Anti-Sorority Site By Former And Current Members! HELP!!

AXiDTrish · #1 06-01-2005, 11:47 AM

Please help!

2 people, one a former member and one a current active member of a chapter on campus as created an "Anti-XYZ" website. On this site as supporters are members of the other NPC group, members of a fraternity "sweetheart" group, and other PNM's the group has recruited in the past.

I am frustrated by the active chapter member as she is undermining her own chapter and the other there really isn't anything I can do about it.

Has this EVER happened to anyone else? What did you do? How did you handle it????? HELP!!!!!

adpiucf · #2 06-01-2005, 12:00 PM

The current member can be brought before Standards for an ethics review.

The other NPC supporting the site: You should raise this issue at the next Panhellenic meeting.

There is nothing you can do to stop a non-member from operating a web site-- Free Speech. If it is hosted on the university's intraweb, you may be able to have it taken down.

Or you could threaten legal action for slander with a cease and desist letter.

33girl · #3 06-01-2005, 12:13 PM

Wow, I've seen ex-members make crabby sites, but NEVER one that brought members from another group into it. That's hardcore.

Definitely go after the other group, as the ex-member doesn't really have anything to lose. Even if you get it taken off the university's web, she'll put it up elsewhere.

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 06-01-2005, 02:42 PM

I just want to clarify: a current and a a former member of XYZ made an anti-XYZ website. If that is correct, I think that XYZ Headquarters should be contacted about what to do. I wouldn't be surprised if they pulled her pin.

I would also contact the chapter president of the other NPC and the campus panhellenic. If that doesn't work, contact the other NPC's Headquarters. This is unacceptable.

I think that these misguided young women need to be reminded about the mission and creed of NPC.

About NPC : : Mission Statement

The National Panhellenic Conference supports its women's fraternities by promoting values, education, leadership, friendships, cooperation and citizenship.

NPC Mission Statement, Adopted at the Interim Session, 10/00.

About NPC : : Creed

We, as Undergraduate Members of women's fraternities, stand for good scholarship, for guarding of good health, for maintenance of fine standards, and for serving, to the best of our ability, our college community. Cooperation for furthering fraternity life, in harmony with its best possibilities, is the ideal that shall guide our fraternity activities.

We, as Fraternity Women, stand for service through the development of character inspired by the close contact and deep friendship of individual fraternity and Panhellenic life. The opportunity for wide and wise human service, through mutual respect and helpfulness, is the tenet by which we strive to live.

AXiDTrish · #5 06-01-2005, 02:45 PM

The current and former member are both from XYZ sorority.

The issue is being escalated to determine how to best handle it. Thankfully no sorority "information" has been openly shared, if you know what I mean.

CarolinaCutie · #6 06-01-2005, 02:49 PM

Why, as a current member of an organization, would someone take part in a website that is created solely to trash their own org? Ex-members, I guess I can understand... but a current member? Ridiculous. I would contact the chapter president or advisor of ALL organizations involved, to see if they could take care of it internally.

AchtungBaby80 · #7 06-01-2005, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by CarolinaCutie
Why, as a current member of an organization, would someone take part in a website that is created solely to trash their own org? Ex-members, I guess I can understand... but a current member? Ridiculous. I would contact the chapter president or advisor of ALL organizations involved, to see if they could take care of it internally.

I've come across some active members over the years who I could totally see doing something like that, because they only remained active for reasons like housing or the fact that their parents paid their dues and they just wanted to go to the parties. So I guess it does happen.

Tom Earp · #8 06-01-2005, 05:34 PM

You cannot do anything by a former Member, but if this is true by a current Member, keep it filed for later use.

As the old saying goes, cover your booty!

This type of stuff does not Help Your Chapter. It could be a detrement for sure.

pixell · #9 06-01-2005, 05:50 PM

My suggestion would be to inform the chapter advisor of XYZ and let them handle the current member. If that doesn't get the website taken down, go to panhellenic. It's really tacky of the members of the other NPC group to be involved in that, you might want to talk to their advisor too.

Good luck!

FSUZeta · #10 06-01-2005, 08:31 PM

i agree with pixell. as a general advisor to a collegiate chapter i would absolutely hit the roof if i found a current member hosting a site like this. she would be brought before judicial tout' sweet.

we had a former member whose membership was revoked post derogatory remarks about the chapter on her aim and in person whenever she could. luckily the campus knew her reputation and didn't take what she said to heart and after a while she just sort of disappeared, because no one would listen to her. it was rough on the members for a while. there was really nothing we could do about her, except wait her out.

i would be surprised if the other sorority knows that they are supposedly endorsing this site. perhaps speaking to their president first and if nothing is done, speaking to their advisor and then taking them before panhellenic,would do the trick there. i don't know what you could do about the little sister org. i as sure that any complaints to the brothers would fall on deaf ears. perhaps taking a written complaint to the greek life advisor about that group would work.

roqueemae · #11 06-01-2005, 11:32 PM

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Originally posted by AXiDTrish
The issue is being escalated to determine how to best handle it.

escalated? or investigated?

WCUgirl · #12 06-02-2005, 08:50 AM

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Originally posted by roqueemae
escalated? or investigated?

I would assume she meant it's being escalated to "higher ups" in the proper GLOs or university departments.

BSUPhiSig'92 · #13 06-02-2005, 11:28 AM

I would also point out that if it's an NIC fraternity's little sister group, their very existence is probably prohibited. So if the fraternity won't do anything about it, your nat'l hq can call the fraternitity's nat'l hq.

AXiDTrish · #14 06-02-2005, 01:11 PM

Investigation is virtually completed on the advisor level. Yes, it has been escalated to the sororities volunteer "high up's" as well as the paid staff.

The Greek Advisor is well aware of the "sweethearts" AKA little sister group, but he's attempted to get rid of it before and basically ended up in a screaming match with the fraternity president in front of the sororities (both) national reps. It was ugly and he lost virtually all credibility. Needless to say....nothing is happening with that.

I think that the only way he will do something with this entire situation is if it comes from the national org versus on the local level.

PsychTau2 · #15 06-02-2005, 01:49 PM

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Originally posted by AXiDTrish
he's attempted to get rid of it before and basically ended up in a screaming match with the fraternity president in front of the sororities (both) national reps. It was ugly and he lost virtually all credibility. Needless to say....nothing is happening with that.

Interesting approach...

Does this sweetheart group contain NPC members? Cause if it did, and I was a national rep for an NPC group, I'd tell each of my NPC members that they are not allowed to join or participate in this sweetheart group. Then as soon as I found out someone did it, I'd dismiss them from membership for insubordination. 'Cause I can play hardcore like that.

Seriously though, let us know what happens. This is rather interesting....are the groups on this campus very large? How large is the sweetheart group and what is it's makeup?

PsychTau