I need some advice!!! Please help!

[D-Vine]

All this week I have been taking care of a project for my job at an off sight location. I work with one of my line sisters, (lets call her Lisa) and yesterday as we were heading out to lunch she spotted one of our sorors, (lets call her Monica) having lunch with a man she, (Lisa) thought to be a "tender loin" (please don't ask where she got that name from). As we took the elevator down to the first floor I began to feel strange as if something funky has about to go down. I saw our soror kissing this man full in the mouth when we got off the elevator. The man was walking away from her in the opposite direction we were headed. Lisa and I jumped and yelped in the usual greeting, and at that point Monica began to call out to the man, (lets call him David) when the David turned around, I damn near hit the floor, it was my sisters husband. He looked at me like "What the hell....." I almost died when Monica told us they were expecting a child in April. David excused himself with some bull sh*t line about needing to get back to the office. I had no idea what to say, I was shocked and pisssssssssssssed off. My sister just had a baby 2 months ago, and they have been married for almost 4 years. The rest of the day I was distant and Lisa picked at me to find out what was wrong. I went home and cried, because I have no idea what to do. This morning the first thing I asked Lisa was what happened to us yesterday when we went out to lunch, hell, I needed to make sure this was not some kind of crazy dream. Lisa's answer was "we saw Monica and her baby daddy downstairs" I AM LOST AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I thought this type of crap only happened on TV, I guess I was wrong. When I saw stuff like this on TV I always said I would go upside the guys head, or kick him in the (you know), but I did nothing like that, I just stood there like a stupid *ss and looked. Why did this have to happen to me? HELP!!!!!

[This message has been edited by D-Vine (edited November 02, 2000).]

[mgdzkm433]

There's only one thing for you TO do. Your sister will be devastated, but you can't keep this kind of thing secret from her. This is her husband! One thing that might happen, he might end up telling her himself, knowing that you know now. I think it's best that if he hasn't already told her, you need to tell her in person. This is something she needs to know. Yes, your sorority sister is important, but your sister is blood. Blood is thicker than water. I would be sure to tell your sorority sister as well. He shouldn't have your sorority sister to fall back on, and if she doesn't know he's married, she needs to know--another secret that can't be kept. Two women you love are going to be hurt, but it's better for them to be hurt now than down the road.

[fiction]

Your response was understandable. It was no need to cause a scene. Tell your sister the truth, and more importantly, support her decision. If she remains in the relationship, let it go. You have to tell her.

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