To the members from the interested masses

M_I_N_K · #1 07-15-2001, 02:23 AM

I just wanted to know how those members of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, INC. took it when young men that show real interest come to them with a question that they may have. I notice sometimes that they seem to think they have to intimidate a person with interest vs. being like a brother to them and helping them with whatever they can. I'm not saying spoon-feed, but rather point in the right direction. Remember: you were once where these young men are. Peace.

Kasm Y2K · #2 07-21-2001, 02:49 AM

First let me say that when anyone comes to me with inquiries I usually respond accordingly. What GDI's don't tend to realize is that we have lives and we are often busy, so they might catch us at a bad time; in that case they should wait for a better one. Also let me correst you by saying that prospects are not my brothers, my brother are believers in christ Jesus and in Kappa Alpha Psi. I know what you mean, but we must be careful as to who we call friend and who we call and foe.
Thirdly, I don't need to be reminded on where I began. I know how I was before I crossed, and to assume that I was at the level of those who aspire to join my fraternity now, would be inconsistent and irrelevant, for I am a member and the fact of the matter is that we can't tell them any more than what is on our site. I have found when people make points a such they really are saying that we are "stuck-up" however, if you didn't know I will inform you that it was much harder to even become a prospect in the 50's and 60's. Now people want to be pampered and begged, that wont get you into Kappa only humility and tenacity.
Let us remember that having an interest is not the problem but expecting a hand out is.

Yours in Better Understanding

Kasm #2
Mu Theta Chapter
Francis Marion University

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M_I_N_K · #3 07-21-2001, 04:29 AM

I think you may have misunderstood what I was saying- when I said like a brother- I meant coming at someone with the same respect that you would want to have and not as an enemy i.e. talking bad to peeps, cussing @ them, placing threats on them... I've seen it done more than once. As far as having a life and so on, that's not in reference to what I was talking to. As far as me saying that you were once in the same position that these other young men are, I have noticed that often time, peeps in greek organizations don't care to realize that the peeps that may show interest in their org. are men also. And just as you are a man and want your respect- so do those that are interested. The 2 of you are men, you just take part in something that they wish to also. And if one of these peeps ( since you don't care for them being like your brother) asks you something that is too esoteric for you to answer, why not just tell them that you can't tell them anything more than what is on a website? All I am saying is that we as a people need to learn to be more uplifting and less down-trodden on eachother. Peace.

unknownflava · #4 07-27-2001, 03:36 PM

Actually, M_I_N_K, no disrespect but he didn't misunderstand you. If you read his reply carefully he stated that he knew what you meant but just be careful how you refer to people and also HIS definition of a brother.

unknownflava · #5 07-27-2001, 03:37 PM

Actually, M_I_N_K, no disrespect but he didn't misunderstand you. If you read his reply carefully he stated that he knew what you meant but just be careful how you refer to people and also HIS definition of a brother.

Kasm Y2K · #6 07-27-2001, 05:52 PM

Unknownflava,

Exactly, thanks and you are right I do understand and that was my definition of brotherhood in the sense that this forum is relevant(greek wise).

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Originally posted by unknownflava:
Actually, M_I_N_K, no disrespect but he didn't misunderstand you. If you read his reply carefully he stated that he knew what you meant but just be careful how you refer to people and also HIS definition of a brother.

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M_I_N_K · #7 08-15-2001, 01:51 AM

Well maybe my definition is different from yours- I am a minister and in the CHRISTIAN faith- those who men who are also Christians are known as brothers and we as brothers aide one another whenever possible. If you are a Christian, then you know that I am right and you know what I am talking about.

Kasm Y2K · #8 08-16-2001, 10:40 PM

Yea i know what you are talking about, but all too often true, all are not saved and believe that Jesus Christ is their personal savior Greek or non Greek, therefore that was my point exactly; we must be careful as to whom we call what- Greek or Christian. Besides I know what you are talking about, and it is often an egocentric feel to the world of greekdom, however that is how it is. If it should or should not be that way, is up or debate, but the fact remains if you (meaning everyone in general) want to join such organizations then you have to go through things like that sometimes and that is not up for debate.

Kasm

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