What Do You Pay for Wedding Services???

[BetteDavisEyes]

I am in the midst of choosing a photographer for my wedding & have narrowed it down to 2 different ones. The first one does great work & his pricing starts at $1500 & up to $3000 depending on the package I want. The second set of photographers do phenomenal work & have previously shot at the location where my wedding is to be held. They are more pricey with packages that start from $1700 & up to $8000. The package they have that I want is $3500.
I am of the firm belief that you get what you pay for & have heard horror stories of bad photography so I want someone that will get the shots I want as well as other random ones that will make a classy album.
Everyone I talk to seems to think that paying $3500 for wedding photography is ridiculous. My fiance's family (especially his mom) don't seem to understand why I would want the photographer to get pictures prior to the start of the ceremony like ones of us getting ready.

My question is what is reasonable for wedding photography? I like the first guy & he's definitely my 2nd choice but I love the other photographers & their work & I think they are worth the money but am I being stubborn?
As for who's paying, it's a combined effort between my sisters who think the price is ridiculous. I am guessing that if I really want the photographers whose work I like, I'm going to have to pay for it myself.
Any comments and/or advice? PLEASE HELP!