What do you think?

[Highm8ness1]

What do you think about telling friends or people you are cool with that their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse is cheating with someone else? I have an associate who makes it her business to tell people their mate is not being faithful. The other day, she called an associate of ours to find out where her man was. The associate stated that he went to the store. The nosy associate told her that he was not at the store he was in the apartment complex by the entrance with another female. She called him a few times, but the phone went to voicemail. After that of course, she wanted to see for herself. When she saw them, she asked to be taken back home. The nosy associate then calls another associate of ours that live in the unit where he and the other girl was, You know what they did. They called his girlfriend and was telling her everything that he and the girl did. So about twenty to thirty minutes later he comes showing up back home. They got into a fight. Now the two associates are mad at one another because the dude states since she was trying to tell on him, why didn't she tell her that they went to the hotel the previous weekend. I don't know how true that is because she denied it. What do you all think? Would you have told your friend?

[SKEEphistAKAte]

I'm about the story. Too many "associates".

[RedefinedDiva]

Let me try to clarify for Soror Skee (if I even understand for myself): *Names will be substituted in place of "associates"*

Kizzy likes to tell people that their man is cheating. The other day, Kizzy called Sydney and told her that George was cheating on her. Sydney said "No, not my man. He's at the store." Kizzy proceeded to tell Sydney that George was NOT at the store; instead he was with another female. Sydney called George, but he wouldn't answer. Of course, this prompted Sydney to want to see what was really going on. She saw George and the other woman. Kizzy then calls Tyquan, who lives in the unit with the other woman. Tyquan tells Kizzy that George was over getting busy. Tyquan and Kizzy then called Sydney and told her that her man was doing the humpity-bumpity with the other woman. George eventually strolls on home and he and Sydney get into a fight. George is wondering why Kizzy is telling about him and the other woman, when in fact, he and Kizzy were at the no-tell motel just last weekend. Now Kizzy and Sydney have beef.

To answer your question, High, it's all some kindergarten kind of foolishness. Regardless of how it goes, "Sydney" will still be with her man, as I suppose she still is. What is the point that "Kizzy" was trying to prove? She needs to mind her business. If y'all are just "associates" and not genuine FRIENDS, why should she care what her man does?

[TonyB06]

I'm with Skee. I thought it was a bad pilot for a new UPN show.

....but Redefined Diva, I gotta give you props for "humpity-bumpity." <---that right there was funny.

[Highm8ness1]

RedefinedDiva, thanks for clearing it up. That's exactly what I said. I know what the dude was doing, and I felt why should I get in the mix with it. I felt it wasn't my place. Like the ol' folks used to say, what's done in the dark will come to the light. She asked me if I knew about it. I told her don't ask me anything. Ask your man. Shoot, I got my own relationship to think about. I believed I did the right thing.

[BlueReign]

I think you did the right thing too.