the Ladies know because you do have to be INVITED...

NinjaPoodle · #15 01-04-2005, 01:53 PM

Honestly, can't say I made any mistakes cause' I kept my mission covert

I did what I was supposed to do and that was show up to (comm. service) events and keep quiet. Actually, now that I think about it, on my induction day, I had a non-greek friend drop me off which was a mistake because he wanted to know what happend. I told him "If you really want to know, join a fraternity." After he realized I wasn't joking, he got mad.