Is this healthy?

[Dionysus]

Ok, I know it’s not. I need help in weighing the benefits and risks.

I just want to know what are the consequences of letting go of certain friendships* and NOT letting go of them.

*Most of the people I’ve been hanging out within the last year and a half I’ve grown to dislike. We’re not close friends, but we’re closer than associates. We hang out with each other often, but these aren’t the people who I share my “life’s secrets” with. Some has also grown to dislike me. But for some reason we still hang out with each other. What sucks more is that the few I do like, I would love to take our friendship to another level. But that’s just not happening. I’m tempted to just drop these people. However, I’m scared to drop them. I’m no longer a full-time student nor do I have a full time job. Church? Meh…I’m just turned off from church and the people from there. So, I don’t think I will have many more oppurtunities to make new ones.

So I guess the question…is it better keep friends you don’t really care for or drop them and risk being more lonely until I find new ones?

[sageofages]

Sounds to me a little bit like you are afraid of being alone, getting to know yourself in the "discomfort of quiet" (as the Iowa Teacher of the Year calls it). I think it is pretty unhealthy and perhaps a bit self flagellating to hang out with people you don't like. What kind of benefit do you get from martyring yourself for a relationship that is positive?

WHAT IS THE POINT? Life is just too short and the world is full of good people worthy of being friends with....go find them!