Coming back?

QandA · #1 07-01-2005, 02:14 PM

I would like to pose a question or situation to the members here, basically it is this:

I was basically booted from my fraternity over a year ago for basically stupidy and not attending events, etc. I then left to study abroad for a full year and now that I am returning to the US, I know I have matured a great deal and wish to rejoin it if possible. My question is, is this possible? Thanks in advance.

#2 07-01-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally posted by QandA
I would like to pose a question or situation to the members here, basically it is this:

I was basically booted from my fraternity over a year ago for basically stupidy and not attending events, etc. I then left to study abroad for a full year and now that I am returning to the US, I know I have matured a great deal and wish to rejoin it if possible. My question is, is this possible? Thanks in advance.

This really isn't a general question.

My suggestion is to contact either your inter/national HQ or an advisor because they'll be the only ones who'll know for sure..not us.

hoosier · #3 07-01-2005, 02:53 PM

Maybe if you volunteer to endure another Hell Week they'll consider it.

Hopefully you've learned a great lesson - actions and words have consequences.

doves95 · #4 07-01-2005, 02:58 PM

My GLO does not allow members who have been withdrawn to return until they are alums, they write a letter to the National council and demonstrate how they have cared for the sorority etc.. and they can be reinstated as an alum in good standing like she has graduated from college..... but if expelled we dont let them back in (this is rare that we expel members)

BUt in terms of being a collegiate Im not sure you can. Id contact your NHQ and ask them.

Zillini · #5 07-01-2005, 03:37 PM

Every GLO may have different rules, so aside from members of your GLO I doubt any of the rest of us can help you.

I would imagine alot depends on the reason a membership was cancelled and whether it was voluntary (you turned in your pin) or involuntary (your pin was pulled). Frankly with ADPi I've never known anyone or even heard of anyone whose membership was cancelled then they came back later wanting to be reinstated. I can't say it hasn't happened, only that I don't know of any. There is an appeals process that someone may pursue immediately after a cancellation has been decided on and before it becomes official from the Int'l Org. But that's different than what you're talking about here.

But here's something that you should strongly think about before you proceed down this road. It sounds like your membership was cancelled based on your inappropriate and as you said immature actions. Even if it were possible for you to return, would your brothers welcome you with open arms? Would they even give you the opportunity to prove you have matured and are a changed man?

Membership cancellation is a Chapter's absolute last resort. In every case we have tried...and tried...and tried to get through to that member what our expectations are and the consequences if they don't live up to them. That person chose to ignore those warnings, otherwise there would have been no reason to cancel the membership. (Side note, I often wonder if they thought we were joking because they always seem surprised to hear the Board's decision.)

Frankly, there are few if any I would ever want to see return as an active. It wouldn't matter how much they profess to have changed. In most cases, I'd heard that promise from them too many times before. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's been my experience in these matters.

slayerzbt · #6 07-01-2005, 03:56 PM

It all depends on what kind of relationship you had with the guys when you left. i.e Were you allowed back at the house, did they still talk to you?, etc. You also have to understand that even though you say you have matured, it is a big risk for them to take to risk that you may do the same things again.