Opinions needed

[cashmoney]

Got a question, is it cheating when you have sex with a girl you've only known for a week but you've been steadily having sex, going on dates, spending weekends together with another girl for the past 5 months? Like if you technically didnt ask the girl out 5 months ago and you guys just started having sex again and hanging out on weekends.... you're not really dating, right? Take into consideration that the 5 month girl is actually your ex from highschool (whos cherry you popped) and part of college and you two have known each other and have been really good friends for the last 12 years and both of you have met each of your past serious significant others. But, also consider the fact that the girl you've known for a week is quite possibly the hottest female you've ever talked to face to face and is only 18 years old/dumb as a brick.

[omegamcgee]

I think it's cheating. Maybe you should talk to the 5 month girl, see what she thinks you are. If she sees it as completely casual, then maybe not. But she may think it's more. Have fun with that.

I'd consider it cheating but that's just me. If I were you, I'd sit down with 5-month girl and talk with her. If she thinks your relationship is serious, then, you might want to say something about the one-night stand because relationships are about honesty. If it's just a casual thing to her, then, I guess set some ground rules about seeing other people as well so no one really gets hurt.

[cashmoney]

She definitely views it as serious. She's wanting to move in with me in August. Ive just been avoiding that conversation like the plague.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Why do you even ask? You know it's cheating!

[James]

ITs not technically cheating . . . But I am sure she would be less than happy with you.

She would probably feel it was cheating and feel betrayed even though she might understand that technically you didn't have a spelled out arrangement.

I suppose she wouldn't have the right to really let you have it, would she ladies? But she might anyway.

My only advice is: Don't get caught.

[cashmoney]

Man, I feel really bad now. Even though I didnt see her this past weekend and hung out with the girl from the gym.....I just got this card in the mail tonight. It says thank you for putting up with her and that she hopes I have a great week. Fuck, man. I feel bad.

[James]

Guilt is a useless emotion. I recomend you edit it out.

Just enjoy life man. So she sent you a card. You don't treat her badly do you? You didn't make promises did you?

So have your cake and eat it too

I guess now that she believes it's serious it's time for you to sit down and think about whether or not you think the 5-month relationship is serious to you. Since she thinks it's serious, then, it's cheating on your part. If you don't think it's serious, I think it's best for you to tell her that so she can move on without too much hurt and anguish. That's the best thing if you don't think it's serious. Just cut it nice and clean even though she might be kind of upset now. If you waited say a year or two down the road, then, the situation might get worse emotionally if you shouldn't last in the long run.

[xoheatherxo]

if you and the 5 month girl have just been casually dating (like no committment was ever discussed) then its not cheating. unless youre her boyfriend then i dont really see whats wrong with what youre doing. you can totally date more than one person at a time, and if you two never had an understanding that you were exclusive, then id say go for it.

[tunatartare]

Ditto to what Heather said. If the girl isn't your girlfriend, then it's not cheating. I've done that before with guys I was "friends with benefits" with but wasn't dating.

[cashmoney]

Why do I feel so bad for hooking up with that chick? And why in the hell did I tell her about my girlfriend and basically tell her I'm out?



I totally hope "it" isnt happening again.