Crazy Ex Stories

EPTriSigma · #1 12-20-2004, 05:10 PM

One of my ex boyfriends, from back home, drove down to my school (a five hour drive) to yell at me after going on my first date since breaking up with him (this was a two months after we had broken up and we had only dated for like two months). Then he somehow found out where the guy lived and harassed him. Needless to say there was not a second date. I ended up having to call campus security to get him escorted of campus then pressed charges. He was majorly creapy.

I found out later on that he had gone under my aim and email accounts and was talking to my friends as if he were me to keep tabs on me. SCARY STUFF I TELL YOU

James · #2 12-20-2004, 05:20 PM

When you broke up with him did you observe the no-contact rule? Or were you still trying to be friends?

EPTriSigma · #3 12-20-2004, 05:22 PM

Oh I wanted to be friends with him at first. He was a real quality guy.... just not for me. I tried to tell him that. I guess he just didn't get it.

WVU alpha phi · #4 12-20-2004, 06:44 PM

I have a habit of attracting the crazies and I've even joked with my friends that if theres a crazy guy within 50 miles, he'll find me. But my first serious boyfriend was the worst. We dated for a little over a year in high school and when I broke up with him he did NOT take it well. He carved my initials into his ankle (I've seen it since, it's really faded but still visible), ripped up every picture of the 2 of us and threw them all over my driveway, and brought some of his girl friends from private school to my house and my high school's football game to beat me up (which they never did, thank god!). It got so bad that my mom called his mom to say if he didn't leave me alone, we'd get a restraining order against him. And all his mom said was, "Well she really hurt his feelings when they broke up." like that made everything he did OK! He's since apologized for it, about 3 years down the road.

CUGreekgirl · #5 12-20-2004, 11:18 PM

Hmmm... i Have no crazy ex stories... maybe b/c I'm always the crazy one!

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #6 12-21-2004, 08:44 AM

I had an ex call me, hysterical, right after our breakup. He was driving around in his little green Honda Civic threatening suicide. He said he was calling everyone he knew, "to say goodbye."

I called his fraternity brothers, his blood brother, and an ambulance -- all the good that did, since he didn't reappear for a day or two!

He didn't bother calling anyone to say he was OK and hadn't gone through with the deed. I don't know if I was more scared that he was threatening suicide or more angry, because it just seemed like one more move in a very manipulative game he was playing... he'd said scary things before about what he'd do if we broke up, but it was such a draining relationship (obviously!) that I had to do SOMETHING.....

I never did hear the whole story about what he did that night, but I cut off ALL contact with him after that incident. I can understand the end of an 11 month relationship might unnerve some people, but threatening suicide was going a little far. I suggested, as gently as I could, that he might want to seek outside help, and that I thought our attempt at "friendship" was making things worse for him.

Of course, then he post-stalked me on GC for awhile -- he'd leave scary messages on my phone almost a year later if he saw me post something about "I met a really cute guy tonight...." or even "went out with the girls from my pledge class last Thursday, we had the best time...." I ended up changing my phone number, email, everything.

Now he's dating a younger girl in my sorority. The best part? She's really mad -- a girl younger than HER is dating her former exboyfriend (who's in the same fraternity as the suicide threatener.) The younger girl is a friend's great-grand-little, which is how I heard about it -- what else could I do but laugh?!

orchid2 · #7 01-02-2005, 03:59 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
Now he's dating a younger girl in my sorority. The best part? She's really mad -- a girl younger than HER is dating her former exboyfriend (who's in the same fraternity as the suicide threatener.) The younger girl is a friend's great-grand-little, which is how I heard about it -- what else could I do but laugh?!

Eek... in my chapter we are to "ask permission" from any sister who has ever previously dated or been seriously involved with a boy we are thinking about dating... no matter how long ago it was... just common courtesy!

Personally I like the idea because it keeps the sisterhood stronger and helps prevent a lot of drama... i.e., friendships that get torn apart by, well, boys

James · #8 01-02-2005, 04:15 PM

What if the person says. . . no, you can't date the boy?

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Originally posted by orchid2
Eek... in my chapter we are to "ask permission" from any sister who has ever previously dated or been seriously involved with a boy we are thinking about dating... no matter how long ago it was... just common courtesy!

Personally I like the idea because it keeps the sisterhood stronger and helps prevent a lot of drama... i.e., friendships that get torn apart by, well, boys

PM_Mama00 · #9 01-02-2005, 09:04 PM

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Originally posted by orchid2
Eek... in my chapter we are to "ask permission" from any sister who has ever previously dated or been seriously involved with a boy we are thinking about dating... no matter how long ago it was... just common courtesy!

Personally I like the idea because it keeps the sisterhood stronger and helps prevent a lot of drama... i.e., friendships that get torn apart by, well, boys

Is this a national rule? Cuz we have it too!

It doesn't prevent drama in the chapter tho. Girls will always fight over boys whatever the rules are.

orchid2 · #10 01-02-2005, 09:30 PM

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Originally posted by James
What if the person says. . . no, you can't date the boy?

James, I'm sure that's happened before, and the girls are *supposed* to respect that sister's wishes... Or else, maybe they could go behind your back and date him anyway and cause a ton of drama. I have a guy friend who says "Girls will be girls, and if they want to date them they will do it anyway." Whatever the case, I'm glad I never really had to deal with it firsthand.

PM_Mama00, I really dont' know if it's a national rule... Some girls have actually asked about this during rush. Point of interest... I'm almost positive AOII at my school has the same rule.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #11 01-03-2005, 01:11 PM

It's not a national rule. Just good sisterhood.

LauGh A Lot · #12 01-03-2005, 04:35 PM

omgg i was going out w/ this guy for like 6 months.. on and off. we probably broke up once every month (always me) and every time i broke it off he would threaten to kill himself. i think the only reason i kept taking him back was b/c i was really afraid he would go through with it. he was a psycho.

i also had this other boyfriend for like 4 months.. it was more of a summer love. so when school started we both went our seperate ways. anyways, we obviously weren't as close as we used to be (we were in different states) and i ended it b/c i didn't want to do the whole long distance thing anymore. well, it turns out that he cut his wrists after i broke up w/ him and had to go to the hospital. his mom later called me and tried to talk me into getting back together with him b/c she was afraid he would do it again. it was a huge mess, but i didn't (get back together w/ him.. i learned from the previous guy mentioned above). instead, i suggested for him to get professional help. well to make things worse he was my best friend's cousin and now she hates me as well as the rest of her family b/c "i almost killed him."

aephi alum · #13 01-03-2005, 06:29 PM

I have a theory that everyone has to have had at least one crazy ex in their dating history, so that when the right person comes along, they can truly appreciate them.

My crazy ex threatened suicide at one point when we were dating. I talked him out of it. (Honestly, in retrospect, I think he was doing it for attention, not out of any real intent to commit suicide.) Then, a couple of weeks later, he dumped me by IM.

My husband's crazy ex is a piece of work. She thinks I stole her boyfriend even though he dumped her a year and a half before we started dating. She was also obsessed with wanting to be in my sorority (did I mention how glad I am she's not my sister??) I've posted about her here and elsewhere.

On another note... we never formally had a rule about asking permission before dating a sister's ex, but that's just the right thing to do - sisters before misters, and all that. One fraternity I know of did have that rule, and permission was very seldom granted - I know of a few women, including a couple of my sisters, who couldn't date someone in that fraternity because they'd dated someone else in the fraternity and the ex wouldn't give permission.

ShyViolet · #14 01-04-2005, 03:59 PM

So this was many years ago - my first "boyfriend". Things started out fine, he asked me to some cheesy high-school dance. He seemed relatively normal, a little gawky and strange like a lot of young guys, but nothing extremely abnormal.

After a few months though, he asked me which way my bedroom window faced.

Needless to say, I was highly creeped out and decided that breaking contact was the best route to take. So I did, and he'd hide around corners looking for my friends in case I was with them. His family moved soon after and I didn't have to worry about it anymore. Whew.

FHwku · #15 01-05-2005, 06:59 AM

Michelle was crazy-possessive/clingy/needy. Before Thanksgiving, we were at a party and I didn't pay attention to her for a minute...so she left. Happened a couple times before, but I hadn't given it any though. The more pyscho traits she revealed, the more I pulled out, little-by-little. i barely even KNEW her when she said I L U. when i "broke up" with her, it took TWO DAMN WEEKS. an 1/8 of our relationship was the breakup. She didn't acknowledge the break up, because we could just work it out. we just needed to think it over. a little time apart. her:"You can't break up with me." WHAT?! she still drunk dials me every couple weeks.
worst thing: i learned nothing from it. i still have no idea how to identify the different crazies.

Has anyone broken up with someone who just wouldn't acknowledge? made me feel crazy.

She had stories about her crazy ex's. Is crazy contagious?