What should I do...if anything...

[omegamcgee]

Okay, this is gonna be long and complicated.

I was dating this guy, who I've dated before, we've known each other for about 6 years.

We started dating in December, but then a bunch of stuff happened in his life (lost his job, ex-wife issues, kid issues, money issues, etc., none of which had to do with me). So the sparks kinda stopped flyin, and he said that until he could get his shit together, he just wanted to be friends. He said it wasn't fair to me, and that he really just needed to not have to worry about hurting me in our relationship. (The other two times it DID NOT end well). We both also agreed that, for a variety of reasons, this was the first time were actually WERE friends, and that stayin friends was basically what we were doing anyway, just without the option or glimmer of hope of sex.

So then, I made the mistake of getting drunk with him. Just him. We did the deed, but amazingly, it hasn't been weird. It's actually almost like when we first started dating again. He calls me every night, talks to me for hours, we hang out, he invites me to stuff, mentions me to his friends, etc. There's more sexual tension between us now than there was when we were dating.

Now, part of this may be because he has got the job thing, the money thing, and the ex-wife thing pretty much figured out. So here's my first question:
1. Is this why he's acting this way towards me again?

My other problem is that I don't think he wants a long distance relationship. I live an hour and a half away when I'm in school. Question 2 is: Is there anyway I can convince him to give it a shot?

Also, just general advice would be appreciated. Thanks GCers!

[valkyrie]

1. He's acting this way because he wants to have sex. Based on the facts give here, I don't think you can read anything else into it.

2. No. At least not yet. You should probably just be chill and enjoy whatever this is for what it is. If you start saying you want more after all the drama, he's going to freak. EVENTUALLY, like say after a few months, if you're still hooking up and having fun, then MAYBE you could have a "yo dude, where we at?" conversation.

[winneythepooh7]

This is just me but it seems like there is too much drama and baggage involved with this guy. I am taking a guess that you are still pretty young since you mentioned school. I say have fun with this but don't expect too much. I also tend to think he is in for the sex thing too. Guys tend to stick around for that if they know it is pretty much a given.

[omegamcgee]

Thanks so much! I'm kinda thinkin that's why he's being like this to me now, the whole sex thing. We still hang out and stuff, and I value his friendship, but I'm not gonna let him play me.

And yeah, I'm only 20, and there has been SO much drama in the past 6 years between us. Thanks again!

[cashmoney]

He's just acting this way for the sex.

[AchtungBaby80]

I got to the part about the ex-wife and almost stopped there, because you really don't want to mess with a guy who has an ex-wife when you're this young. It's just too much trouble. Experience has taught me that the number-one rule is to stay away from guys with crazy exes, and it's never let me down.

[Optimist Prime]

play it cool, that will make him hot
also...you should try to take turns calling if you talk every day...how often do you sex him vs. times he calls?

[Optimist Prime]

if its close to a 1:1 ratio he wants only to release the BLM