What should I think??

UlChiOCutie26 · #1 05-23-2005, 09:21 AM

Ok, went out with some pledge sisters this weekend. I was out from 8pm until 2. Innocent fun; I was with 2 girls that are getting married in a few weeks and the others have boyfriends as long as I have been dating my boyfriend (atleast 3 yrs or more). When I got in my car to leave the scene of the party fun, I called my boyfriend to let him know that I was on my way home.

Get this: during the conversation he asked me, "did you get out of your parking spot ok? It looked kinda like a tight squeeze." So I then I was like, "oh, so you were at the same place I was? That's cool." And then he goes, "no, people I know were watching you."

Hold up. Is this not the most insecure thing a man (that I have been dating for 5 yrs) could do? I mean, WTF?? He has never been this way before. Atleast not this strange. Then the convo ended when he said "I guess that I am just being overprotective."

No. He is being weird. I was having a jolly time until I had to hear this. AND to top it all off, when I was driving home, intensely into the convo, I made a wrong turn that put me in the BAD BAD part of the city. And I saw on the news the next morning that there was a shooting at 3 am RIGHT where I took the wrong turn. This night could have ended up awful!

What should I do? Any opinions??? Is this behavior normal?? Please set the record straight for me people!

UlChiOCutie26 · #2 05-23-2005, 09:57 AM

no, I am at work. They don't monitor anything, and if they did, I am leaving this job on friday, so I could care less.

But thing is, he has never acted this strange in the 5 yrs that we have been dating. He has done the typical jealous guy talk, but not serious. I don't know what to think.

jillybean · #3 05-23-2005, 10:11 AM

no words for this one, but it is ultra creepy. i think you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about this behavior - if you don't, your silence will be the affirmitive that this is "ok" with you, even though it is obviously not.

personally, if a guy did this to me, i would have re-evaluate our entire relationship. it seems like you have been together 5 years, and yea that's a long time, but there's no excuse for stalker behavior

33girl · #4 05-23-2005, 10:20 AM

Dude, after your multiple threads on him I've come to the conclusion your boyfriend sucks. Dump him. Period.

WCUgirl · #5 05-23-2005, 10:27 AM

Oh my. This seems to be going around lately.

This is NOT healthy behavior, let alone normal. Get rid of him -- now! But document the conversation you had w/ him, b/c I get the feeling if he's watching/stalking you now, if you break up w/ him, things could get worse. Be sure your friends know what's going on so they can be witnesses if they need to be.

I would definitely check your computer for any kind of keylogging software -- there's another thread addressing hacking into email, and cashmoney might be able to help you find out if he's been snooping on your computer.

UlChiOCutie26 · #6 05-23-2005, 10:34 AM

I don't have a comp at home, so it's all good. ANd when I get mine hooked up for my new job, believe me, I am going to be super careful.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #7 05-23-2005, 11:20 AM

How many threads are you going to post about this guy being a shitty boyfriend before you dump him?

UlChiOCutie26 · #8 05-23-2005, 11:31 AM

sorry, just trying to get advice. I'll delete the thread. I'll quit bitching....

33girl · #9 05-23-2005, 12:01 PM

Well so far, he doesn't want to get married, he won't help pay for BC and he's having you stalked. Don't delete the thread, delete this relationship. No one on here is going to tell you that he is wonderful when all we have to go on is what you've told us. And from what you've told us, he's an asshole.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #10 05-23-2005, 12:17 PM

I agree with 33girl here. The problem isn't the complaining, it's that you're complaining and then not doing anything about it.

Dumpity dump dump dump.

WCUgirl · #11 05-23-2005, 12:28 PM

It seems to me that all signs (and Greekchatters!) are pointing to the end of the relationship, although some relationships make it hard to admit that. Especially since you've been together so long.

If you want my opinion, something has drastically changed. He won't pay for BC, he's having you followed, doesn't want to get married, etc. Personally, I think he's cheating on you. It's been my experience that the person is usually suspicious b/c they're doing the exact thing they're accusing their significant other of doing.

Peaches-n-Cream · #12 05-23-2005, 12:35 PM

I think that she might just need a place to vent anonymously. When you have a long term relationship, family and friends have a vested interest in seeing you get married. She is probably not getting the best advice from the people in real life so she vents on GC.

The thing is, you have mentioned before that the problems run deeper than just him not wanting to pay for bc. With the other information you have shared, there is a pattern here. I'm not going to tell you what to do or think. If I were in your position, I would give this situation a lot of thought and make some difficult decisions.

sugar and spice · #13 05-23-2005, 12:44 PM

Ummm hello, are you dating cashmoney?

Anyway, I would dump this stalker's ass so fast his head would spin. But that's just me. Somebody who's doing isht like this clearly doesn't understand which boundaries are appropriate to cross and which aren't, which is a major red flag and will probably lead to much deeper problems later in the relationship. I agree that you need to document your conversation right now in case you have to file a restraining order later.

#14 05-23-2005, 01:01 PM

So you[ve been dating 5 YEARS? Any steps torward marriage? He's obviously insecure and I would kick him to the curb. That's just me though.

valkyrie · #15 05-23-2005, 02:17 PM

It's time for you to take matters into your own hands and ask him to marry you. You really don't want to let this little gem slip away from you.

PLS. NOTE THIS IS SARCASM. YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM NOW.